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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 10 February 2014: And here's a guy whose girlfriend vanished http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-do-girls-suddenly-distance-themselves-from-a.html He never did answer my question about if this was a virtual relationship or a real life one… I'm guessing it was all ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 10 February 2014: Dear OP, I have looked for some posts that will help you put things into context and realize that you are not the only one who has fallen victim to online relationship catastrophes:
h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 10 February 2014: OP, I think your filter is off on this one. SVC was not being sarcastic, she was trying to make a point by making extravagant claims about herself being the Queen of England. Yes, you are not a child or teenager who needs to be scolded. But you are ... (read in full...)
How to stop comparing myself to others and see some good in myself?
Q. As far as Im concerned im a loser compared to other people, Im a gay female and other gay females completely reject me, I have no gay friends(have 2 aquaintances that are very busy) Im not going to go to an event alone and be stared at for being ...
A. 9 February 2014: I had saved this url because it had a very powerful lesson: http://www.infobarrel.com/22_Habits_of_Unhappy_People
Here are a a few of these Habits of Unhappy People:
Loneliness (How you Choose to Socialize)
One of the biggest causes of un... (read in full...)
I have a crush on my personal trainer but am wondering if he's out of my league!
Q. ok this is such a obvious crush, its embarrassing... but i really like one of the personal trainer at my gym. i know, how predictable! and i was just thinking how do i get to know him in causal way. it also got me thinking about people's opinions...
A. 9 February 2014: People with very good bodies at my age have earned their bodies and fitness.
You have to eat right and move and make healthy choices.
You wrote "seeing as people's body size/shape never personally changes if im attracted to someone or not i want t... (read in full...)
How to stop comparing myself to others and see some good in myself?
Q. As far as Im concerned im a loser compared to other people, Im a gay female and other gay females completely reject me, I have no gay friends(have 2 aquaintances that are very busy) Im not going to go to an event alone and be stared at for being ...
A. 9 February 2014: If people wanted to date only supermodel types or those with flawless skin and hair, then most of us would go undated.
The truth is that most of us want to date likable, interesting people who appeal to us, people who make us feel good about ours... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 9 February 2014: Does your therapist know about this current worry of yours? If not, why not?... (read in full...)
Could my ex have undetected HIV if he received a blood transfusion years ago, before blood testing was standard procedure?
Q. I have a concern, not mentioned on the site before to my knowledge. It involves HIV from blood transfusions. I've noticed that in the years where a potential partner would be born was when they didn't test for HIV in the blood. So basically is it ...
A. 9 February 2014: You haven't seen a lot of questions on this site about HIV because this isn't a medical site. The best place to ask medical questions about your health is to your doctor.
What is your concern, that he has HIV or that he possibly could have tran... (read in full...)
Should I be friends with this man?
Q. My friend and I were talking about a few things recently and we talk about almost everything. I guess he felt comfortable telling me about his past. I talked about my ex-boyfriends and he talked about his ex-girlfriends. He has been telling me how ...
A. 9 February 2014: So on this question, you had 3 aunts say "no" "avoid" "don't believe him"…
and you continued to the point where he got the title 'boyfriend'?
You were uncertain here, how did he get to the point where he was your boyfriend? He must be very good... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 9 February 2014: OP, with all due respect, if a relationship that lasted for 2 months online only is going to knock you down in such a way that you will never ever recover from it, you need to be focusing on how to improve your coping skills.
It is a great pity that... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 8 February 2014: What needs to be 'fixed'?
You're talking to a guy via text and know virtually nothing about his real life other than what he's chosen to share with you.
You're not in a crisis because of your phone/data plan, you're in a crisis because you have... (read in full...)
What do we have together? Is it possible that finally our disparity of feelings has reduced?
Q. I've "been with" this guy for over a year now. I put that in quotes because even though we are pretty much boyfriend and girlfriend, there is no title. It's been a long, tumultuous year, filled with a lot of uncertainty and infidelity on his part...
