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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 July 2014: I agree with Euphoric29, having read parts of this thread and others you have started.
Best wishes to you.... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 13 July 2014: Did you spend any of the past few months actually practicing flirting or talking to women at all?
I provided you two links which would lead you to the manuals you said you wished existed. Did you read any of them?
Good luck, I think you'll b... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 6 March 2014: OP, I could spend hours and hours reading up on how to ski.
Some friends are so scared of skiing that they can't even contemplate going skiing, despite never having tried.
Other friends no longer downhill ski because they are worried that... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 6 March 2014: OP, you have the love life you expect. Once you change your approach and expectations maybe things could be different. But as for now, as long as you read the negative blog things and judge women based on some sort of weird racial profiling, then ... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 6 March 2014: OP, no one can tell you not to date someone. It's up to you. But if you have to lie and not tell your best friends about a relationship then there's something wrong.
You are an adult, he is as well. You are free to do whatever you like. If you are ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 4 March 2014: So few options open up when you are in your room all alone reading blogs that support the 'I can't do this' personal credo.
More options open when you actually go outside and start talking to people.
... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 26 February 2014: If you think a manual will help, here you go:
http://bit.ly/1hy5SaU
http://bit.ly/N2s5Vg
It will involve effort and change on your part, reading all the manuals and how-to guides won't change anything unless you implement them.... (read in full...)
Tell me what I already know but don't wanna believe
Q. Hello! Heres the situation; I've been dating a guy for about a month, 'talking' for about two. In those two months we have been Facebook friends on and off, I have deleted him 3 times now, the first time was because a lady was putting comment ...
A. 25 February 2014: Sounds like a wise decision. Good luck!... (read in full...)
If she can't take money from me in this crunch, what's the point of me being her fiance and see her struggling?
Q. I have been in love with American woman for two years. I met her when I was visiting US for business purpose. She also came to Pakistan and I also go here and there. I'm 33 , she is 28. We were engaged now and she has ring from my side and I have ...
A. 25 February 2014: When is the wedding? Have you set a date, a place and a time for the ceremony? Have you made a guest list for the wedding with your parents and her parents?
If none of the above has happened, then it's unlikely this is a real thing.
I worry fo... (read in full...)
Tell me what I already know but don't wanna believe
Q. Hello! Heres the situation; I've been dating a guy for about a month, 'talking' for about two. In those two months we have been Facebook friends on and off, I have deleted him 3 times now, the first time was because a lady was putting comment ...
A. 25 February 2014: Ditch him, block him and stop worrying. Get on with your fabulous new life and spend more time IRL and less on FB.
... (read in full...)
Will he be better to her than he was to me?
Q. Will he be different with her? My husband and I divorced mainly because he was very emotionally/verbally abusive and he walked out. We have a child together-so I try to maintain a civil relationship with him because of that. He has a girlfr...
A. 25 February 2014: Let's hope for your child's sake that he won't be abusive to his new girlfriend. It would be a very great pity for your child to learn it's okay to be abusive, don't you think?
Be thankful you are rid of the abusive relationship and do your very... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 25 February 2014: Hi OP, any followup? Did you speak to him or decide to cut him off for misrepresenting himself?... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to feel this way, to feel invisible?
Q. So, I am currently in my second to last year of high school. Junior Year (11th Grade), man time has flew by. The town I currently live in isn't exactly a place I like. My family and I moved here 6 years ago (6th grade) because we simply needed a ...
A. 25 February 2014: Hey there! How are you doing? Did asking this question help in any way? Hope you are doing well! :)... (read in full...)
Husband has many female friends. They don't want to be friends with me, just him. Am I overreacting in being upset?
Q. My husband got a lot of female friends that called him at least 5 times a day for advice and to talk, he told me to talked to them cause they are nice and he wants us to be friends too but when I tried to reach out for them (add them on Facebook) ...
A. 25 February 2014: So did this help at all? Do you have a followup question or comment? Thanks! :)... (read in full...)
