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writes:am 17 and on saturday am going to my first ever date this guy is older than me his 22 and we going to the cinema. he wants to kiss me and I have never kissed a guy before (any advice will be appreciated) I dont know what to do especially with toungs. and am not sure if I really want to kiss him what if I dont like the whole saliva. Am so scarred please please any advice will help ASAP Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (15 December 2012):
 Am I the ONLY one who is concerned that a 17 yr old inexperienced girl is going out with a man 5 years older who probably is experienced.
"he wants to kiss me"
IF the OP KNOWS he wants to kiss her that means they have TALKED about this and I am concerned he's grooming her for something....
OP if you don't WANT to kiss him DO NOT KISS HIM.
DO NOT let him force you, bully you or in any other way convince you that "it's what you do on a date" or "all the girls do it"
YOU stay within your comfort zone...
Don't worry about tongues on a first date... a light kiss just lips is plenty.... NO MAKING OUT IN THE CAR!
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reader, orangeswild123 +, writes (15 December 2012):
 Kiss him when you're ready! I'm 20 and I know how you feel! My first kiss was when I was 13 and it was a peck. From 13 until my age now I had no other kisses. So when I stryed dating this guy it was new for me as well. It comes naturally :) again making out I thought I would be grossed out by it! It's actually really amazing. So don't do everything at once! You can even just kiss him on the cheek until your ready. That guy I dated took the lead and I just followed him
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reader, person12345 +, writes (15 December 2012):
 The first kiss is always scary, but that's part of the reason it's so fun! Lots of butterflies. You should just follow his lead at first. Don't try to eat or lick his face and you will do fine! I guess the only tip I have is to not open your mouth too wide and I agree completely with Tisha's comments.
And definitely make sure to let him know it's your first and feel free to say no if you're not ready. Don't do it because you think he wants to, do because you want to.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 December 2012):
 Does he know this is your first date and your first kiss? I hope so.
If not, be sure to tell him and don't worry too much about the mechanics.
Kissing is lovely.
For your first kiss, tell him you don't want tongues.
Just close your eyes and very slightly relax your lips, don't press them tightly together. As you press your lips against his, your lips will figure out what to do. Don't overthink this.
What have your friends told you about kissing? And I know my mom was a great resource for date info. Lame as that sounds. I could ask her about this. Any reason you haven't talked to your mom about this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (14 December 2012):
 Everybody is scared when it comes to there first kiss, but believe me you will do what comes naturally to you. However do not feel like you have to kiss him just because he wants to. If you are not comfortable or if you do not find him attractive that way then you can always say no. So please do not forget that.
Really nobody can teach you how to kiss, everyone is different and kiss differently, if you feel like you would like to kiss him and get close to him, the take it slow. Start with a peck on the lips and if you feel confident then allow him to take the lead and just mirror what he is doing. Everyone has to start somewhere. Yes you will be nervous but try and relax as much as you can and just enjoy the date.
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