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writes:My beloved bisexual girlfriend proposed a threesome with a girl (or hooker) of our choice, and i told her that i used to have a wild side in the past, but not anymore, and she keeps mentioning that she wishes she met me back then, which makes it clear that she would like a threesome try-out... I love my girl, and I am pretty sure that the feeling is mutual. A side of me doesn't mind it at all, but the dominant side thinks it could affect our relationship if it were to ever happen. How should I think or react, and what to do? She knows that I am uncomfortable with the idea for that reason, and she respects that. But I am still worried that her attraction to girls might manifest over her later in the upcoming years, if I didn't fulfill that fantasy of hers...
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 I'm bisexual. I miss girls. I think about my past girl play and miss it... BUT I am married and I think that monogamy goes both ways.
Just because my desire for sex is with people of the same sex as me does not mean it's right. It's still not being monogamous...
Would you even be considering it if she wanted a 3some with some random guy?
why is it ok to even consider it just because it's another girl?
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (23 February 2013):
 I agree with treeoflife.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2013): If you're not 100% into it then it will ruin your relationship, so don't do it.
If she tells you she can't be in a relationship with you if you won't have one with her morally you should walk away, but I'd go ahead, have the threesome and dump her straight after, maybe even spend all my time on the other girl while she's there.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 February 2013):
 An attraction to other men might manifest in a heterosexual woman over the the upcoming years. Being bisexual doesn't mean you have a license to cheat. It just means you are attracted to people of either gender.
If she feels a part of her sexuality is missing if she doesn't have sex with a woman, then perhaps she should seek out an open relationship.
I'd let her know your boundaries and then life your life. If she has any integrity, she'll let you know if your limits and hers are compatible.
If you're not good with a threesome, don't have one. I think they're a bad idea in a situation where you don't fully trust her motives and her sexuality.
There's a reason they are called 'fantasies.' They are best left in the realm of the imagination.
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reader, TreeOfLife +, writes (22 February 2013):
 Here's what I would do. Have the damn threesomes, because you may lose her anyways. And then really enjoy yourself...but after the threesome when you are both alone...talk about it...and how you feel how it could impact your relationship.
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