He goes to his friends first, does it mean I am not as important to him as he is to me?
Q. I want to know what this means, or what others think it means. When I have a difficult time, or something troubles me, my boyfriend is the first person I go to. It is from him I seek comfort. He knows all my secrets. That is the kind of relationship ...
A. 25 February 2014: Were you able to talk to him about this yet? It's been a week and I'm just wondering if you had a chance to add more the question?... (read in full...)
I've only known him 2 days, he lives in another city and he's already my boyfriend?!
Q. So 2 days ago I met this guy at a church retreat and we really just clicked and he asked for my number so I gave it to him. By the way he lives in another city like an hour away from me. He texted me yesterday after we got home and we were talking ...
A. 25 February 2014: What did your Mom think about this? We are now more than 2 days out from this situation. :)... (read in full...)
He bugged me and bugged me for a nude picture and I never gave in, but I want what we had back! Advice, please!
Q. Alright so this isn't really a question but more of a combination of a question and a rant. It might be really long but I really need help with this. Its kind of a long story so last year was my first year in highschool. my first seme...
A. 25 February 2014: I hope you were able to resolve this, did you tell your parents or a counselor about his creepiness?... (read in full...)
He doesn't know how to have a conversation with me!
Q. I've been seeing a male friend for a few weeks. I think he's a lovely person... he admitted he has feelings for me last weekend and he said he wants to be in a relationship with me in the future. The only problem is, I'm confused as to whether I ...
A. 25 February 2014: What did you talk about before you began dating? What made the two of you friends in the first place?
Perhaps he's holding his breath and is so anxious that he can't come up with things to talk about because this whole relationship is unex... (read in full...)
I want to be exclusive, he's not so sure
Q. I met this guy online, we've been talking for about two months. We've had a few discussions about us being together, but of course we both feel it's best to be friends first before we date. Though, I have mentioned being exclusive. We've gotten into ...
A. 25 February 2014: You're pushing him to be exclusive after talking online for 2 months and being intimate once. You're not used to dating. You expect relationships to develop quickly, obviously, as you moved past dating and waiting to be intimate with a guy you've ... (read in full...)
We've been talking on the phone for 6 months, dating for 5 weeks, we are a perfect match and he has asked me to move in with him!
Q. I was speaking to a guy on the phone for about 6 months, he always asked me out on a date but going from his picture he wasn't my type. Then my car blew up and he said he knew someone who had a golf so 1 afternoon my mum and 1 went up to see it and ...
A. 25 February 2014: Wait until you have been dating for a year. What's the rush?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 25 February 2014: You don't know how because you never tried. Why have you never tried?... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 24 February 2014: And you're willing to live with that? Some days when it's okay? That's enough to keep you dealing with the crying nearly every day for 18 months?
... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 24 February 2014: I have seen many of your posts on pornography and why men choose to use it, when they have a partner. You ask the same question, in various ways, and many dozens of times the aunts here have tried to answer you.
You seem to be stuck in a deep rut,... (read in full...)
Broken up for 1.5 years yet still cry almost every day
Q. Has anyone else ever thought about something an ex did even though you've been broken up for a year and a half? The thing he did was two years ago. I don't want to say what it was. I cry nearly every day. My parents think I'm mentally ill as I ...
A. 24 February 2014: Is this 'thing' that upset you so much his use of pornography?
If you are still obsessing about this relatively short relationship and how it hurt you then yes, you do need to seek some outside help. Whatever you've been doing for the past 18 mont... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 21 February 2014: Your glass is two-thirds full, yet you persist in believing it is empty. Ah well. When you stop extrapolating the negative from life, you may wake up to find that there is lots to be positive about.
If you want to pay for sex, pay for sex, if that... (read in full...)
My fiancée is having a stroppy moment over something seemingly small, why?
