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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for over a year. Due to some things that have happened in 2012 (stress, people like our parents interfering, jobs, deaths in my family, and life in general), he has decided that we are going to take a break, that he needed space and time to get all his ducks in a row. He states that it would only be a few months at the very most. He isn't the kind of guy that goes around talking to other girls, and he has no girls even close to being in his plan. He honestly wants things to work out and us to have a better relationship. We are a Christian couple, and believe that anything can happen by the grace of God. This is very hard on me, as I know it is him. He is a very straight-forward person, so if he wanted to break up permanently, he would've done so in the first place. He feels like that if we don't talk (little to none) while we are on this break, we will grow stronger and learn how to deal with all curve-balls that life throws at us, things, people, stress, and jobs. My grandmother, is a very wise woman, and says herself that things will work out. We will get back together and have a better relationship, a changed couple. He and I just need space to learn how to deal with life and all. Others that I've talked to say that we can work this out, especially since we want things to. However, someone in my life (not mentioning names) has said, "You don't know, maybe in the next few months he'll think he's happier without you and not want you back." I believe this person is just "running their mouth" and being negative like always, and plus since he wants things to work out and wants to be back together within the next few months, than he wouldn't be happier without me. Someone I know has phoned him, and said that he was very sad and sounded like he had been crying. Dear Cupid, give me some positive advice!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 December 2012):
 Based on your age you should listen to your grandmother...
things will work out the way they are supposed to.
you are quite young and have many many relationships ahead of you...
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 December 2012): Tisha-1,
I will be 16 in a month and he is 17. I almost wonder if it has to do with me waiting until I turn 16, so that way we can go out and do things on our own without needing our parents to drive us around. (Due to me not being 16 yet.) He has no girls in mind and isn't going to talk to other girls on this break, because he wants things to work out and for us to learn how to deal with things. After all, you can't change people who interfere, you just learn how to deal with them. I believe that since both of us want things to work out, than they will. He suggests that I go spend time with my friends, like he is going to do. But its Christmas time...my friends are doing things with their families this weekend and such. Just say a prayer that we both work things out, learn how to deal with people, and have a better relationship.
-The "Taking a break, help?" person
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (21 December 2012):
 Your age shows as 13-15, is that correct? It matters a bit, if you were 30-35 and posted this question, I'd have a different answer.
Sorry to hear about your losses. It happens at any age, no one is immune, as you know.
I would suggest that you listen to your grandmother. Take the space, the break, as a respite from expectations that perhaps are a bit too onerous for him right now.
I think at age 13-15, it's a lot to expect that the two of you have found your lif partner.
Take the relationship break as positive, not a negative. It means you can continue your own personal growth goals without having to account to anyone for your time. That's a gift, by the way, even if you may not realize it. Take that gift and put it to good use!
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