A. 8 February 2014: It's possible. Now all you have to do is sit back and see if his actions match the lovely words. If you can manage to get some objectivity into your self-analysis then you'll have the answer really fast…
If he hasn't asked you to marry him or be h... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 8 February 2014: He sounds extremely fishy to me. He doesn't answer landline calls. He hasn't called your landline to find out how you are.
Did you try having a friend call his number? If not, why not?... (read in full...)
Is it stupid to date her after she blew me off?
Q. There's this girl I've been dated during December. She had to go to her hometown for the holidays, right after new years eve. Up until that point everything was almost perfect, and we were both pretty excited about each other. We agreed that it ...
A. 8 February 2014: I personally would pass on dating her again. She didn't have the courage to tell you what was happening. She had an extremely short relationship with a guy who hurt her a lot, she reported.
I think she wasn't as excited as you hoped about you two ... (read in full...)
Is it a wise decision to continue seeing him?
Q. I work in a health care field. I am 21 years old who met a guy who is 29 years old. He is owns a pharmacy business so I see him often at work. When i first met,him, i did not pay attention to him because I wasn't looking for anything. A few wee...
A. 7 February 2014: I think you should follow your gut feel that it's not a wise decision to go through with this.
A bunch of red flags for me. One is the way he pursued you and then pulled the classic "let's not label this."
Getting a hotel room so he could sleep wi... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has disappeared and I am very worried.
Q. Hello, I am having a difficult time and I need some advice. First, I have been in a relationship with someone and it hasn't been long, only two months. We got along great and talked all the time for hours. We have always been able to work out any ...
A. 7 February 2014: Hi, there was an interesting piece in the New York Times about this today, you should be able to read it here: Romance at Arm’s Length http://nyti.ms/1eYR9Tw
I found a couple of the paragraphs very interesting, I'll copy/paste them here so you may ... (read in full...)
Why does my friend hate my crush so much that she's making me choose either her or him?
Q. so i really like this guy. i think he's interested in me too. he's always really nice, buys me things, and on the last valentines day, he sent me a card with 35 kisses. i counted them, i'm weird i know. but anyway, he's always nice to me, and he's ...
A. 7 February 2014: I had a "friend" when I was around your age. She decided she hated me and created a group she called the "[My last name} Hate Society." Yeah, it was really mean. It was very confusing for me at the time.
i came to understand a lot later on that she ... (read in full...)
My obsession with his ex is ruining our relationship
Q. My partner had a child with an ex who he was with for 7 years. When he met her she was actually living with a woman and left her husband of her two children for the woman. Then she moved on to my partner and they had a child together also. When...
A. 7 February 2014: I think you have the female version of retroactive or retrograde jealousy. You can search about that topic here: http://www.dearcupid.org/search and I would highly recommend you read the posts of this aunt: http://www.dearcupid.org/people/yos
B... (read in full...)
Am I too boring and weird to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance an...
A. 6 February 2014: I have an idea. My gym is always looking for instructors for classes, such as power cycling or core fitness or yoga. Get certified to teach one or more of these at your gym and then teach classes. You'll have a roomful of fit people, a captive ... (read in full...)
Am I too boring and weird to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance an...
A. 6 February 2014: Oh, and I think you are out ahead of yourself. Worry about what to do with a girlfriend when you are faced with an actual girlfriend.
If the question is, where can I meet someone who might become a girlfriend, then focus on that, instead of a situ... (read in full...)
Am I too boring and weird to ever get a girlfriend?
Q. Lately I've been thinking about future relationships and stuff, and it's just hit me that even if I did get a girlfriend, I would have no idea what to do with her. I do not like the bar or club scene at all. I cannot and do not like to dance an...
A. 6 February 2014: Why don't you ask the girl you like what likes to do when you meet her? Then you can plan dates accordingly?
I guess there is more to this question than you presented.
I would echo the aunt who suggested you spend less time online and more time out... (read in full...)
Why do all women judge me by my weight and looks?
