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writes:What is the biggest age gap relationship you have known of? I am 26 years old and massively attracted to a 45 year old man. I can't help it it's getting me down, my family wouldn't approve. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2013): Nothing wrong with the age difference, now. Imagine in 20 years time how things will have changed, if you last that long. Gravity works without exceptions. Your family would not approve? What about you yourself? Imagine someone taking your dad when you were 17. Planning on leaving his wife? Yeah, when he met you! Please wake up! Young guys can be hard work, he has been "around the block". But then, if you are looking for a father figure? As someone said, go for it.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (16 March 2013):
 LOL ! and what would he put in your opinion , to pull women, and younger gitls, on a dating site ? " My marriage is OK, no burning passion maybe, but anyway I would never dream of leaving her and breaking my family, but I've got this sexual itch to scartch and this ego to stroke, so please contact me ? ".
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (16 March 2013):
 The age gap is the LEAST of your problems.
He's MARRIED. I'm betting his wife does not know they are unhappy. My EX husband used to do that all the time... tell girls he was married but we were not happy. It was a lie.
He's PLANNING to leave his wife. I'm Planning to retire. In about 23 years. My point is you can PLAN things all you want but until you actually do them, they aren't reality.
If you TRULY like this guy and TRULY want to attempt a relationship with him, do not get involved until he is OUT of his Marital home and divorced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): Well it kind of is just a fantasy i met him on the net. Never seen him in person, it said on his profile unhappily married.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (16 March 2013):
 Definitely wait until he is divorced and not living in the marital home any longer before starting a relationship with him. There are hundreds if not thousands of stories from the women who are waiting for their married man to leave his wife… it's just not a smart bet.
Worry about the age gap AFTER he's left his wife, filed papers and worked through the separation all the way to divorce.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): "he is unhappily married" you know this for a fact? you have been in their home and witnessed arguments, and such? just because he says this does not make it so. married people lie to get what they want. i think you should ask the wife if she knows that she is in a marriage that is not happy. i thought my marriage was fine, and than he met someone and it was over. i had no idea that he was unhappy, he told me i was an awesome wife but he just could not resist being with her. dont destroy a marriage if he is unhappy let him get out of it do not persue him or talk to him. this is a decisson he has to make without any outside distractions. if he is unhappy he will leave her because of him not because of you. but make sure you are ready to committ to this relationship if it happens, and know that he will most likely pass away before you, and you will be left to start all over again. at least you will probably be younger than his poor wife, who will be heart broken and trying to start over again. think before you leap.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 March 2013): His son is 17, he is unhappily married and planning on leaving her not for me just in general.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (16 March 2013):
doesn't matter the biggest gap I know. it has no bearing ON YOU or YOUR relationship.
you are a grown woman at 26.... he is 19 years older... has he expressed an interest or do you have a mad unrequited crush?
You do not have to nor should you live your life to please your parents.
do you want a SERIOUS relationship? if you do, are you prepared to be a single parent when he dies way before you? or not be a parent if he does not want kids?
are you prepared to be asked what daddy wants for dinner when you go out and have to say "he's not my dad he's my husband?"
are you attracted to him because of his age or in spite of it. Most responsible older partners try to discourage the younger partner from wanting to be with them for good reasons.
My husband is 13 years younger than I am and I'm with him IN SPITE OF HIS AGE... I hate that he's so much younger. There are huge differences for us in social and physical aspects. At 53 I'm in my golden years. I have degenerative disc disease that requires constant medication and treatment and limits my ability to be active and even clean my own home. This did not get bad for me till age 51 or so. Thankfully my hubby is prepared to "push me in the wheelchair" as needed. These are important things that the younger partner in any age gap needs to consider.
does he have children? how close in age are they to you?
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reader, deaf4eva +, writes (15 March 2013):
If you like him and he likes you go for it ! see what happens cause you never know until you try whats the worst that can happen ? your family should respect your choices for a partner as your an adultjust take it slow go out on a few dates and test the water My youngest gf was 18 and i was 24 and my oldest 36 and i was 26 i learned alot and gained experience my current girlfriend is 24 and im 29 hope this helps
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 March 2013):
Is he attracted back or is this a one-sided crush?
I know of Anna Nicole Smith and J. Howard Marshall. She was 26 and he was 89, according to the wikipedia article.
There are many age gap relationships. Is he single? Is he available? Has he told you he wants to be with you?
More information would be helpful.
You can look at the current age gap questions here: http://www.dearcupid.org/category/age_differences
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (15 March 2013):
Who cares about your family? It's your happiness which counts.
The age difference doesn't have to be a problem.
Do you have any indication he's attracted to you too? And not just because of your looks?
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