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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 23 April 2014: CindyCares, I think the 82% statistic has probably sent our OP running for the hills. Though if you think about it, that means that roughly one woman in five has not had a casual hookup. And what I assume the OP would classify 'the town slut' is ... (read in full...)
If I start dating someone else, should I inform my FWB after a few dates, or should I wait for sexual intercourse to take place before performing my notification duty?
Q. I have a bit of a dilemma: I'm in my late 40s, and I have a lady friend in her mid 50s. We are what I believe is called these days "friends with benefits", i.e., I have my manly needs, she has her womanly needs, and once a week we get together to ...
A. 23 April 2014: So are you going to discuss this with her, as she is the one who would know what she would like? The 'contract' is between you and her. Or is this question evolving into one about the emptiness of life without love? Or ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my friend dates underage girls?
Q. Hi. I am a 31 year old male. I have a friend who is 23 who dates a lot of underage girls who are maybe 16-17 years old. In fact, it has become a running joke in our circle of friends that his girlfriends are teenagers. However, in the time I have k...
A. 23 April 2014: And sorry, I keep pressing "add your answer" before I finish my thoughts…
Pedophile, ephebophile, whatever, applying the label here doesn't really matter, does it?
What your friend is doing could get him a prison sentence and then the life-hau... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my friend dates underage girls?
Q. Hi. I am a 31 year old male. I have a friend who is 23 who dates a lot of underage girls who are maybe 16-17 years old. In fact, it has become a running joke in our circle of friends that his girlfriends are teenagers. However, in the time I have k...
A. 23 April 2014: P.S. The other similar pattern in your friend's case and the convicted sex offender's case I referenced was that there were a number of girls involved, my friend's family member was not the only minor he was "fooling around with" (layman's term) or ... (read in full...)
Should I be worried that my friend dates underage girls?
Q. Hi. I am a 31 year old male. I have a friend who is 23 who dates a lot of underage girls who are maybe 16-17 years old. In fact, it has become a running joke in our circle of friends that his girlfriends are teenagers. However, in the time I have k...
A. 23 April 2014: A friend of mine had a family member aged 16 who wound up being involved in an underage sex and statutory rape case. This girl had to appear on the stand and the guy wound up being convicted. Yes, some families actually do report things like this ... (read in full...)
Arguments with brother in law
Q. Hi Just after some suggestions/advice regarding my brother in law. I have planned to go on holiday next April with a friend (which is now booked and confirmed). My sister is having a baby in August and plans to have a Christening next April, ...
A. 23 April 2014: The more I think about this, if these are the only 2 instances in which Sis has reported what BIL said, I would take that with a grain of salt and a healthy dose of patience.
If this is a recurring event, then I would start to ask Sis, "I love you ... (read in full...)
Arguments with brother in law
Q. Hi Just after some suggestions/advice regarding my brother in law. I have planned to go on holiday next April with a friend (which is now booked and confirmed). My sister is having a baby in August and plans to have a Christening next April, ...
A. 23 April 2014: I'm not getting that your BIL is the problem here. The problem seems to be your sister. You're not arguing with your BIL, your sister is throwing him up as the bad guy, rather than be honest herself.
She knows when you are going on holiday, if she ... (read in full...)
My retroactive jealousy and negativity is ruining my relationship!
Q. I bring up one of my boyfriends exes a lot as I am very retroactively jealous of the girl. This has caused many arguments between us as I have been quite suspicious and controlling of my partner because of this. It's coming to a head now. My ins...
A. 23 April 2014: Well, as the past is repeating itself, in that your RJ is ruining another relationship, it's time to try a new approach.
As RJ seems to be an OCD type of problem, that's how you should tackle it. Go see your doctor, find a mental health prof... (read in full...)
If I start dating someone else, should I inform my FWB after a few dates, or should I wait for sexual intercourse to take place before performing my notification duty?
Q. I have a bit of a dilemma: I'm in my late 40s, and I have a lady friend in her mid 50s. We are what I believe is called these days "friends with benefits", i.e., I have my manly needs, she has her womanly needs, and once a week we get together to ...
A. 23 April 2014: Why not simply ask your friend what she would prefer? Did you promise that you not date other women?
You should decide what your preference would be as well, as that will no doubt be part of the discussion.
I don't see why this is so difficul... (read in full...)
