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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I struggle with losing weight!
Q. Hi, I'm a 20 year old female and I'm in my second year of college at a community college. Throughout my life (and even now) I'm struggling with being very overweight. I know it's my own fault that I'm overweight but I find it really hard to lose the ...
A. 23 March 2014: Oh yes, I have a great tip for you!
It's simple and scary all at the same time.
Simple: go see your doctor.
Scary: if you don't have a doctor and have all these worried feelings about seeing one and being lectured.
I like the Lose It! app. It... (read in full...)
Since he doesn't like me, how do I move on?
Q. i thought a shy friend of mine liked me, but now i've come to the conclusion that it was all in my head. I only thought he liked me because of our mutual friend's teasing (i.e. making references about me being his "boo/girl", asking me multiple...
A. 23 March 2014: I think starting to distance yourself from this mutual friend would be the first step. Make sure you surround yourself with positive supportive people who like you for you.
This mutual friend sounds like he has the mental maturity of a 14 year old.... (read in full...)
Why won't he dance with me?
Q. My husband to be dance competitively in college - salsa, tango and ballroom with his ex wife for many years. We've been together 3 1/2 yrs and not once has he taken me dancing. Our wedding is this summer and I don't know how to deal with the first ...
A. 23 March 2014: "Can someone explain why he wouldn't want to dance with me but wants to marry me? Seems strange to me and I can't figure it out…"
Yes, and that someone is the love of your life, the man with whom you plan to share the rest of your life, your fian... (read in full...)
He was rude and dismissive until I resigned ...
Q. I'm feeling a little upset and annoyed over something so your advice is appreciated. My mother in law has been widowed for the past 6 years and has always been very independent. Unfortunately over the past year her health has deteriorated so ...
A. 23 March 2014: Get it in writing before you accept any such on the spur job re-offer.
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I am already pregnant. So how do my husband and I handle his parents who flipped about the pregnancy because my husband is disabled?
Q. I need some advice on how to deal with the things going on in my life at the moment. I Will tell u the back story. My husband and I were involved in an accident a few years ago and it left my husband significantly physically disabled and I'm now ...
A. 23 March 2014: What are his disabilities? Why did you need IVF? Did you use donor sperm?
Who will look after him when you are looking after the twins?
Perhaps a solid written plan will allay their fears for their son. If the whole idea of your having children... (read in full...)
I hate seeing this woman hurt and string my friend along. Is there anything I can do to help her?
Q. I need some advice. I have a friend who I am really close to. We share a lot with each other and have the type of friendship where we can speak openly. Recently she told me that she felt she could always come to me with a problem because I was ho...
A. 22 March 2014: I'd start asking her some directed open-ended questions. "Sofia, I feel like we've had this exact same conversation before, does any of this sound familiar?"
See what she says.
"Sofia, I'm sorry you are hurting yet again in this relation... (read in full...)
Should I be upset at my boyfriend for sending my friends on facebook friend request?
Q. Hello I was wondering am I being silly, jealous or insecure? Should I be upset at my boyfriend for sending my friends on facebook friend request? Is this normal? He doesn't know them and I dont see the point.But could i be harboring feelings of ...
A. 21 March 2014: Why doesn't your boyfriend know your friends?
I would ask him, "Hey, Brian, I saw that you had friended Natalie and Sara and Jessica on FB. As you haven't met them yet, I just wondered why you'd befriend them on FB?'... (read in full...)
Boyfriend angry about an incident where he thought I was cheating and its destroying our relationship
Q. Long story as short as possible. Been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. We don't live together at the moment but have been talking about it once my lease is up. A few months ago we'd started fighting and this caused him to distance himself. We ...
A. 21 March 2014: It's so hard for me to understand why someone would put with verbal abuse, lack of respect and shitty behavior.
Stop chasing him and see what happens. You already know. You are begging for abuse, I mean *attention*--the abuse, sorry, *att... (read in full...)
My boy keeps lying to me, but insists that he loves me and only me?
Q. Alright so before you tell me to just "dump his ass", actually think about this. Basically, the guy I'm with right now is the best guy ever. I love him to death. And he loves me. He does so much for me, as do his parents. Through his life, he has a...
A. 21 March 2014: You wrote you're not ready to give up on him because you have yet to receive "some advice on ways I can go about trying to further help this issue."
As you wrote, the issues are these:
Through his life, he has always liked attention. Complime... (read in full...)
How can I succeed at dating? Because I have decided to try dating, instead of visiting an escort.
Q. Some weeks ago I posted about seeing an escort as a way to experience intimacy, but several women have replied to my post. I have thought about what they said realize seeing a escort won't fix anything. Today I decide at end of my class to just to ...
A. 20 March 2014: P.S. You can talk to women who have boyfriends, you know. Just talking to them doesn't mean you are hitting on them or asking them out. They may have friends who are single.
