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writes:Dear AllSo here it goes, I have a colleague at my work place that I truly am attracted to him and wouldn't mindbeing in a relationship with him.He lately been flirting with me sexually, his beentouching my waist when he has the opportunity and always tries to get in my way at work to touch my waist, he always seems to touch the same spot all the time, knows every movements of mine and what I like, without me even saying anything.We in the past spoken about relationships but he isn't interested as his child is his priority at this stage, his not with his girlfriend, but says If he finds somebody if it happens it will happen.He before told me when I ask about my hair and whether I look older, he saidhe wouldn't say no to me, then ask me if I knew what he meant and smiled.Yesterday he thought I was getting rude, so he saidto me don't be getting rude,my response was: We can take this outside, and his reply was: why don't we take this upstairs(meaning bedroom).I like him a lot but I am working late with HIM tmrw evening at work and I feel like something may occur between us two especially the feeling I get when I am around him,I can't resist the temptation and feel I want togive in but can't as I want this to be more than just "One Night Stand". I flirted back and said to him that I will see him tmrw and will dress up etc, so itsgoing to be abit awkward.please give me suggestions what I should do tmrw evening?thanks
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (23 April 2013):
 DO not think that being physical with him will net you anything but regrets.
He's made it clear he's not looking for a relationship but no man I know who is single will turn down free sexual activity.
Just because he's an outrageous flirt does not mean he wants anything else from you. I would have said things like he has said "let's take it upstairs" and NOT meant anything other than fun and games by it if I was teasing a friend or close work colleague.
IF you give in, I can promise you that you will be SADLY disappointed and you will be a ONE NIGHT STAND or worse, FWB with you having feelings for this guy and him saying "I TOLD YOU I DID NOT HAVE TIME FOR A RELATIONSHIP"
LISTEN to his words... he's a flirty guy who probably would not mind some fun and games with a cute young thing... and his reasoning when you say "but I thought we had something" will be "I TOLD you that I didn't have time or want a relationship"
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (22 April 2013):
 He has told you he isn't looking for a relationship. "If it happens, it happens" is code for "I'm not going to make an effort." Basically, he likes flirting with you but he's let himself off the hook for a relationship by telling you his priority is his child. He's got a free pass to flirt and by having forewarned you, your expectation of starting a relationship with him would be met by, "I TOLD you I wasn't looking for a relationship."
I see this all the time, girls refusing to believe the guy when he tells them exactly what he means.
I expect the evening in question has passed already, but I would tell you to be very cautious with him. You sound ready to throw yourself at him and he's already given you the excuse why he can't be in a relationship. He knows you like him and if he's manipulative or a user, he'll be able to put your openness and desire to his advantage.
Please be careful, this type of thing can ruin careers. Good luck.
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reader, Aphrodite8 +, writes (21 April 2013):
mixing business and pleasure is never a good idea ;) I would continue having fun flirting and unless you want awkwardness during business hours i would not "take it upstairs" by any means! Good luck! If he is truly into you - he should be a gentlemen and take you to dinner (or any other date) and be there for you!
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