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writes:What is happening? I've still not heard from him:( I'm worried?I spoke to my boyfriend saturday afternoon and he said he was going to take a nap he will ring me when he wakes up.He didn't ring me in the evening, I tried to call him but I got no answer I've sent him messages but he's not read them(it'd say seen if he had read them)Is monday morning and Ive still not heard from him and that's not him at all we talk a lot if times in a day. His phone is ringing and he's not answering and he still hasn't read the texts from yesterday.I feel so restless. He's gone to a different country for a few weeks but the way we communicate hasn't changed.He's always with his one friend but I don't know his number:( what do I do? I'm worried:( I miss my babyHe's staying with his cousin but I don't have her number.I'm so worried. I couldn't sleep last night:(
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (26 March 2014):
 I'm glad he is safe and sounds. I agree that he SHOULD have found a way to get hold of you (work or e-mail) but no need to cry over spilled milk.
Take a deep breath and relax.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (26 March 2014):
 Good news! Now exchange email addresses so this kind of thing doesn't happen again - he could've emailed you from an internet cafe days ago and saved you sleepless nights!
You do worry excessively (or at least, you did in this situation) - I know because I'm the same. In future you have to try your best not to catastrophise, thinking of the worst case scenario, and focus instead on what's more realistic/ likely. Easier said than done, but if you can get over suffering such levels of anxiety that lead to sleepless nights, life will be easier :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionYay he called! He said his phone broke and he took it to get fixed and that took a few days but he couldn't ring me off his friend's phone cause he doesn't know my number off heart. He says he's okay.xxI feel so much better. Thank you all for your support and your words of encouragent..x thank you..xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2014): I have to say that I am rubbish at remembering phone numbers, I even forget my landline after having the same number for years. It could be my age mind you. But mobiles even more so!
It does sound as if his phone has been stolen or lost. When is he due back?
Do you also communicate by email? That would be my next port of call. It's possible he's lost his phone and as he told you he would be away, he didn't think you would be worried if he didn't ring you or let you know, especially if he gets back soon.
If he's planning to be away for a longer period, then I would try an alternative route. It's tough one because I would be feeling the same.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 March 2014):
My guess is he lost or had his phone stolen. If he is anything like 90% of people these days he hasn't your number memorized.
Could you remember his phone number without checking your contact list? I bet you not.
Unless like us old folks who had to remember stuff like that and still use that habit lol.
Who is he with? Could also be that he is actually busy with friends and family, then if you add him having his phone stolen or broken it kind of makes more sense.
If you know his last name and where his family lives, maybe you can white page his parents?
Any of his friends know his parents? Or who he is with in Italy? IF he on holiday or work?
If you don't know how to get hold of him, there really isn't anything you CAN do.
Sorry, I hope he "just" got his phone stolen and nothing more. I hope he is OK.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 March 2014):
 Contact his friends and his family. If you don't know how to reach them then clearly there's some disconnect here.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionEven if he hasn't paid his phone bill he would've gone to the phone booth to call me. He never goes a day without speaking to me and now is been 3days & he hasn't read the texts I sent him 3 days ago? No that's not my boyfriend at all. Something is wrong I can feel it.
What should I do? I haven't slept a wink. I spoke to his friend here but he's saying the same thing he's not answering his phone & he hasn't signed in on neither viber or whatsapp or Skype:(
He's in Italy I really need your help please. What should I do?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 March 2014):
Could it be he didn't pay his phone bill?
Talk to his friends and ask if they have heard from him.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe already has internet on his phone so he won't need wifi to get my whatsapp messages.
He's in Italy and no, I don't have his mothers contact. :( is Tuesday now & he still hasn't read his messages and his phone keeps ringing but no answer I asked his friend to try but he got no response too.
I'm really scared I can't sleep:(
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 March 2014):
And which country is he in?
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (24 March 2014):
Did you call his parents?
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reader, Daisy_Daisy +, writes (24 March 2014):
If you're texting him via Whatsapp (or equivalent), he won't see the messages until he gets to a place with wifi. Hope you hear from him soon.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): Have you tried emailing him or any of the social networking sites?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionNo I still haven't heard from him. I'm so scared that something must have happened to him. He still hasn't read the texts I sent him on Saturday. I'm so restless I don't know what to do:(
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 March 2014): If his phone is ringing and there's no answer it's one of several things. He's lost it, it's been stolen, or he's in a situation where he can't or doesn't want to answer it. I hope it's just lost or he is too busy.
Have you heard from him yet?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 March 2014):
 Calm down. You heard from him Saturday afternoon and it's just Monday morning . He might have lost his phone, or maybe it went broken or stolen. He may be wearing off some massive post - Saturday night hangover. And since he is abroad visiting friends and family there, he might have been so genuinely busy, and they may have been so pushy in organizing things for him and snatching away his time and attention, that he literally had no time to communicate with you. There could be scores of reasons, other than bad stuff like a serious illness or accident, to prevent him from contacting you as usual.
If you don't hear from him in another 48 hours, then you can start assuming that something unusual has happened, and by this , again, I don't mean death or car accidents,- just some unforeseen complication that's always possible when you travel.
At which point, you can start asking his friends / relatives / workplace if they have heard from him , or his cousin, and/ or if they have any contact number for there.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (24 March 2014):
Calm down. You heard from him Saturday afternoon and it's just Monday morning . He might have lost his phone, or maybe it went broken or stolen. He may be wearing off some massive post - Saturday night hangover. And since he is abroad visiting friends and family there, he might have been so genuinely busy, and they may have been so pushy in organizing things for him and snatching away his time and attention, that he literally had no time to communicate with you. There could be scores of reasons, other than bad stuff like a serious illness or accident, to prevent him from contacting you as usual.
If you don't hear from him in another 48 hours, then you can start assuming that something unusual has happened, and by this , again, I don't mean death or car accidents,- just some unforeseen complication that's always possible when you travel.
At which point, you can start asking his friends / relatives / workplace if they have heard from him , or his cousin, and/ or if they have any contact number for there.
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reader, fi_the_tree +, writes (24 March 2014):
 First of all, you need to calm down. Excessive worry is not going to get you anywhere. You need to think about how else you can get in touch with his family members. What about social media? Ask his friends to attempt to get in touch, emails etc.
I doubt anything bad has happened, he may have even lost his phone perhaps?
Good luck anyway, i hope you do hear from him
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