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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My girlfriend defecates during sex
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my current girlfriend for over 2 years and ever since the beginning she has had a problem during sex. It doesn't matter what position we try, each time during intercourse she poos. I've asked her if she is doing i...
A. 30 May 2014: I found a more comprehensive link about this here http://www.nlm.nih.gov/medlineplus/ency/article/003135.htm
It does say that there could be injury to the anal sphincter due to childbirth. There is a checklist of tests at the end of the arti... (read in full...)
My girlfriend defecates during sex
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my current girlfriend for over 2 years and ever since the beginning she has had a problem during sex. It doesn't matter what position we try, each time during intercourse she poos. I've asked her if she is doing i...
A. 30 May 2014: When you say you had her checked by a "female doctor" does that mean a gynecologist, or a doctor who happens to be a woman? If she's having a problem with bowel control then perhaps the real issue is with her anus/colon and she should see a ... (read in full...)
I made a mistake. Now how do I choose between my pregnant wife and unborn child, and the love of my life?
Q. Between 2006 to 2009, I was dating this amazing and wonderful girl, due to the long distance of our relationship, she suggested we take a break from our relationship to finish our education, I was so hurt but I agreed. During this period, an old ...
A. 4 April 2014: Hello? Counseling?... (read in full...)
I made a mistake. Now how do I choose between my pregnant wife and unborn child, and the love of my life?
Q. Between 2006 to 2009, I was dating this amazing and wonderful girl, due to the long distance of our relationship, she suggested we take a break from our relationship to finish our education, I was so hurt but I agreed. During this period, an old ...
A. 3 April 2014: The way I would think about this situation is how you would explain yourself, standing in front of a group of people, or better yet, explaining yourself to your child when that child is an adult and mature enough to look at you through experienced ... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 3 April 2014: You can do better than this rather odd manipulative man. Red flag, red flag, red flag. You're in your 30s, you're not done with dating decent men just yet, are you? No, of course not. Chin up, smile, move on and don't listen to him anymore, he's the ... (read in full...)
How am I misreading people so much all the time?
Q. I have had too many social problems my whole life especially with women and I don't know what I'm doing wrong. Mostly I'm being friend-zoned or else I'm being led on or just teased or something. I mean, I even had this one woman I worked with who ...
A. 3 April 2014: OP, you have been having these problems for years now, and if you don't know what you are doing wrong then you are asking the wrong questions or have some expectation that life is supposed to give you x if you have y and do z.
Having said that, I th... (read in full...)
Am I only the one who only gets chances with extremely unattractive people or people with strangeness?
Q. Am I only the one who only gets chances with extremely unattractive people or people with strangeness? This has probably been asked before, I don't get it anyone I like doesn't like me back or they've done something unforgivable, yet unattractive...
A. 3 April 2014: I'm sorry, I have to point out your cognitive dissonance here: "I don't think I'm unattractive, people compliment me alot. Another strange thing I've noticed people I don't find attractive seem to give out good compliments whereas attractive people ... (read in full...)
Did my suggesting a daytime date put him off the idea? Should I cancel?
Q. After chatting online a guy asked to meet for dinner. I was happy to and we had a nice evening. We paid half each I had no problem with that. He since suggested I go to his for an eve meal. I feel this is too soon as he is an hour away to drive so ...
A. 3 April 2014: I think I would just assume he's kind of a whiny boy and move on! He's expecting you to travel to his place and then when you suggest that you do, only earlier, he gets dramatic about it.
Listen to your intuition. If he really wanted to get to know... (read in full...)
Long to do list before 29 will set me back in my love life!
Q. I'm doing my first year of uni. I've always been a little lost as to what I wanna to EXACTLY, so I've decided to just do everything. That way I'll experience all that I want then have no regrets. My interests are education, the arts, psychology, ...
A. 3 April 2014: I think you are doing a great job trying to figure out how to do all these things that are important to you. I'd put this all on your calendar. Just use a pencil, not a permanent marker.
Give yourself some latitude to change things up, because life... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 3 April 2014: "Im so scared to loose again. I found a man who is nine years younger than I am. I am divorced with one child. He never been married and no kids. However he is of another religion.
"I am afraid of loosing him because of it. A lot of elder females ... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 3 April 2014: Do you have a date set for the wedding and will it be at his church?... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has celebrity crush and it makes me uncomfortable.
