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writes:I think a shy friend of mine likes me, based on all the teasing of our mutual friends. (I.e. my friends making references about me being his girl/boo, they've asked multiple times if I would ever go out with him and if I liked him, etc...) he doesnt talk to me much, I think he tries to avoid me. I also have noticed that hes stared at me a few times when im not looking. I have a good feeling he likes me. Now my problem is I think I have feelings fo him, but I dont know if my feelings are genuine. All my friends have significant others, so I feel a little left out. Maybe im just settling for him since no one else has shown interest in me. Or maybe I just like that he likes me, since Ive never had a bf before. Are my feelings genuine?
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2014): It sounds like his friends are just the teasing type, trying to get him a girlfriend and maybe he made a nice remark or was daydreaming and happened to be staring at you at the time... They may just be having what they think's fun. Or maybe he did say something that genuinely showed he had some feelings from you. But even if he did like you before, his avoidance is showing that his interest has changed... I'm sorry to say that if he did like you, it's likely that as a shy guy he found your "I don't know" response to whether you would date him or not a rejection- and that can really shake people's feelings up. It can make you think of the person in a whole different way.Unfortunately you can't force anything and the worst thing to do would be to start overanalysing his avoidance... My advice is to accept That it's just not happening at the moment, and not to think too much about him, or come on to strong with him... If you have interest in him, just be as friendly, relaxed and genuine around him... You said it yourself, you know you're not mad for him, and are just feeling a bit left out maybe. See if you can be friends with him, but don't take things too personally and keep things cool. Try and focus a s best you can with anything else in your life.Good luck :) x
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (1 April 2014):
 If you don't talk much and he avoids you, I'd say you're basing your feelings on what these mutual friends have told you. Take a look back at these previous questions of yours and see if there's something you missed:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/is-my-friend-looking-for-a-certain-answer.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/hes-never-asked-for-my-number-and-doesnt.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/since-he-doesnt-like-me-how-do-i.html
At this point, reading those other posts of yours, I'd give up on this guy. Tell your friends to stop the girl/boo nonsense and find a better, more sociable and actually approachable crush.
Good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2014): Ask yourself what you like about him. I wondered the same thing about the girl I like. I would always smile and feel happy when I described her. She is beautiful, but I never focused on that because I like her for who she is. I can look at other girls, regardless of how attractive they are, and feel nothing. When I look at her, I smile. I feel something. I think to myself how great she is.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 April 2014): Your just that type of girl that is jealous , try and see what he's interested in and try to talk to him and get into more decent convos , I'm sure he feels the same way that you do , you just have to believe in yourself and be confident about yourself
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