Q. Why do all women immediately judge me by how overweight and ugly I am and give me disgusted looks? No matter where I go in public women look down upon me. The constant glares female strangers give me is really becoming bothersome. I try and smil...
A. 6 February 2014: Why would you say you are overweight if you are not?
If *every* woman you have ever met in your *entire life gives you disgusted looks and glares then I think you are reading them wrong. Your social filter is out of kilter.
How do the men you meet... (read in full...)
Is he playing hard to get?
Q. Hey ! I broke up with my ex 3 months ago because he wasn't ready for dating. I know I made a mistake, but he really make me feel like we were in a competition : "You are successful, I'm not" "Your conversation is stimulating, which is no...
A. 6 February 2014: Did you tell him you wanted him back? Or were you waiting for him to ask you why you got back in touch with him?
He's just not interested, I think. If he wanted to date you, he'd be asking you out.
Mybe he has to ask someone to help him compose ... (read in full...)
Why do women at night clubs dress provocatively?
Q. Why do the girls at the clubs dress like sluts?? We went to a club last weekend and there were many women barely dressed. One had a dress on so short that her ass was showing and she bent over a few times. Do they really need that much attention?...
A. 5 February 2014: Miley Cyrus is laughing all the way to the bank with her attire and postures.... (read in full...)
Everyone has accepted us as a couple, except my dad! How do I get him to come around?
Q. hey guys, just need some advice. so, me and my boyfriend have been going out for some time now, and earlier this year in january we decided we wanted to tell our families. so we did. er1ryone accepted it. but there's just one person who didnt and ...
A. 5 February 2014: Ah, so there are a lot of resentments and anger clouding the family. If you are not getting along with your father and his wife, why are you surprised this didn't go smoothly?
If you want to be treated as an adult, you are going to have to lear... (read in full...)
Everyone has accepted us as a couple, except my dad! How do I get him to come around?
Q. hey guys, just need some advice. so, me and my boyfriend have been going out for some time now, and earlier this year in january we decided we wanted to tell our families. so we did. er1ryone accepted it. but there's just one person who didnt and ...
A. 5 February 2014: You hid your boyfriend from your family for 3 years? No wonder you Dad is having some trouble swallowing this situation. You've basically lied to him for 3 years! He has to adjust that you are not the daughter he thought he had, and that he was so ... (read in full...)
Everyone has accepted us as a couple, except my dad! How do I get him to come around?
Q. hey guys, just need some advice. so, me and my boyfriend have been going out for some time now, and earlier this year in january we decided we wanted to tell our families. so we did. er1ryone accepted it. but there's just one person who didnt and ...
A. 5 February 2014: I expect your Dad doesn't trust your boyfriend, seeing as you two hid your relationship from everyone for a while. Was there any reason you couldn't bring your boyfriend home and introduce him as your boyfriend right away?
Your Dad doesn't know your... (read in full...)
How do I move on, when it's clear that there will be no closure?
Q. My ex dumped me, a little over 3 weeks ago. He told me he loved me in a text and then disappeared. He then turned up on facebook a week later and started posting things right after me in order to provoke a response or get my attention, none of ...
A. 4 February 2014: Well, the good news is that you are rid of this creepy jerk. What a loser, to treat a girlfriend like that.
I think in a year's time, you'll look back and realize you had a lucky escape.
Mourn the relationship, get your friends to support you and ... (read in full...)
How do I move on, when it's clear that there will be no closure?
Q. My ex dumped me, a little over 3 weeks ago. He told me he loved me in a text and then disappeared. He then turned up on facebook a week later and started posting things right after me in order to provoke a response or get my attention, none of ...
A. 4 February 2014: You're not moving. You're stalking him on Facebook and still have his number in your phone. Block him, delete him and really move on, don't just pretend.
Why didn't you follow the advice you asked for? ... (read in full...)
Is he rushing me because he wants to bed me?
Q. So I'm texting a guy who is 9 yrs older than me we've only met once and both admitted there was a strong chemistry we are planning to meet but he seems to be coming across maybe a bit too strongly. Like he's alway saying that we are pointless ...
