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writes:About 3 days ago I was texting my boyfriend from Florida, where I was on vacation. We have been together just about a month now but fell in love immediately, he has introduced me to his family and his daughter and I as planning on having him meet my son. He texts me every morning saying he loves me and we have a great relationship, in fact we cannot get enough of each other. His daughters mother is crazy and she's always showing up places that he is at, but he hates her because she has done some horrible things. Anyhow, I told him I couldn't wait to see him Saturday and that I wanted to see him Friday when I got home at a meeting but didn't want to run into his ex and he agreed saying he doesn't need that drama. I was expecting him to tell me to come anyhow so I was mad and replied " ya there's a hockey game on Friday night anyhow so u can be with her", he replied "lol" and I said " I'm serious". Now he hasn't contacted me in three days and its killing me, could he be ignoring me because its over? I didn't think what I said was that serious and the thought of losing him is killin me!!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (22 April 2013):
 it was moving fast and you got snarky on the phone about his baby's momma... who maybe he does not want to have much to do with but he has to make nice with her and you being jealous of her is probably not worth the effort for him.
I know if my husband had been insecure and snarky about my ex that I have kids with or contact with I'm not sure I would have stayed with him.
If you said you didn't want to run into the ex and he agreed and you wanted him to say come anyway and he didn't, you took it personally that the ex means more than you do...
you over reacted and tried to get a rise out of him and when he wouldn't play the game you got mad
pick up the phone and call him and apologize for being a jerk.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 April 2013):
 Maybe his phone died, he had an accident and he's in the hospital? Why can't you just call him and ask what's happened?
You've been in Florida and presumably you are home now. Why not go over to his place and have a talk with him?
Maybe this was all moving too fast for him and he took the easy way out, which is to not deal with it and just chose to ignore you. You've only been together a month and don't know each other all that well, despite the heady 'in love' swoony feeling.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 The relationship went too fast and both of you idealized it. You have to look into your anger. You wanted to meet him but was disappointed that he didn't. When you said you were serious it sounded like it wasn't a joke, you were accusing him of spending time with her. He just got out of a relationship of drama so he got very sensitive to moody and clingy women. He could be tired, busy with his daughter. If he couldn't see you it doesn't mean he loves you less. In fact he didn't say he couldn't see you, all he said was he didn't need drama. You put words into his mouth.
I think you overreacted for nothing. At the same time this is not something to break up over, unless it happens ALL the time. With texting people often say unrestricted stuff that they regret later because it's less personal than a face to face talk. If he's using this as a break up reason, needs plenty of time for space over an argument, then you see his true personality, like he can't handle stress. It means he overreacted too. You need to slow way down and not let a minor thing trigger your fears. For you the fear of abandonment and for him, the fear of being controlled.
Wait for him to contact you again after you get space to cool down. If he doesn't, oh well, he isn't yours to begin with.
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