Q. My boyfriend has a crush on a TV star, she has been in several movies he watched when he was a child and basically grew up with them. Everytime he sees her on TV he is sooo enthusastic, and goes 'aaaawwwww look, it's ******'. It's extremely ...
A. 1 April 2014: I'd tell him when he brings her up for the umpteenth time that he's beginning to remind you of a pimply teenage boy who is undergoing puberty and it's causing you to lose interest and attraction to him.... (read in full...)
How do I know if my feelings are genuine?
Q. I think a shy friend of mine likes me, based on all the teasing of our mutual friends. (I.e. my friends making references about me being his girl/boo, they've asked multiple times if I would ever go out with him and if I liked him, etc...) he doesnt ...
A. 1 April 2014: If you don't talk much and he avoids you, I'd say you're basing your feelings on what these mutual friends have told you. Take a look back at these previous questions of yours and see if there's something you missed:
h... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 1 April 2014: Just saw your followup. So you have a Jehovahs Witness who is indulging in heavy petting. He pushes your hand toward his crotch but doesn't want to have an erection.
This guy is a bundle of problems. Red flags are waving up and down in vast mult... (read in full...)
We've hooked up twice but have yet to make it past second base, and now I'm wondering if she's not that into me!
Q. So I'm in college as is the girl I've been very interested in for over a year. I've been working hard at getting on her good side, texting her almost every day "randomly" running into her between classes. If I had to guess it's been pretty obvious ...
A. 1 April 2014: If you really like this girl: Ask. Her. Out. In person. For real.... (read in full...)
Can a man control his arousal?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I have decided to get married before sex. This is his decision. I am divorced on my mid thirties and he is on his mid twenties and saids to be a virgin. Well turns out he's religious aswell. When we kiss and fondle heavily , ...
A. 1 April 2014: Is this your boyfriend? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/the-man-im-dating-belongs-to-a-religion.html
You honestly don't sound compatible at all. He's a virgin in his mid 20s who doesn't seem to become sexually aroused. (Though why you are grop... (read in full...)
Don't we all smell the same?
Q. Hey guys.I've got a very weird question to ask..first off,I've been friends with this UK lady for 4yrs.cyber_friendship.we've shared a lot.she recently had a baby born.and she used to tell me she doesn't bath sometimes,they I'd ask y and she'd say ...
A. 1 April 2014: Perhaps she thought you were insulting her? And so she retaliated, with that racist comment, and ended the friendship. Or perhaps she didn't like being told what to do, or disagreed with the need for douching, if that is what you mean by bathing? ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend defecates during sex
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been with my current girlfriend for over 2 years and ever since the beginning she has had a problem during sex. It doesn't matter what position we try, each time during intercourse she poos. I've asked her if she is doing i...
A. 31 March 2014: I searched online and found these links for you:
http://ehealthforum.com/health/topic90946.html
Many of those posting had irritable bowel syndrome or trouble with diarrhea, some of them had several pregnancies, some had the issue while experien... (read in full...)
How did my close friend manage to keep all this to herself?
Q. I can't understand what happened on saturday night with this girl i'm friends with, i've known her three years and never seen this side of her!! She's always been a confident, talkative and happy girl. We're on the same course at university and I...
A. 31 March 2014: Most people do not walk around over-sharing their unhappy past experiences. There are some who cannot manage to shake the 'victim' label or who have such poor self-esteem that they permanently convey their own low opinion of themselves through ... (read in full...)
Should I cancel my membership or will that make me look needy?
Q. Hi, i'm wondering what i should do. My online date and i have been hitting it off so well, over the past few mths, that now he has decided to leave the dating site where we met for good, so that he and i can pursue a possible future relation...
A. 31 March 2014: I wouldn't make any changes to anything until you two meet in person. That includes taking it to "a deeper level," No "deeper level" until there has been a face-to-face, in person, breathing the same air, in the same room, honest to goodness ... (read in full...)
He treats me like his girlfriend but then says he doesn't want a serious relationship. I'm not sure where I stand!
Q. I have been seeing a guy for 2 months now. When we first started seeing each other I asked him if he was just in it for sex as I don't want a relationship like that, and he told me no. I have also been honest with him and told him that I have had ...
A. 31 March 2014: It's time to end the sexual relationship with him. He doesn't want a serious relationship, you want to a boyfriend who acts fully like a boyfriend.
I would walk away now. Trying to talk through it won't change his position, nor will it change your... (read in full...)
I have a massive crush on my much-older, married landlord. Would it be worth it if I could sleep with him just one night?