The more people you meet and greet, the greater the chance you will meet... (read in full...)
How can I succeed at dating? Because I have decided to try dating, instead of visiting an escort.
Q. Some weeks ago I posted about seeing an escort as a way to experience intimacy, but several women have replied to my post. I have thought about what they said realize seeing a escort won't fix anything. Today I decide at end of my class to just to ...
A. 20 March 2014: Don't wonder, think, ponder, analyze, read a blog or an article, or in anyway try to figure out what to do next. Just talk, converse, smile, learn about the other person, talk, converse, smile when appropriate, listen, listen, listen and learn and ... (read in full...)
How can I succeed at dating? Because I have decided to try dating, instead of visiting an escort.
Q. Some weeks ago I posted about seeing an escort as a way to experience intimacy, but several women have replied to my post. I have thought about what they said realize seeing a escort won't fix anything. Today I decide at end of my class to just to ...
A. 20 March 2014: Stop reading articles online. Leave the house, go out, get some fresh air, go to a coffee bar or a juice bar or anyplace that has people in it. Talk to people. Women are people too.
For one month, stop reading those forums. Unplug. Exist in the real... (read in full...)
It's early days, but after just two dates - were his actions charming or creepy?
Q. Hi Agony Aunt folks I have a question , So I met this guy online we had 2 dates so far he is a cop and seems very nice a lot different form the last guy I dated I have had bad luck lately in the men department and seem to end up with abusive men so ...
A. 19 March 2014: I'd be a bit concerned about his hygiene. Heaven knows what else he has in his pockets. :P... (read in full...)
How can I succeed at dating? Because I have decided to try dating, instead of visiting an escort.
Q. Some weeks ago I posted about seeing an escort as a way to experience intimacy, but several women have replied to my post. I have thought about what they said realize seeing a escort won't fix anything. Today I decide at end of my class to just to ...
A. 19 March 2014: Too much analysis now, OP. As Yoda said, "Do or do not. There is no 'try'.
Keep on having conversations with girls, with no agenda other than to have a conversation.
And I believe I gave you a manual last time, as you'd asked for it, have you read... (read in full...)
Need tips on how to lose weight, put together healthy meals, and exercise. Advice?
Q. Hello! Basically I have struggled with my weight throughout most of my life, I have always been a bit chubby even as a child. I got really big when I was about 13/14 but managed to lose about 2 stone and ended up get...
A. 18 March 2014: You can do this!
We don't know your food preferences, so I am not going to give you specific advice there. Look for websites that talk about healthy food swaps, if you are a junk food addict. There are lots of them out there!
Youtube has bucket l... (read in full...)
I bought concert tickets in a price range I could afford but am feeling guilty now that my girlfriend wants to pay for an upgrade herself!
Q. I bought concert tickets for my gf's favorite band to surprise her, but since I'm a student, and work, money is tight for me. I could only afford the cheaper, non great seats. I wish I could afford the best seats, but they were well out of my price ...
A. 18 March 2014: Wow, if watching her favorite band live is a misery, maybe the best thing to do so spare her discomfort is to return the tickets entirely. Then you don't have to wonder any more.
As she's the one who suggested the upgrade, it's up to her to pay for ... (read in full...)
My husband had emotional affairs and I left him! What are my rights?
Q. After years of marriage I found out that my husband had emotinal affairs in the skype,chating,calling,and meetings with his ""women friends.Maybe not only emotional only. He intoduced me a woman 2 years earlier,and she started sending me thank yo...
A. 18 March 2014: You will have to see a lawyer in Argentina.
P.S. Based on my google search for 'divorce law in Argentina' I think you should move back in and make HIM leave. Do not abandon the home or it may look like you are the party abandoning the marriage... (read in full...)
I bought concert tickets in a price range I could afford but am feeling guilty now that my girlfriend wants to pay for an upgrade herself!
Q. I bought concert tickets for my gf's favorite band to surprise her, but since I'm a student, and work, money is tight for me. I could only afford the cheaper, non great seats. I wish I could afford the best seats, but they were well out of my price ...
A. 18 March 2014: Wait, is she saying you are the one who needs to shell out more money?... (read in full...)
I bought concert tickets in a price range I could afford but am feeling guilty now that my girlfriend wants to pay for an upgrade herself!
Q. I bought concert tickets for my gf's favorite band to surprise her, but since I'm a student, and work, money is tight for me. I could only afford the cheaper, non great seats. I wish I could afford the best seats, but they were well out of my price ...
A. 18 March 2014: I'm with ChiGirl. She's delighted to have the tickets and even more delighted that she is able to upgrade them so you both can experience the music closer to the stage. I'd be happy to have a chance to see one of my favorite bands, and I'd be really ... (read in full...)
