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writes:I'm doing my first year of uni. I've always been a little lost as to what I wanna to EXACTLY, so I've decided to just do everything. That way I'll experience all that I want then have no regrets. My interests are education, the arts, psychology, travelling and helping others through community service. So the plan is to finish my BA Degree in Psychology, English, Linguistics and History. I then can still become a teacher if I want, but am also still open to other fields. By then I'll be 22. On my 23rd year I want to travel to South Korea and teach English. Then I want to come back and study my final dream field of Speech Language Pathology. It'll take 4 years, meaning I'll graduate at 27/28. Then there's a required year of community service which I plan to do in one of our rural provinces. So I'll basically start my first real job at 29. Is this too late? I thought by then, I'd at least be independant and all, or be married. Kids I don't want till my 30s but will I have enough time to just revel in my 20s and feel young and in love and in control and all that comes after the age of 25 for a woman? Am I overthinking it? Is there too much on my list? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2014): You can't plan your lifetime. It's just impossible. You could go to South Korea, meet the love of your life and never come back as you've started a life with them. Who knows what the future holds for you. I look back on the ideas I had for my future, I am so glad that they all changed!!!
Be happy, if you're happy then you're doing something right in life. But don't put deadlines to do this and that by certain ages. Life's never, ever that simple so just relax a bit. Enjoy your current studies, your plans may totally change by graduation. Good luck!! X
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (3 April 2014):
 I think you are doing a great job trying to figure out how to do all these things that are important to you. I'd put this all on your calendar. Just use a pencil, not a permanent marker.
Give yourself some latitude to change things up, because life will throw you some curve balls (what is that in cricket terms?)… life will not unfold in the exact way you plan.
By the way, teaching is a REAL job. So if you are doing that then you are not waiting until you are 29…. just saying.
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reader, Questing for Love +, writes (2 April 2014):
 I think planning your life so specifically is a bad idea, because if one thing gets off track then you're whole plan is basically ruined. Plus there's no guarantees in life. You might want a job at 29 but people need to hire you. The place you want to work at might not hire you.Same for children. You might want children in your 30s, however unless you go without sex there's a slight chance that might happen earlier on. (forget to use protection, etc.)I understand not knowing what you want to study, but you did mention "my dream field of Speech Language Pathology". If that's your dream field, then start with that and see if you like it. If you decide it's not for you, then switch to another. Trust me, you do not want to be in college for that long. It might seem like it's all fun and partying but you get twice the homework you did in high school and the teachers expect much more from you. If you try to learn all those subjects in depth, you will get stressed and decide not to finish schooling because you'll bog yourself down so much.It's okay to have general ideas of when you want to do things, but if you specify year by year, you're going to set yourself up for failure, because there's just no way to do everything you plan exactly when you want to. Life is all about chances, you don't know when you'll fall in love, when you'll have kids, when you'll want to get married, etc. Nothing is guaranteed. It might seem like you know exactly what you want in life now, but as the years go by, you're ideas/plans may change to a new direction.Try slowing down just a little bit so as not to cause too much chaos in your life.
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