Q. Hi aunts n uncles, I have been with my fiancée for three years now, shes 23 im 26. The other night I told her that I was going to Bath in Somerset to maintain some equipment for a few nights and I said that I would like to be in my own bed when ...
A. 21 February 2014: My uninformed and unqualified and unreliable guess is that she's pregnant. ... (read in full...)
How do I ask a girl I like out on a date?
Q. I really like this girl at College but not entirely sure she feels the same. We get on really well and talk all the time. However, I have only known her for around three months because she started the course I'm doing at the same time. So, I'm not ...
A. 20 February 2014: So did the script help you? Are you able to visualize positive results?... (read in full...)
Do I tell him? I'd like to forgive and forget but I'm pregnant by him!
Q. I reconnected with an old family friend this past summer. we began talking a lot and became really close. eventually he asked me to be his gf. we live in different states so he flew me out to visit for a few weeks. when I returned, we hardly lasted ...
A. 20 February 2014: I second everything YouWish said and also want to emphasize that if you are planning to become a mother, that the needs of the child now become paramount. So make sure you get all your ducks in a row. He is now an expectant parent and has ... (read in full...)
How do I ask a girl I like out on a date?
Q. I really like this girl at College but not entirely sure she feels the same. We get on really well and talk all the time. However, I have only known her for around three months because she started the course I'm doing at the same time. So, I'm not ...
A. 20 February 2014: You say you talk all the time. So the next time you are talking, say, "Hey, June, I would love to talk more with you but I'm running late for something, can we meet up for coffee (or a snack/lunch/dinner, whatever makes sense) on Friday afternoon ... (read in full...)
What can I do to make him respect me?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for two years and we have talked about marriage. Initially when we went out together in public his eyes were on me, but for the past year he has had a wandering eye and will look women up and down (with his sungla...
A. 20 February 2014: If my husband appreciates the beauty of another women, that's perfectly fine. Swivel the head to take a look at a gorgeous woman? Fine. Linger just a nanosecond longer on a beautiful face? Not a problem. Flirt a bit with an attractive woman at a ... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 20 February 2014: OP, you've had at least 8 aunts here tell you that the problem is your negativity, and you say "it may have touch some of the truth I never considered" but then you go on to completely discount the advice given.
Your filter is totally out of whac... (read in full...)
Mixed signals from girlfriend's best friend.
Q. I am getting confused by a girl I have feelings for. I told her a while ago I really liked her and asked her how she felt she just said I'm a no go area. She likes talking to me but says not about that and we should forget about that, but looks at...
A. 20 February 2014: OP, how old are you? Are you really in the 36-40 year range? This sounds more like a late teen issue.
If you don't want to cheat, what does it matter what this girl thinks/says/does to you? Do you need an ego boost, is that the real problem?... (read in full...)
Would telling her I find her attractive be a better way to move things forward?
Q. Hello Cupid I was wondering if it is good idea to tell a girl you like her if you want to move things forward with her . I know the girl for about three months and I want to take things forward by telling her how I feel. I have decided to...
A. 20 February 2014: What is it you want her to do? What is the action you want?
If you want her to go out with you, you have to ask her out. Telling her she's attractive is fine but she may just nod and say 'thank you' and mean it, but it doesn't get her to go out with... (read in full...)
Partner says he wants to be with me forever but has "itches that need scratching" with other women.
Q. I've been with my partner for 5 years. We met at uni. It's a long distance relationship but we are planning in moving in together this year. We are both each other's first sexual partners. I was in a long term relationship before but never had in...
A. 19 February 2014: P.S. He already resents you. This guy does not want to be monogamous.... (read in full...)
Partner says he wants to be with me forever but has "itches that need scratching" with other women.
Q. I've been with my partner for 5 years. We met at uni. It's a long distance relationship but we are planning in moving in together this year. We are both each other's first sexual partners. I was in a long term relationship before but never had in...
A. 19 February 2014: If he's unhappy and sex with other women is his self-prescribed therapy, then you are in for one miserable life with him. Especially as he's already essentially blamed you for setting him up to resent you. Riiiiighhhttt….. like it's your fault he ... (read in full...)