Q. Ok I don't know where to begin here but I have a massive crush on my landlord. Like I'm not saying I want to run of to the sunset and marry him lol, but I have fantasised sleeping with him! He's older than well by 20 years but looks like fecking ...
A. 28 March 2014: He sounds creepy. One night with him would probably need more counseling than you have just now. So I'd pass on this one.... (read in full...)
How can my grandparents and I come to some consensus? My grandparents don't agree with gay marriage and parenting
Q. Hi. I'm struggling with accepting that my grandma and grandpa don't agree with gay marriage and parenting. Their reasoning is that marriage is a religious thing (though I pointed out that many non-religious people get married) and it would be unna...
A. 28 March 2014: So you are trying to figure out how to get your grandparents to 'accept' a situation that isn't actually something that you or your sister are going through.
So, you want us to work out for you the arguments but no one in your family has need for ... (read in full...)
How can my grandparents and I come to some consensus? My grandparents don't agree with gay marriage and parenting
Q. Hi. I'm struggling with accepting that my grandma and grandpa don't agree with gay marriage and parenting. Their reasoning is that marriage is a religious thing (though I pointed out that many non-religious people get married) and it would be unna...
A. 28 March 2014: I found a resource for you here http://pflag.co.uk :)... (read in full...)
How can my grandparents and I come to some consensus? My grandparents don't agree with gay marriage and parenting
Q. Hi. I'm struggling with accepting that my grandma and grandpa don't agree with gay marriage and parenting. Their reasoning is that marriage is a religious thing (though I pointed out that many non-religious people get married) and it would be unna...
A. 28 March 2014: Yes, I have an idea! You say they are your grandparents, so they are 40+ years older than you? So do a research paper on the social mores of that era, when they were coming of age.
It may help you come to understand them and find the vocabulary and ... (read in full...)
Should I have unprotected sex to please my guy?
Q. Please can you give me advice - my boyfriend and I have a great relationship, however he now wishes to make love without using condoms. I am not happy with this, as by his own admission he slept with a lot of women in the past . I just want our...
A. 27 March 2014: You're in the late 30s bracket, he's had a lot of sex partners.
He needs to do is go have a sexual health check up with his doctor.
You will have to check with your doctor about your contraceptive and safe sex needs…
Is this a safe and healthy ... (read in full...)
Condom wrapper and girl's scarf found in my boyfriend's car… I'm having trouble trusting him! Any advice?
Q. I'm having trouble trusting my boyfriend of a year and a half . I have been burned in the past (cheated on) and am a naturally suspicious person. Here's my dilemma. 1) I found a ripped open condom wrapper in my boyfriends car. Near the drivers...
A. 27 March 2014: I'd break up with him on the basis that he leaves his car unlocked in the city. That pretty much suggests he's kind of an idiot.
The other stuff, well, it doesn't sound good. I would stop having condomless sex with him (and that means bjs too) unti... (read in full...)
My wife disgusts me!
Q. Hello all! I am almost 41 years old and I have been with my wife since 2001. There are still some things that thrill me about her, but often I wonder what I ever saw in her. She is lazy, drinks too much liquor, has let her good looks go, and a...
A. 27 March 2014: I ran the symptoms you mentioned through the symptom checker app at webmd.com. http://symptoms.webmd.com/default.htm#introView There were a number of conditions that may be responsible for your wife's condition, besides the apparently obvious abuse ... (read in full...)
My wife disgusts me!
Q. Hello all! I am almost 41 years old and I have been with my wife since 2001. There are still some things that thrill me about her, but often I wonder what I ever saw in her. She is lazy, drinks too much liquor, has let her good looks go, and a...
A. 27 March 2014: Finding a therapist is a good idea but I think a better one is to take her to a good doctor. Some of the symptoms you mention sound suspiciously like early-onset Alzheimer's. If it IS depression and not a physical brain problem then there are ... (read in full...)
I want a child and can't gamble more time on dating and ending up alone. Should I have a baby with this guy even though he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. I have been sleeping with a guy from work he is 32 years old and I am 38. and it just keeps going on and on and he says that he doesn't not want a relationship and he cannot be my boyfriend yet we spend weekends together and I go to his parents for ...
A. 26 March 2014: Oh yes, I forgot to add, don't make a father out of him without his consent.
And I agree with the other aunts who suggest that you may benefit from some counseling, to find out why you are latched onto a man who won't commit and who lives with his ... (read in full...)
