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writes:Hi am 27 years old and something is disturbing me when am having sex with a lady after ejaculating i still feel horny and i can continue having sex without having to rest upto the 3rd round that is when i have a refractory period or feel tired.And this has made the girlfriends i have had call me a sex adict because they cant keep up with me.What can i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 April 2013): Relationships are a giving and receiving from your partner. This can be said for sex also. After getting your rocks off work on your women and give her oral satisfaction but be gentle when you do it. You know she has different hot spots and if you don't a quick refresher course using a bing search engine will make you well informed. Maybe after giving her oral and stimulation she might be ready for another attack. I apologize for the weak comparison. Then go in and repeat the same process. But buy the good quality lubricants that come in different flavours. Ask her what flavour she likes and pick up two tubes. Be romantic get some nice smelling candles or some chocolate covered strawberries or raspberries if she likes this kind of thing. Make this a sensual experience. I am sure she wont be calling you a sex addict then. Good-luck...
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 What are you doing besides penis in vagina intercourse to keep her aroused and turned on? At some point, she will have her own orgasm (we hope you make sure she does) and just like you, she needs a rest.
You have a refractory period; so will she. Think if it that way and maybe you'll understand it from the woman's perspective.
If you just keep plugging away during intercourse and that's all you do, um, I have news for you, most women will find that tiresome and boring and not all that pleasurable after a long period of time. If she isn't lubricating, well, you will just start to chafe after a while.
Pay attention to her needs, just as you are expecting her to pay attention to your needs and things should get better.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2013): Men don't understand the sexuality of women. I'm 47, so I've got a lot of experience. If you want sex with a woman, you have to focus more on the after-play, not the fore-play. After sex, play with her hair or tickle her back. Make her feel loved. Talk to her. Do it for about 15 miuntes. Train her to want sex. She will give you as many sessions as you like, but you have to give her what she likes, too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2013): It may be a little harsh for them to call you a sex addict but I can understand why they can't keep up with you. I think a girl would think she's lucky to have a guy who can go, say, two rounds, but by the time you get to three she's probably getting sore and you might just need to think about her rather than thinking about getting off another time. There's only so much sex girls can handle at once, even if we wish it were otherwise.Perhaps come up with an alternative. Find out how long your girlfriend can last for, or how long is enjoyable to her, and go that long with her. Then perhaps you can finish yourself off another time to give her a rest or she could give you a blow job or something if she was happy with that. Good luck.
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reader, peanut_gallery +, writes (22 April 2013):
The generally accepted sequence is that after ejaculation you would be softer and after some kissing, licking etc. you would again be erect for round 2 etc.I'm simply trying to convey that you may be a bit too eager between rounds. Just because you do not lose your erection doesn't mean you can't do other things for a few minutes. Sex is about pleasing each other and not necessarily about when you feel tired. Have you tried changing positions between rounds? Have you tried kissing your girlfriend during a brief break.You just kinda sound like a crazed energizer bunny who just keeps going and going..... You can look up energizer bunny on youtube. Many women would love your stamina and desire. Add a little finesse to the presentation and implementation.
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reader, TrancedRhythmEar  +, writes (22 April 2013):
 Simple. Find a woman who can keep up.
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