A. 4 February 2014: You've never had a serious relationship so you may not be able to recognize when a guy is just looking for a hookup.
A guy who is interested in getting to know you for a relationship will not hint at hotel rooms and your flat.
If you have had to s... (read in full...)
He threatened that tomorrow either she's gone or he's gone. Any advice would help!
Q. Hello and thanks I have been married 22 yrs. I got married young. Its been abit of a roller coaster at times but somehow I stayed. My husband can be very mean when he drinks. He calls me names points his finger in my face I tell him to stop. Whe...
A. 4 February 2014: If you haven't reached out for help from this site http://www.thehotline.org I would go ahead and do it. You are about to make a big decision, and you need to be safe.
From the small amount of information you gave about your marriage, it soun... (read in full...)
Do I still have a chance at attracting some 18-29 girl? Even if it's just to have as a friend?
Q. So, I'm 30 years old and I look at my life and feel like the only people I have in it are older people (my family and friends of my father's mostly). Dating-wise, it's gotten to the point where the only attention I ever get is from women at least ...
A. 4 February 2014: Depression didn't keep you from going out on dates when you were asked. You don't have to be a pick up artist to ask a girl out on a date.
Do you have social anxiety on top of the depression? I would discuss this with your mental health prof... (read in full...)
Do I still have a chance at attracting some 18-29 girl? Even if it's just to have as a friend?
Q. So, I'm 30 years old and I look at my life and feel like the only people I have in it are older people (my family and friends of my father's mostly). Dating-wise, it's gotten to the point where the only attention I ever get is from women at least ...
A. 3 February 2014: As I read your question, I was struck by how passive you sound. Even the verbs you choose to describe your situation are passive. I think that if you want to change your situation, you need to take action, to do things, to be your own life's ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her?
Q. I wanted to ask why a guy would check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her? I went on a date with a guy who was interested in me in the beginning he complimented me constantly and told me how much he liked the way I look, but ...
A. 3 February 2014: You went on one date and told him you loved him? That's waaaaaayyyy too fast. Too much too soon.
Next time, let the guy do the pursuing.
I have a book recommendation: "A Fine Romance" by Judith Sills PhD. It covers courtship and I think you'll f... (read in full...)
43 with no children of my own. I'd like to have a child with my gay friend
Q. I am 43 and childless. I would love to have a child but the odds are stacked against me. I would love to have a child for a gay friend. My best friend is gay and I'd love to be able to broach the subject with him but I don't know how I should bro...
A. 3 February 2014: Has your friend ever said anything about wanting to be a parent?... (read in full...)
Tired of husbands childish traits. How should I cope?
Q. Sometimes I really dislike, maybe to the point of hate, my husband. Most of the time he's a great guy. But he has some childish traits that can go beyond irritating. He likes to push buttons and tease to the point where I get genuinely angry,...
A. 30 January 2014: Easy.
When he starts down the path,
"Likelihood of you getting some tonight are now at 75%. Continue and this will drop."
He continues; "Now at 50%."
More "teasing"/abuse from him?
"Oh, biiiiiggg drop. Now down to 10%, next is ZERO. Your choic... (read in full...)
Why do girls suddenly distance themselves from a guy, when things seem to be going great?
Q. Dear cupid I have experienced during my dating that sometimes girls suddenly distance themselves without any warning or explanation whilst you are dating a girl. (She doesn't like anyone else and she's single ). Why the sudden change in attitude w...
A. 28 January 2014: How much time do you spend with this girl in real life? This sounds more like mostly virtual relationship.... (read in full...)
My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?
Q. *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...
A. 24 January 2014: As I said, what he said was a relationship nuclear event. He can't unsay it. It's out there and you need to deal with it.
Go get counseling. If you are as emotionally connected as you portray, then you should be able to work through this.
As th... (read in full...)
My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?
Q. *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...
A. 24 January 2014: Not hearing much in the way of passion here, you are in your 20s, right? So you two were prodded go out on a date by friends and then you did.