Is my husband trying to get the custody of my child?
Q. Hi I and my husband are getting divorce a "friendly" one! we got help from a mediator,so no lawyer. My husban is a plaintiff which the mediator said it doesnt matter but I felt in some ways she has my husbans's side! close to the court day i goft my ...
A. 19 February 2014: I think it would be a good idea if you googled 'legal aid' in your state. Or call the courthouse and ask about finding a pro bono attorney. See what legal assistance is provided to those who cannot afford to pay an attorney.
I don't think there are ... (read in full...)
I'm panicked about our age difference!
Q. Just need your opinions and advice. I met an older man online 2yrs ago and we've hit it off. I was not ready for a relationship at the time due to fear of being hurt again mainly but I'm over that now. I felt like I'd led him on but was honest about ...
A. 18 February 2014: With all due respect, if this man was really ready for a real life relationship he wouldn't have waited 2 years. Nothing kept him from looking locally and dating locally. What you had was an online flirtation that lasted longer than most.
End the ... (read in full...)
Who am I to criticise his looks?
Q. I am 5'4 and quite short. I generally date guys of 6' and have always been very drawn to tall dark haired men 5'11 and above. I have met someone who is really nice and we get in really well. I am finding it hard to adapt to the fact he is quit...
A. 18 February 2014: At 5'4" you are not "quite short," you are perfectly average for your country. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Human_height If we split the difference between 5'8" and 5'10' then he's just about average height as well.
If you can't find yourself bein... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to feel this way, to feel invisible?
Q. So, I am currently in my second to last year of high school. Junior Year (11th Grade), man time has flew by. The town I currently live in isn't exactly a place I like. My family and I moved here 6 years ago (6th grade) because we simply needed a ...
A. 18 February 2014: I found this PSA video which pretty well lays it out for my generation, hehe. http://happyplace.someecards.com/29402/it-doesnt-get-better-a-psa-for-people-who-were-popular-in-high-school
The IROC-Z looks a lot less cool with a Domino's sign on the ... (read in full...)
He lied, and his real age has freaked me out!
Q. Making this short because I just recently found out. I don't know how to tell any of my friends about this either but I've been dating this guy I work with for about 2 months and all this time I thought he was 25 because that's what he told me. He ...
A. 18 February 2014: Just tell him to stop calling you. Say you accept his apology but that you do not date men twice your age. That he will be forgiven if he doesn't lie about his age to anyone else and that he stops trying to make contact with you. If he persists you ... (read in full...)
Am I crazy to feel this way, to feel invisible?
Q. So, I am currently in my second to last year of high school. Junior Year (11th Grade), man time has flew by. The town I currently live in isn't exactly a place I like. My family and I moved here 6 years ago (6th grade) because we simply needed a ...
A. 18 February 2014: Oh brother, I hated the last two years of high school too. Newsflash, high school days are NOT the best days of your life. Trust me.
I transferred in as a junior and for the first few weeks, ate lunch in front of my locker until I worked up the nerv... (read in full...)
Husband has many female friends. They don't want to be friends with me, just him. Am I overreacting in being upset?
Q. My husband got a lot of female friends that called him at least 5 times a day for advice and to talk, he told me to talked to them cause they are nice and he wants us to be friends too but when I tried to reach out for them (add them on Facebook) ...
A. 18 February 2014: The one thing these women all have in common is that they are vying for your husband's attention.
I would suggest you sit him down and have a discussion about boundaries and respect for your marriage and your relationship. If he has this influx of n... (read in full...)
My friends want to move abroad without their young-adult children
Q. Am interested what you think of this situation. Some friends of min are bith 52, and have 2 kids: girl of 18 and boy of 20. The parents want to emigrate from england to spain on a permanent basis. The kids dont want to go with them. But the p...
