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writes:Okay I'm 18, and with having strict parents i sometimes feel like they don't understand me. Ever since i started dating my boyfriend i feel like he is the only one here for me. We have been together for almost a year now and we have started doing sexual stuff, from almost putting his penis all the way in and today while being on my period he went all the way in and it hurt a lot and now my thighs hurt and I'm worried my body will change and most of all i don't want to get pregnant.I heard there is a pill called plan B to eliminate the possibilities of getting pregnant and you can get it for free at a planned parenthood but I'm afraid to go. what should i do? I also want to get birth control but my parents will judge me if i get it with them. Please give me advice
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (26 April 2013):
no offense but it sounds as thought you could do with reading up on contraception so if I were you I would get myself to planned parenthood and while there ask for some booklets on contraception. please sort your contraception out before you get pregnant, doctors visits have to be confidential and you are considered an adult. take care
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 OP, you are 18 and you don't need to share with your parents your contracceptive choices, that's your private business. Anyway, you are afraid they would judge... but what the lesser evil, being judged or being pregnant ?!
Run, not walk, to your nearest planned parenthood. You need stopping right now having unprotected sex.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 April 2013):
 When my stepdaughter was 15 I took her to the gynecologist for a what is called a well woman visit. EVEN at 15 the doctor would NOT let me come in the exam room with her saying she needed to have her privacy with the doctor. Even though I was her legal guardian, I was the one who paid the bill and held the medical insurance for her, the doctor refused to discuss her conversation with me. HIPPA laws here are very strict.
YOU are 18. You are a legal adult. Any contact of his penis into your vagina (even the tip and even during your period) could potentially get you pregnant.
You have been given great advice. Even if your health insurance is from one of your parents they will not be told what you are doing at the doctors and it’s NORMAL and expected that 18 year old women will see the GYN for a well woman visit.
If not find a local planned parenthood office for assistance.
good luck OP, it's hard to become an adult (and wanting to be on Birth Control is a good start) when your parents want to keep you their child.
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Being 18, you don't actually have to tell your parents about anything you do. But you should probably hold off on the sex for a while until you know what's what because some of the things you say sound worryingly ignorant and I don't think you sound emotionally ready for it. Plan B is something you can use in an emergency up to 3 days after unprotected sex to stop a potential pregnancy happening. It's not a preventative measure and shouldn't be taken lightly. If you decide to have sex, use a condom every time to protect yourself from pregnancy and disease. Even if someone looks 'clean', they could have something. Take control of your life. If you're not ready to have sex, tell your boyfriend and don't let him pressure you into anything. If you are ready, go to a doctor and get a prescription for birth control, and use condoms every time. Don't end up a statistic.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Okay, you are 18 and living in the US. See your doctor, if you are in the cadre of people who cannot afford medical insurance or medical care, go to plannedparenthood.org to find a low cost clinic near you.
Your body does not change because you had intercourse. Your body changes if you get pregnant or gain weight, but otherwise, you will look and seem just as you were before you were sexually active.
I don't know where you had sex education but who ever provided it did a really crappy job. Unless you weren't paying attention?
Plan B is emergency contraception. It does not eliminate all possibilities of getting pregnant. It should only be used in cases of emergency and is not a substitute for regular birth control.
If you are afraid to go to a clinic for birth control then perhaps you aren't yet ready for sexual intimacy?
If you are 18, living in the US and sexually active already you are doing yourself a huge disservice to not own your own medical and sexual health care. Be brave, call a planned parenthood clinic or your doctor and get yourself checked out. You can discuss appropriate contraception options when you see your doctor.
As you are 18, your parents cannot be told what medical services you are seeking; it's a violation of HIPA. You are an adult, now be brave and go act like one, okay?
If you aren't ready to see a doctor, I think it's safe to say you aren't ready to be sexually active just yet.
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reader, raiders +, writes (25 April 2013):
 your 18 and your parents don't have to know if your on the pill or not.
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