He knows I have a terrible relationship with my husband so why has he suddenly gone cold on me?
Q. I've been in a horrible relationship for too long but don't want to leave because of my son. When he had finished his gcses in July then I WILL be leaving. My boyfriend is controlling, abusive and has mistreated me for many years. 6 months ago I...
A. 23 April 2014: Another possibility is that he realizes you could be injured because of that text, and that your boyfriend may have control of your phone. So rather than risk it, he's gone to radio silence.
... (read in full...)
No longer engaged because of his habit of staring at other women. I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 2 years. We generally get on well and plan to live together soon, we got engaged recently - that's on hold now... and I'm really not sure about it all because of one massive aspect of his behaviour. He has had this sta...
A. 22 April 2014: Good luck as you move forward!... (read in full...)
How can I be not so obsessive?
Q. Hi this seems like a really weird question but I need to know what to do. I'm a 15 year old girl and I really like a boyband (not going to say who but it is NOT one direction). The thing is its sorta taking over my life. I listen to their music all ...
A. 22 April 2014: I think that this is something lots of teenagers go through, a crush that develops into what seems to be an unhealthy obsession.
Enjoy the music. If you start feeling upset about never meeting them then ask yourself what it is you hope will come... (read in full...)
Sex isn't what I thought it would be!
Q. So I've recently lost my virginity to my lovely boyfriend, and we have sex when we can but we both have house mates which makes the situation slightly awkward! He made my first time great, and although it was still uncomfortable, he was very swe...
A. 22 April 2014: I have to agree with SVC on it getting better as you age. You learn what works for you and you have the self-confidence and wisdom to ask for it in a mutually satisfying way. ... (read in full...)
Living with sister is hurting our relationship! Please advise!
Q. How can I talk to my sister? My sister and I are more than 10 years apart in age. She's in her 40's and I'm close to my 30's. Both of us are single and never been married. We've been roommates for years, and it's only since this past year t...
A. 22 April 2014: "Dear sister, after a great deal of soul searching and thought, I have realized that it is time I strike out on my own. I know this will be a change for both of us but I know we will both survive the changes and will always be sisters.
"I'm plan... (read in full...)
My life has been shattered. Where do I go from here?
Q. Where I begin I have no idea? Some of you my find this unbelievable, but I assure you what I am about to tell you is true. Before 2008 my life was really good. I had a great job. Had at the time what I thought was an amazing woman. I had just...
A. 22 April 2014: You don't have to tell anyone that you are in counseling. The counselor will not see you as weak. Asking for help when you need it is a sign of strength, not weakness.
Best wishes, I hope you find your way to taking the steps that will create a happ... (read in full...)
A few guys on dating site have been insulting to me.
Q. I am currently on a dating site and I have talked to some of the guys on there and they are very nice and respectful. I like the compliments I get on my looks they tell me I am beautiful. I try to be honest about what I am looking for and they ...
A. 22 April 2014: Block, report, ignore. Trolls are everywhere on the internet. If you feel this hurt by a couple of obvious trolls then you need a better class of dating site! I do agree with CindyCares that perhaps you are too vulnerable to be on the dating site.
S... (read in full...)
I've been seeing him for 2 weeks, what are his intentions?
Q. I've been seeing a guy for only 2 weeks and I'm unsure as to what his intentions are. Basically ever since the very 1st day he has bee super into me, always texting, always ringing, multiple times a day, and always 1st thing in the morning and last ...
A. 22 April 2014: OP, lots of people have problems with their bank cards. It gets sorted soon enough if it's a simple error. If the bank card error goes on for 3-4 months then we have a different situation.
You've been seeing him for 2 weeks, it sound very inte... (read in full...)
Is what I'm doing such a bad thing?
Q. I am in a long term relationship but I still speak to an ex without my partners knowledge. Is this really that wrong? I know having my cake and eating it will probably spring to mind but it's really not like that. My boyfriend is a great guy an...
A. 22 April 2014: Of course it's wrong. You're hiding something that would be devastating to your boyfriend. If you have to do that then you are not in the right relationship.
Perhaps this is your subconscious's way of getting you out of the relationship, you'll be f... (read in full...)
Sex isn't what I thought it would be!
Q. So I've recently lost my virginity to my lovely boyfriend, and we have sex when we can but we both have house mates which makes the situation slightly awkward! He made my first time great, and although it was still uncomfortable, he was very swe...