And then after x amount of dinner dates all of a sudden he proposed?
You wrote about why you waited t... (read in full...)
Little contact from my boyfriend while he's on vacation. Should I be concerned?
Q. My boyfriend of a year has been on vacation for a month in another country ( visiting family). I went for ten days but now I've been home for 11 days and he has called me just once. I sent a two messages on FB and he did reply both times but very ...
A. 24 January 2014: When is he due back?... (read in full...)
My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?
Q. *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...
A. 24 January 2014: Thank you for the update and more info.
"We dated for a year solid, then got married 6 months right after."
So, who initiated the first date? Who kept the dating going?
Who asked the other to get married? Did you elope?
... (read in full...)
Penises freak me out!
Q. Ok I'll cut straight to it; penis' freak me out! My boyfriend and I were doing some..."fun stuff" and I went to give him oral and...well once it was in my mouth I completely freaked out to the point where i cried (not while I was still down there, ...
A. 23 January 2014: Too much, too fast, for sure.
You aren't ready, so stop pushing it. Relax, when you are ready, you'll know it.
Don't worry about 'moving forward' in your relationship, you're 16-17. It's okay to take things slow.
You weren't ready, you thought ... (read in full...)
My wife of 31 years is no longer interested in sex!
Q. I really need to know what to do when my wife of 37 yrs. say she is not interested in sex anymore.I am 57 yrs and she is 51yrs....
A. 23 January 2014: You got married when she was 14 years old? Wow.
I agree that menopause may be the cause. But we don't know much about how the marriage has been.
You can suggest that she go see the doctor. Do you see the doctor regularly? Are you taking care of ... (read in full...)
My husband told me he doesn't find my body attractive! What now?
Q. *Sorry if it is lengthy** I am in desperate need of advice. To be blunt to start out with, my husband reluctantly told me that he doesn’t find my body to be attractive. I am 24 years old, about to turn 25 next month. My husband is 28 going to...
A. 23 January 2014: You left out a lot in the courtship stuff.
You went from being friends to being married. Who made the first move? You were old enough to be sexually active, did you wait to have sex on religious grounds? It sounds like some story told by some... (read in full...)
He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...
A. 23 January 2014: I don't spend a lot of time contemplating what's in the toilet before I flush it…. just sayin'.
Sorry for that, there were a couple of poop-related questions this week and for some reason, that analogy came to mind. Sorry for all those trying to e... (read in full...)
He bailed on me.. so what's up with him?
Q. Okay, my boyfriend, ex I should say, broke it off with me "unofficially" by disappearing 2 weeks ago. He told me he loved me by text, had nothing to offer, blah blah blah and then disappeared. The last thing he ever said to me was "I love you...". ...
A. 23 January 2014: Who cares what he's thinking?
Block him and move on. Let him think he's making an impact on you when you are free of him.
It's very creepy, when you think about it.
Lose the loser, block him on FB and go enjoy life! You are creep-free, ... (read in full...)
Why would a guy check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her?
Q. I wanted to ask why a guy would check out a woman's profile if he wasn't interested in dating her? I went on a date with a guy who was interested in me in the beginning he complimented me constantly and told me how much he liked the way I look, but ...
A. 21 January 2014: Maybe he has a memory the size of a pea, forgot he's gone on a date with you and looked at your profile again and then dimly remembered?
I would stop the texting relationship and let him go off into the mists of time.
His not asking you out agai... (read in full...)
Little contact from my boyfriend while he's on vacation. Should I be concerned?
Q. My boyfriend of a year has been on vacation for a month in another country ( visiting family). I went for ten days but now I've been home for 11 days and he has called me just once. I sent a two messages on FB and he did reply both times but very ...
A. 21 January 2014: Are you in contact daily when you are in the same place? I can see why you'd be concerned.
How did the trip go? Were you meeting his family for the first time? Has the relationship been going okay?
I would do my best not to get riled up right no... (read in full...)
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