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reader, The hopeless girl  +, writes (25 April 2013):
The hopeless girl is verified as being by the original poster of the question So_very_confused
Thank you that was sweet
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Dear Hopeless Girl,
you have been given great advice.... and I can't improve on it
and I know you are in pain so I wanted to leave you with a comforting song quote
"and if you wish for things that are only in the past,
just remember that the wrong things aren't supposed to last,
it's over and done
the rest is gonna come when you let it"
be strong and brave OP.
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reader, The hopeless girl +, writes (25 April 2013):
The hopeless girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTisha-1
Thank you so much I appreciate it. It sucks how things are now .. I wish they could have stayed like they were before...
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female
reader, The hopeless girl +, writes (25 April 2013):
The hopeless girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTisha-1
Omg thank you so much that sounds perfect! It sucks that he had to change and he wanted to change me :( but thank you I appreciate it!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 April 2013):
 "This isn't working for us any more. You have lost interest and want me to be 'rough.' I don't know how to do that. I've even had to resort to ask people online for help.
If what drew you to me in the first place is no longer attractive to you and you want me to pretend to be something I am not, then it is break up time for us.
Goodbye."
or if that is too much to think about and remember:
I'm sorry, this isn't working out for me any more. I wish you well, thank you for all your time and attention. Bye!"
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female
reader, The hopeless girl +, writes (25 April 2013):
The hopeless girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionTisha-1 thank you :/ I appreciate those words being said. I just am so shocked that he changed so quickly. I think it is time to let go.. I just don't know how to say it.
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female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 April 2013):
He's not a good match for you, sorry. You are soft and don't know how to be rough. Frankly, it's a ridiculous request. He should be ashamed for even saying those words to you.
I think it's time to admit that you aren't all that compatible and honestly, you deserve better. You just don't realize that yet.
I hope you do come to understand that you deserve a guy who likes you just the way you are.
Best wishes.
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female
reader, The hopeless girl +, writes (25 April 2013):
The hopeless girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionDenise32 no we never have had sex..
And yes he's lost interest in me :(
I don't know what to tell him.
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reader, The hopeless girl +, writes (25 April 2013):
The hopeless girl is verified as being by the original poster of the questionCMMP
I know it does.. I'm seeing him this Saturday and I will let him know this. I'm just so lost on what to do...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (25 April 2013):
You should never pretend to be something you're not. If your boyfriend expects you to do this and you do, he's going to be making you jump through hoops for the rest of your relationship, until he dumps you for someone who's more compatible with him.
Why don't you break up with him and find someone who likes who you are? Doesn't that make more sense?
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reader, Denise32 +, writes (25 April 2013):
 Do you mean he has lost interest in you as a girlfriend, but still wants to have sex with you?
If so, he wants nothing more than to use you for his pleasure - not good!
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