A. 22 April 2014: Just let him know that you're a clit stim girl like he's a penis stim boy. That will probably get the point across in a very specific way. :)... (read in full...)
Sex isn't what I thought it would be!
Q. So I've recently lost my virginity to my lovely boyfriend, and we have sex when we can but we both have house mates which makes the situation slightly awkward! He made my first time great, and although it was still uncomfortable, he was very swe...
A. 22 April 2014: I think the thing that will help you understand this is basic sexual anatomy. And perhaps how fetal cells differentiate into specific functions.
First of all, you experience an emotional connection when you are having penis-in-vagina (PIV) se... (read in full...)
What sexuality am I?
Q. Okay this isn't a major problem but I just wondered. I have always wondered about my sexuality, and when I was 15 I was pretty sure I was bisexual, but since then its kinda changed as I presumed that was just...
A. 22 April 2014: You are 16 or 17. You are still working things out. There's no need for a label and certainly no rush to categorize your sexuality at this point in time.
If women didn't find looking at beautiful sexy women somehow interesting, all those wome... (read in full...)
My life has been shattered. Where do I go from here?
Q. Where I begin I have no idea? Some of you my find this unbelievable, but I assure you what I am about to tell you is true. Before 2008 my life was really good. I had a great job. Had at the time what I thought was an amazing woman. I had just...
A. 22 April 2014: If you are self-medicating through alcohol, you can find support through http://www.alcoholics-anonymous.org.uk call here 0845 769 7555
... (read in full...)
My life has been shattered. Where do I go from here?
Q. Where I begin I have no idea? Some of you my find this unbelievable, but I assure you what I am about to tell you is true. Before 2008 my life was really good. I had a great job. Had at the time what I thought was an amazing woman. I had just...
A. 21 April 2014: Click one of the links I provided and ask for help.
I have friends who have suffered great losses.
One is a person who lost mother, father and husband in the space of one year and had 2 small children at home. She found support and help in her chur... (read in full...)
Break up because I sent him to work?
Q. Met this guy six months ago. Before that he was working but resigned from his job due to a disagreement with his boss. Six months later and he is still unemployed. Talking all this crap on marriage and having kids which i see it as a sacrifice. I ...
A. 21 April 2014: "Who is this Jehovah witness guy?" He's the guy you just broke up with. No need for more research.
OP, did you read the links for getting over a break up?... (read in full...)
How do I keep the communication alive and not become just a FWB?
Q. Hello! So I've been seeing this guy for a little under 2 months that i met on a dating site. It was really awesome at first, he would text me everyday and it would never cease. Our first and second dates were really awesome too. We had a great ti...
A. 21 April 2014: Ah, so you've been having sex with a guy you've been dating for less than 2 months. Though the 'dating' has gone by the wayside and we are left with sex only.
Create a gap. Be less available. Don't go over to his for sex only. If he isn't devo... (read in full...)
My life has been shattered. Where do I go from here?
Q. Where I begin I have no idea? Some of you my find this unbelievable, but I assure you what I am about to tell you is true. Before 2008 my life was really good. I had a great job. Had at the time what I thought was an amazing woman. I had just...
A. 21 April 2014: I would find counseling support for bereaved people. You are not alone; others have experienced great loss too and have found help and that life continues.
I would start by looking for bereavement support. I did a search and found some links for ... (read in full...)
How do I keep the communication alive and not become just a FWB?
Q. Hello! So I've been seeing this guy for a little under 2 months that i met on a dating site. It was really awesome at first, he would text me everyday and it would never cease. Our first and second dates were really awesome too. We had a great ti...
A. 21 April 2014: Decline the next hook up. Suggest a day out that isn't expensive as an alternative and observe his reaction. Maybe invite him over to yours for dinner with some of your friends to see if he's really interested in getting to know your friends as well ... (read in full...)
I am barely treading water in this relationship, holding on by a thread!
Q. I just found out the other day that my girlfriend of over a year and a half has lost all her passion for the relationship and has been miserable lately and doesn't know how or if we can fix it. My constant worrying of where she's at or what she's ...
A. 21 April 2014: Have you sought medical help for the "anxiety issues"? Go get that help ASAP.
You've been together for a year and a half? How long have you been living together? How is the lease set up? Are you both on the lease? You'll have to deal with the lega... (read in full...)
