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writes:Around 3 months ago, I went to the pub for a few drinks with a few friends. One of them I had previously met before and had tried flirting with me but i wasn't interested. I ended up getting slightly drunk and he walked me home and ended up kissing me. Ever since then, he's been round every other weekend for cuddles and kisses and i've started finding him more attractive. However, he came round last weekend and since then he's been quite off with me. We text pretty much everyday but his replies have been short and hard to reply to.Any reason as to why he's being like this? Is he just busy and am i over thinking this? (i probably am, but i would just like some advice and opinions)
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (25 April 2013):
 well it could be a bunch of things
he could be busy
he could not like texting
he could be hoping you would have put out by now (given him some sort of sexual activity) and is frustrated that you have not.
if his replies are short and hard to reply to, then don't reply.
if he stops contacting you, well then the truth is he's either not that into you or he was just looking for sex.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 April 2013):
 What does "quite off" mean, exactly? Is he ignoring you or distancing himself? Maybe he is.
As we are not mind readers nor are we prescient, here are some guesses:
he met someone else
he's really busy at work
someone in his family is dying
he has a big choice to make in his life
he was cuddling/kissing another girl and she's pregnant because they did more than cuddle/kiss
his sleep has been awful and he can't concentrate
he had a bad cold/flu and is still recovering
he's simply bored with the situation
I am going to give you advice I hope you hear, at your young age.
Just because you are young and female, does not mean that you have to take bad treatment or disrespectful treatment.
If you are old enough to be out drinking then you need to be old enough to make healthy boundaries for yourself.
Cuddles and kisses are very nice until they lead to unrealized expectations, or worse, promises that are lies.
My 50 year old self would tell my 16 year old self to have fun, tell the jerks who are into it only for the sex to b****r off and to learn the difference between hoping and reality.
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reader, Got Issues +, writes (25 April 2013):
 He might be busy but writing a text takes, what, 30 seconds? If we consider the kind of games that many people play with each other when dating, especially at the beginning, I think the key is that you've started finding him more attractive. He doesn't have to try as hard anymore, so he's backing off a bit just to make sure that you really want him. By him doing this, you are questioning what's going on and it will probably make you want him more.
You could always try being short with him, or ignoring him. Then you will see whether his interest increases and you hear from him more.
Or, alternatively, you could just meet up with him and find out what the deal is.
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