I want a child and can't gamble more time on dating and ending up alone. Should I have a baby with this guy even though he doesn't want a relationship?
Q. I have been sleeping with a guy from work he is 32 years old and I am 38. and it just keeps going on and on and he says that he doesn't not want a relationship and he cannot be my boyfriend yet we spend weekends together and I go to his parents for ...
A. 26 March 2014: If you want to get married and have children, then you need to end the relationship with this "loser" as you called him. It is blocking you from meeting other men who would be better choices.
If you want a baby as a single mom, go to a sperm bank... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to look at other women and come to the conclusion that some are better than my wife?
Q. Is it wrong to look at other women if you find yourself thinking they are better than your wife in some way? For example you see a woman who has long shapely legs, and you catch yourself thinking for a second she has nicer legs than your wife. I ...
A. 26 March 2014: I think Aunty Babbitt and Mr. Babbitt are correct. I think it's perfectly normal to admire beauty in the men and women we see. I don't think it's normal or healthy for your marriage to compare your wife to women who have a different body. I'm sure ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 25 March 2014: Contact his friends and his family. If you don't know how to reach them then clearly there's some disconnect here.
... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 25 March 2014: Could it be he didn't pay his phone bill?
Talk to his friends and ask if they have heard from him.... (read in full...)
Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 25 March 2014: Is there some reason you can't simply ask the girls you like out for a date? Or a coffee? Are you waiting for them to ask you out or something?... (read in full...)
I feel like he can't see past our rocky previous relationship, but I want to move forward and start a new one with him
Q. Okay, I'll apologise in advance, because this may take a while. I met my partner when we first started university back in September. We got together in November and the relationship started off okay. There were a few things I felt uneasy about th...
A. 25 March 2014: He's never hurt you? He's broken up with you a bunch of times. Seriously.
"The problem was, he didn’t want to look after me, and because he realised that, he broke up with me around mid January."
"I freaked out when he was kissing me, and he told ... (read in full...)
Is asking this question a good way to find out if girls are interested in me?
Q. I have made a habit of asking girls I like "were you waiting for me". I do this when visiting a shop, coming to work etc., to gauge their interest in me, from girls I know. I have received emphatic "no's" and I have no doubt that means no, nix, nyet ...
A. 24 March 2014: No, it's not really a good barometer.
If you are asking women who work in shops or as wait staff, remember that their tips and salary depend on ensuring a happy customer.
So let's take the example of a woman who works in cafe. She relies on tips ... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 24 March 2014: And which country is he in?... (read in full...)
I'm so worried I could not sleep .........
Q. What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried? I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up. He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I ...
A. 24 March 2014: Did you call his parents?... (read in full...)
What are the pros and cons of a long engagement?
Q. What are the pros and cons of a long engagement? I have a feeling he will propose in a few months but I am not sure what my feelings are about it. I mean I love him, and I want to marry him. But right now, we're both earning very little a...
A. 24 March 2014: What is more important to you? A picture perfect wedding or a really good marriage?... (read in full...)
Is it even normal to spend so much time with someone who you dated?
Q. I feel horrible for feeling like this but I can't stand the fact my boyfriend is still such good friends with his ex girlfriend. Is it even normal to spend so much time with someone who you dated?! We have been together for 8 months, and it w...
A. 23 March 2014: Your boyfriend's ex will be spending a weekend in a tent with him? Ah.
I might make one last attempt to salvage the relationship by skipping the work colleague's hen party and joining the camping trip. N.B. I would be sure to have an exit stra... (read in full...)
If he was really that into me would he be secretly messaging another girl?
Q. Hi everyone, I've been with my boyfriend for four years and I've never had a reason to not trust him. Recently things have been rough but we seem to of worked through it together and everything for the last month has been great. However we w...
A. 23 March 2014: If your boyfriend of 4 years is adding girls and sending messages then yeah, things aren't all that great.
If you were the one messaging guys you'd met and continuing to try to keep in contact with them, I doubt he would take that as a 'not... (read in full...)
I struggle with losing weight!
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 year old female and I'm in my second year of college at a community college. Throughout my life (and even now) I'm struggling with being very overweight. I know it's my own fault that I'm overweight but I find it really hard to lose the ...
A. 23 March 2014: Oh yes, I have a great tip for you!
It's simple and scary all at the same time.
Simple: go see your doctor.
Scary: if you don't have a doctor and have all these worried feelings about seeing one and being lectured.
I like the Lose It! app. It... (read in full...)
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added them and they have added *isha-1!
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