Should I tell his girlfriend he cheated?
Q. Hello all, Apologies for the length of this question, but I'm trying to figure out what to do about a tricky situation. 3 years ago I fell in love with an old friend, and we started a long-distance relationship. I was 18 at the time, but was su...
A. 21 April 2014: OP, the real question is why you have stuck around for 2 years, as you say you know what he was doing. She knows he cheated on you with her, you are going to come across as a rather delusional ex-girlfriend with an unhealthy obsession and it will ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I have access to his emails ....
Q. Dear All, I have had a volatile 2 year relationship with my bf for around 3 years. In the last few months I have felt stronger and been going out again with friends, standing up to him and generally getting over it. He has responded by bei...
A. 21 April 2014: What does "standing up to him" mean then? That's an odd phrase to use in a loving relationship.... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I have access to his emails ....
Q. Dear All, I have had a volatile 2 year relationship with my bf for around 3 years. In the last few months I have felt stronger and been going out again with friends, standing up to him and generally getting over it. He has responded by bei...
A. 21 April 2014: Are you hoping that somehow this shows that he has changed, that the fear of losing you will turn him into a loving and reliable partner? You must have feelings for him or you wouldn't stick around for this, but honestly, is this relationship ... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I have access to his emails ....
Q. Dear All, I have had a volatile 2 year relationship with my bf for around 3 years. In the last few months I have felt stronger and been going out again with friends, standing up to him and generally getting over it. He has responded by bei...
A. 21 April 2014: Maybe he's afraid of losing a guaranteed sex partner?
Is the word "volatile" code for him being abusive and a cheater?... (read in full...)
He doesn't know I have access to his emails ....
Q. Dear All, I have had a volatile 2 year relationship with my bf for around 3 years. In the last few months I have felt stronger and been going out again with friends, standing up to him and generally getting over it. He has responded by bei...
A. 21 April 2014: You have "access to his emails." So you are basically a hacker. Which is illegal. You have descended to the level of criminal actions so you can keep tabs on the boyfriend you already know isn't good for you.
Using words like "volatile rela... (read in full...)
I think he is cheating and that makes me not want to see him!
Q. Hi. I need some honest opinions on this. My boyfriend and I are now in a long distant relationship due to work. Normally we would see each other every other weekend but it so happened that we haven't seen each other for almost two weeks this time. ...
A. 21 April 2014: I don't think the quantity and quality of his semen is a good indicator about whether or not he's cheating. That depends on things like his overall health, masturbation habits, night emissions during his sleep, his hydration levels, etc.
I thin... (read in full...)
On and off for a few years, will it ever get serious?
Q. I have been on and off with this guy for a few years now. He's a great guy, he obviously has commitment issues. Do you guys ever hear or see an on and off relationship become solid? Or am I seriously wasting my time? Maybe it's the naïve girl in me ...
A. 21 April 2014: Does the getting back together involve a lot of hot make up sex? Have you considered removing sex from the equation to see if he's back for you or for the sex?
I think you have the relationship you are going to have with this particular man. If you ... (read in full...)
He wont ever let me have an opinion.
Q. I love my boyfriend to death he means every thing to me. Today we got in to a hugh argument. It was over some thing so small. I gave my opinion and he got so mad said I was stupid and called me other names so I stood up and told him i was done and I ...
A. 21 April 2014: You are in the US so I have found you the hotline's information. http://www.thehotline.org or call 1-800-799-7233
or they have online chat available: Hotline Advocates are available to chat Monday to Friday 9AM—7PM CST.
Discuss the situatio... (read in full...)
I'm still missing my ex! I've sent him away again but I can't stop thinking about him!
Q. Hi guys I'm in bit of a pickle right now .. I was in a relationship with a guy for about 2 years and we had a pretty bad break up. He told me many things, I told him many things, he was hurt, I was hurt and we just stopped talking. However, I got in...
A. 20 April 2014: I love this post on how to get over your ex: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/how-to-get-over-your-ex.html
There is also this one: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-got-dumped-and-i-know-how-.html and this one: http... (read in full...)
I'm still missing my ex! I've sent him away again but I can't stop thinking about him!
Q. Hi guys I'm in bit of a pickle right now .. I was in a relationship with a guy for about 2 years and we had a pretty bad break up. He told me many things, I told him many things, he was hurt, I was hurt and we just stopped talking. However, I got in...