A. 18 February 2014: My parents moved 8 times when I was under 18 and 5 times after I was 18. Obviously I went with them while I was under 18 but after that, I was in school or on my own.
I was in college (uni) when they moved and they continued to help with tuit... (read in full...)
Selfish in-laws and husband's a pushover with them. How can I speak to him about this?
Q. Thank you fir reading in advance. Sorry I know it is long. Me and my partner have been together for 4 years and have 2 children together, the youngest of which is 6 weeks. My partners family have not seen our youngest yet as they all live in...
A. 18 February 2014: I would go on Sageoldguy's advice, and put it more like this to your partner,
"I would like for your family to meet the new baby, and we have had a couple of opportunities for them to do so. Maybe when we have better finances we can pay for all of u... (read in full...)
I just met this guy a week ago and already we fight all the time!
Q. hi everyone. I just met this guy its been a week now, my problem I just don't understand him at all. we suppose to be happy but to my surprise we fight all the time. when we have to see each it must be on the street because where he stays he was ...
A. 17 February 2014: mpumie, I don't know what the culture is in South Africa but if a guy I knew for one week tried to get me to touch his penis in public I be so disgusted I would never see him again or give him the time of day. If a guy I knew for one week tried to ... (read in full...)
He goes to his friends first, does it mean I am not as important to him as he is to me?
Q. I want to know what this means, or what others think it means. When I have a difficult time, or something troubles me, my boyfriend is the first person I go to. It is from him I seek comfort. He knows all my secrets. That is the kind of relationship ...
A. 17 February 2014: After eighteen months I expect that he's pretty comfortable with having you as his girlfriend and having his friends as his confidantes. Who knows why that is, perhaps it's what his Dad and Mom did, or perhaps his friends are closer than brothers, ... (read in full...)
I hate to be the first one to reach for his hand or make physical contact!
Q. The guy I've been seeing for about a month isn't great at initiating any physical contact but is happy enough when I do. Like if I slip my hand in his, he'll wrap an arm around my shoulders after a bit but it's just odd cz he's the one who asked me ...
A. 17 February 2014: It took my boyfriend a full year to be comfortable with holding hands showing physical contact in public. He's now my husband. I didn't push, I didn't insist, there was no big talk. One day, he was able to turn a mental corner and just relax and do ... (read in full...)
I've only known him 2 days, he lives in another city and he's already my boyfriend?!
Q. So 2 days ago I met this guy at a church retreat and we really just clicked and he asked for my number so I gave it to him. By the way he lives in another city like an hour away from me. He texted me yesterday after we got home and we were talking ...
A. 17 February 2014: What did your Mom say when you asked her? I know mine would have probably said, too much too soon, and that at 13, I was a bit young to have a boyfriend, but that was my Mom for you.
Why not just keep him as a friend and not put a label on thin... (read in full...)
He bugged me and bugged me for a nude picture and I never gave in, but I want what we had back! Advice, please!
Q. Alright so this isn't really a question but more of a combination of a question and a rant. It might be really long but I really need help with this. Its kind of a long story so last year was my first year in highschool. my first seme...
A. 17 February 2014: I'd take all those messages he sent you straight to your parents and the school counselor. He's a bully, an abuser and what he's asking for from you, he's probably also trying coerce from other fearful girls in school.
The best way to battle a bull... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 17 February 2014: I didn't say you were antisocial. I suggested that you have crippling anxiety about talking to women.
You have nothing to lose by talking to your doctor about it. Why wouldn't you try?... (read in full...)
I'm a 27 year old virgin, should I go hire an escort to experience sex?
Q. I’m 27 years old and will be 28 years old this summer and not being able to me intimate with anyone in my life is just making me feel frustrated. I have tired date few Chinese women but all they do is want to be friends or we never talk again. ...
A. 15 February 2014: Wouldn't a better investment of your time and money be to find treatment for your social anxiety? There are ways to help people who suffer from this.
http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder
http:... (read in full...)
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