I am not allowed in his best friend's house and have to sit in the car!
Q. Hello everyone I need some advice. I have been dating my boyfriend for a little over a year. And we live together. But living together isn’t the problem. The problem is his mom and his best friend don’t like me at all. I’ve met the only once and ...
A. 17 March 2014: I have a funny feeling that his best friend is also his drug dealer.... (read in full...)
What's happened to me? My desire to work has lessened, I'm less happy than I used to be, I'm not interested in the same activities I used to be.
Q. I've noticed something about myself in the last few years that I don't like. My desire to work is lessening. I can't hold a job for more than 6 months, because I just lose all interest in it. I've had a pattern for the last 3 years now: going to ...
A. 17 March 2014: You sound a lot like me a few years ago. I went to my doctor for help. I strongly urge you to see your GP and get it sorted out.
I had clinical depression, I took one medication, started yoga, walking and weight training as well as watching my nutr... (read in full...)
Would a blood test tell if she were still pregnant?
Q. this is a kind of medical question so i only really want to know if its possible. so basically in early January my sister told me she had just miscarried at 3 and half months. however since then she has yet to get her period. she also has gained ...
A. 16 March 2014: I just saw your follow up. If she didn't see her doctor and hasn't had a period in 2 months then something's changed. Time to see her doctor!... (read in full...)
Would a blood test tell if she were still pregnant?
Q. this is a kind of medical question so i only really want to know if its possible. so basically in early January my sister told me she had just miscarried at 3 and half months. however since then she has yet to get her period. she also has gained ...
A. 16 March 2014: A "general" blood test wouldn't automatically test for pregnancy. Otherwise, there would be a lot of wasted time in labs doing tests for pregnancy on males, menopausal women and other populations unlikely to become pregnant.
The question to ask is i... (read in full...)
He has a close relationship with a "distant cousin"
Q. What exactly is a 'distant cousin'? Here is my story. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year but we don't live together. Just him and his mother live together. Him and his mother have a close relationship with a woman who is a distant...
A. 14 March 2014: "Tiffany! It's so cool to see you here this weekend! I know Nick's Mom and you are close. I'm *so* embarrassed to even to have to ask, I know I missed it somewhere, doh, they say you are a cousin! I want to know all of Nick's family and I'm *so* ... (read in full...)
Has he been leading me on, and if so, what should I do now?
Q. I have been talking to a guy I really like for about 2 months now. He always texts me first every single day and calls me a lot, and we talk for hours. He has taken me on a couple dates and he says he really likes me, and he compliments me a lot. I ...
A. 13 March 2014: Just talk to him. You are making assumptions based on very limited data. You've been talking for 2 months, have gone out on dates, he hasn't promised you anything, so relax.
I think people post statuses like that because they actually want the atte... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 13 March 2014: I was right. He is a creep.
Get away from him now, good luck and be safe.... (read in full...)
Should my friend's fiance pay rent or not?
Q. Ok so my friend and i are thinking of moving in together. Her fiance stays over 5-6 dys a week. I think its fair that he contrubutes to sum of the bills but she says no. She says firstly there is no way in hell he will pay as he dont earn that much ...
A. 12 March 2014: Dude, she's looking for someone to subsidize her boyfriend. She is leaving the place she's in because he's become a problem.
P.S. If he does his own ironing, I'm impressed. Whoa, he irons his tees and his jeans? He's AMAZING. I digress.
Pass ... (read in full...)
I just can't help thinking that maybe he was more satisfied with her in the bedroom and now I'm even starting to think he may be comparing us in his head!
Q. A few nights ago my boyfriend and I were talking and just goofing around and joking etc, and we ended up talking about his past sex life with his ex. This is the ex where they lost their virginity's together and the only girl he's ever been intimate ...
A. 12 March 2014: Huge mistake. Massive mistake. You say you were goofing around and joking around and then you got into really personal details about how he enjoyed sex with his ex.
No, dear girl, no, never ever go there.
Oh dear.
So you are now feeling inse... (read in full...)
How do you get over a crush and what is the best way to do so?
Q. Hi cupid How do you get over a crush and what is the best way to do so? Can you stay friends or no contact is the rule! Staying friends doesn't mean there is hope of you being with that person any soon! So what do you guys think about it ?...
A. 12 March 2014: Unless you have an obsessive personality or other issues in which keeping contact with a crush cause you pain, I would advocate for remaining friends, especially if you share mutual friends.
Why? I had a crush on a friend and vice versa and we sort... (read in full...)
Tax credit awards. Is my dad taking all the money?
Q. I was not born in the UK I moved here when I was 8. I thought that if a child is not born in this country then they can't get child benefits or tax whatever. A letter can through today from HM revenue and customs about tax credits award wi...