A. 20 April 2014: You've already hurt him, he's suggested you go back to the ex.
I think you need to let the current boyfriend go, you are clearly in a rebound relationship and that's just not fair to him.
You can then be free to work out if the feelings for the ... (read in full...)
Break up because I sent him to work?
Q. Met this guy six months ago. Before that he was working but resigned from his job due to a disagreement with his boss. Six months later and he is still unemployed. Talking all this crap on marriage and having kids which i see it as a sacrifice. I ...
A. 20 April 2014: I agree with Daisy Daisy, you have ended the relationship, for good reasons, there's no point in trying to get him to change. It's over, done, finito, finished, mail the movies back to him. If you see him in the street you simply keep on going. i... (read in full...)
I don't believe him when he says he won't seek sex elsewhere when I'm recovering from childbirth!
Q. hi all i am seven months pregnant with my first baby. she wasn't planned but my boyfriend and i were over overjoyed. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and are deeply in love. we've always had a great sex life and since i've be...
A. 20 April 2014: I found you some links for support. http://www.whattoexpect.com/what-to-expect/landing-page.aspx
You sound like the woman who found out that she was pregnant later than normal and so perhaps haven't had the prenatal support and time to accept all ... (read in full...)
I don't believe him when he says he won't seek sex elsewhere when I'm recovering from childbirth!
Q. hi all i am seven months pregnant with my first baby. she wasn't planned but my boyfriend and i were over overjoyed. my boyfriend and i have been together for 5 years and are deeply in love. we've always had a great sex life and since i've be...
A. 20 April 2014: I see you have two concerns here; one is if your partner will remain faithful to you and the second is whether you will recover enough from childbirth to be able to have sexual intercourse again. Both appear to be irrational fears at this point as ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 20 April 2014: Oh and dogs are wonderful, I love them! So full of bounce and love and present in the moment. They make you appreciate the world in a fresh way, don't they? Dogs are AWESOME! :)... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 20 April 2014: Hi OP, I see you haven't brought yourself to have that conversation with her. Sorry if my concern that you seem to be um… inert … in having the 'casual' sex filter conversation with her seemed odd. You seem stuck in the cycle of repeating your ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 19 April 2014: And I would be interested to hear the followup to the conversation.
Again, assuming that the anon poster was the OP. I re-read my initial answer on this question and I am repeating myself here. Express your concerns about "casual sex" as it clea... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 19 April 2014: If you feel this strongly about it then you should ask her. If that is your followup? (It could be anyone answering, but the same tone is there, so I will assume it is the OP.)
After this relationship ends tomorrow, just make sure that in the futu... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 18 April 2014: So you've had some really interesting answers. Any followup or is this just another troll type post? :)... (read in full...)
No longer engaged because of his habit of staring at other women. I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 2 years. We generally get on well and plan to live together soon, we got engaged recently - that's on hold now... and I'm really not sure about it all because of one massive aspect of his behaviour. He has had this sta...
A. 18 April 2014: I found this recent post about ogling: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-cut-my-losses-now-my-new.html
In particular, please note this reply:
A female reader, I love cabbage! United Kingdom + ?, writes (16 March 2014):
I love cabbage! ago... (read in full...)
No longer engaged because of his habit of staring at other women. I don't know what to do!
Q. I've been seeing a guy for 2 years. We generally get on well and plan to live together soon, we got engaged recently - that's on hold now... and I'm really not sure about it all because of one massive aspect of his behaviour. He has had this sta...
A. 18 April 2014: Get a friend to record him in public with you, in the pub, on the street, so that you can show him how his behaviour looks to an objective eye.
Having advised that, I don't see this relationship surviving without some outside help. You're noti... (read in full...)
Should I ask her about her sexual past?
Q. I have been dating a new girl for about 6 months now. Recently we were at the grocery store together when we passed a bottle of chocolate syrup. My girlfriend laughed and said: "I haven't had that stuff since I licked it off some guy's d*ck." M...
A. 18 April 2014: At age 30-35 you are dating "a new girl"? So you weren't a virgin when you came to be dating her?
It's a very odd thing for someone to say in the grocery store. I wonder if she was trying to turn you on by being suggestive and she thought she said... (read in full...)
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