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writes:I am curious to have others view on this. What is the difference between loving someone and being IN love with someone? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sweetheartxo  +, writes (20 March 2013):
I think love is a strong feeling but quite a stable one, you love your family, your new pair of shoes, ice cream etc.
I think being in love is deeper, stronger, the decider that you want to be with someone for the rest of your life, the feeling that makes you want to have children and see their features in your children, being in love makes you do crazy things and make you feel like youre inflated, love is a warm, stable feeling and usually uncoditional. I agree with other comments staying in love is probably very difficult because its very impulsive, a candle burns so brightly but one day the chances are it will go out.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (19 March 2013):
 Oh this question... this eternal question...
I love my kids.
I love my dad
I love my friends
I love my husband
I also love bacon and ice cream (although not necessarily together)
I understand what you are asking OP but it's so hard to explain it as it's going to be different for everyone.
I have a couple of girlfriends I would take a bullet for. Literally. I would defend my kids and some of my dearest friends to the death. I am not IN LOVE with them but they are crucial to my life.
I love my husband differently... more, deeper, it's all encompassing with him vs more fragemented with my friends (and ice cream) I can say NO to ice cream. I can turn my firends down for things and go weeks without contact.
A day without my husband is a lost day for me.... he's part of my existence... whereas the kids, my friends and even ice cream are on the fringes... and can be done without.
My spouse who I am in love with completes me....
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reader, Serpico +, writes (19 March 2013):
If you have to ask, it cannot be explained to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2013): I don't know. It is not as cut and dry as some might explain. Being in love with someone/something implies that you want them/desire them. Simply loving and caring for someone means you care about them regardless of whether you desire them. The former has more sexual implications than the latter. That's probably the biggest difference.
You can care about somebody that you desire. And oftentimes you desire somebody that you care about. That is why I said it is not very cut and dry.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2013): You can love your husband. But I think it's impossible to stay in love with your partner for a very long time. I think, in love, it's a short term infatuation with Another person that doesn't really lasts long. People stay ,in love, when there is still a novelty, and when habituation comes into play , this in love feeling turns into love, which means caring for your partner, and more like companionship.
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reader, llifton +, writes (19 March 2013):
 It's the physical/mental/emotional connection you share solely with that one person alone, in my opinion.That person elicits a feeling in you that you can't describe. The physiological effects at first can make you feel high and like you're bouncing on the clouds. And as time goes on, your bond grows and you can't imagine your life being complete without them. You only wish to share the intimate, daily parts of your life with them, no one else. It's literally having found your better half. The person you feel you can share your life with.
Your friendships only share perhaps a mental connection. You share good laughs and talks. But you don't want to jump their bones. You share moments of your life with them, but not your whole life with them. you don't build a family with them or feel a physical connection with them.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 March 2013):
 I love my mother, father, siblings, nieces and nephews, close friends, cousins, in-laws (most of them ;) ).I am in love with my husband.
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reader, Dear Mandy +, writes (19 March 2013):
 HI Well we LOVE our family and freinds, and we can love certain places or food etc etc but when you meet your soul mate your IN LOVE, mind body and soul, you make love, you think, breath everything that person your with. But thats just my opinion, everyone see's it differently. so thats the difference, I mean you wouldn't be INLOVE with your mum would you or dad or sibblings, you LOVE them.Mandy x
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