A. 12 March 2014: I found a link which may be able to help you: https://www.childline.org.uk/Pages/Home.aspx
Or ring 0800 1111 and ask to speak to someone about your question. They will be better able to point you in the right direction.
Another thing you could do... (read in full...)
When I told him "no" he sent all our correspondence to my husband! Why would he do such a thing?
Q. He Was All I Ever Wanted.. Okay this is really long story I really need advice not commended for my actions or thus confession. It started 3 years ago I began work and myself and a colleague started to develop feelings but never acted on them. W...
A. 12 March 2014: Obviously the man is someone who hates being crossed. A temper problem, which he revealed early on and stalker tendencies as well. There were early indications of these personality red flags.
He was your superior at work so early on dealing with... (read in full...)
Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.
Q. I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...
A. 11 March 2014: So where you are from, if you call someone 'pussy' they know you really think they are a coward but are too polite to say that word 'coward'?... (read in full...)
A question about how men aged around 50 express emotions?
Q. Hi I have a question about the way that men - especially men aged around 50 - express their emotions. I understand that, because of social conditioning, men and women may experience very similar emotional ranges but express them differently. ...
A. 11 March 2014: A man could have problems with expressing emotions but
but
but
but
but
but
that does not give him the 'pass' to abuse someone by being a bully
a bully or
a bully
or abusive
or an abuser
….
if you are trying to explain away why he's be... (read in full...)
Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.
Q. I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...
A. 11 March 2014: So when you call someone a 'pussy' you are saying they are a coward?
Why not just use the word 'coward'? ... (read in full...)
Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.
Q. I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...
A. 11 March 2014: Isn't it interesting how a term that refers to a woman's vagina also is commonly used to denote weakness or cowardliness? ... (read in full...)
Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.
Q. I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...
A. 11 March 2014: I'm sure she's a lovely woman with a great future.
If she feels the need to blame older women for this because she had some really crappy role models then I'm sorry that she and they didn't have the best life.
Hey, did I read that you called a... (read in full...)
My girlfriend wants me to delete pictures of my ex's on Facebook... Is she overreacting or am I being unreasonable?
Q. Hi, I'm sorry to say that this problem is due to Facebook, you probably get lots of these! My girlfriend wants me to delete photos of me and my ex-girlfriends from Facebook. She doesn't seem to like the idea of them being on my page and she say...
A. 11 March 2014: Friends of mine who are life partners are not 'friends' on FB. I think they had some disagreements about posting and decided that their relationship was worth saving. Their 'save' move was to remove the source of discomfort. They unfriended each ... (read in full...)
Looking for opinions on body type and the promotion of a healthy self-image.
Q. I came across an article today and I'm fascinated in general about the latest trend of trying to promote the Average Woman. I put that in caps because I believe it's just a new label for the same problem. http:/...
A. 10 March 2014: I couldn't find in the article where the artist labeled one particular type as "perfect." What I read in the link provided was this statement by the artist: "What if fashion dolls were made using standard human body proportions? This is the question... (read in full...)
None of his friends and family like me! Should I just end the relationship?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and 2 months. Somce we've been together ive only met his mom once and his best friend once and neither one like me. His best friend and his girlfriend absolutely hate me and ive never met or talked t...
A. 9 March 2014: If all of the people closest to him hate you and have never met you, consider the source of their 'hate.'
That would be your boyfriend.
My guess is that he's hiding something from you.
I'd end the relationship. ... (read in full...)
Is it really a platonic friendship when the other person wants more?
Q. Hi maybe somebody can help me I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a very great guy and good looking. The thing that has been bothering me is he has a few female friends who are really into him. I hate to sound selfish, ...
A. 9 March 2014: Just to add: you wrote "they still continue with their behavior."
Actually HE still continues encouraging their behavior.
Are they your friends?
Is this an online thing?
More info needed, thanks!... (read in full...)
Is it really a platonic friendship when the other person wants more?
Q. Hi maybe somebody can help me I have been with my boyfriend for just over a year. He's a very great guy and good looking. The thing that has been bothering me is he has a few female friends who are really into him. I hate to sound selfish, ...
A. 9 March 2014: If he's 'getting to know' these women knowing they want him, then he's kind of an asshole. Ok. he's not kind of an asshole, he IS an asshole. Do they do this when you are with him or this some sort of online problem?
What would I do?
I'd break up... (read in full...)
I see his actions as being disrespectful of our time spent together. He sees my reaction as emotionally unstable.
Q. Guy I've been seeing for over a month won't stop texting when I'm around him! Was I out of line by the way I handled this? Is there a better way I should have handled it? I was over at his house. Literally from the time I got there until righ...
A. 7 March 2014: With all due respect to your mom, I would throw this particular fish back into the ocean.
We have a texting habit that overtakes focusing on the woman he is supposed to want to have as his girlfriend.
We have a guy who has girls sending nude pic... (read in full...)
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