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writes:My age is kinda important in this so, I'm 16.Every time I've ever had sex I've gotten a uti afterwards. I always pee when we're done, but I still get one. I've even tried peeing at different times afterwards. One time I peed right after me and my boyfriend were done. (I literally jumped up and said "I gotta pee" and went to the bathroom) and I still got a uti, other times I've peed about 10-20 minutes afterwards, And still got one. I've been to the doctor and got antibiotics for it and it went away, but about a week later when I had sex, I got another one. Me and my boyfriend do not use a condom because I am on birth control. But to be safe he still pulls out before he cums. He doesn't have any std's or sti's. (after his last girlfriend he was tested. I've done a lot of reading about this and everything I've read says that some people are just prone to uti's and because they have a sticky bladder wall, making it easier for the bacteria to stick. I've also read that your doctor can prescribe you a low dose antibiotic to take each time after you have sex. So I'm going to go to a doctor and talk to them about it. But my problem is my mom. She knows I've been sexually active in the past, but she doesn't know me and my current boyfriend are sexually active. If she does know she'll more than likely get really mad. (My moms a little on the crazy side. I don't know how to get her to take me to the doctor without her getting mad at me for having sex. if I just tell her I have a uti and I need to go, she'll be fine. I can just ask her not to go to the back with me. But will the doctor have to tell my mom I'm sexually active? Also, is there anything I can do without going to the doctor that'll keep me from getting uti's? Thanks for any advice!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 October 2014):
 I used to get UTIs all the time from sex. It did not change till after I was a mom and also I stopped using a diaphragm for birth control (do they even still use them??)
Your doctor will not discuss this with your mom if you don't want him/her to. just tell them that you would like to keep it private.
I used to keep pyridium in the house to help counter the pain and urgency and sulfa drugs (since I had hemorrhagic UTIs it was always very obvious I had one) but you need to see a dr to diagnose it and get treatment.
I have read that blueberry juice is actually better than cranberry for UTIs.
Pee both before and right after sex.
lots of clear fluids.
good hygiene for you and bf is important.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (5 October 2014):
 My advice - try using condoms.
Well, FIRST - go see your doctor and get the UTI treated. Some women get UTIs at the drop of a hat. You might be one of those.
Prevention - By Mayo Clinic Staff
Take these steps to reduce your risk of urinary tract infections:
Drink plenty of liquids, especially water. Drinking water helps dilute your urine and ensures that you'll urinate more frequently — allowing bacteria to be flushed from your urinary tract before an infection can begin.
Wipe from front to back. Doing so after urinating and after a bowel movement helps prevent bacteria in the anal region from spreading to the vagina and urethra.
Empty your bladder soon after intercourse. Also, drink a full glass of water to help flush bacteria.
Avoid potentially irritating feminine products. Using deodorant sprays or other feminine products, such as douches and powders, in the genital area can irritate the urethra. Protect your urethra. Although they haven't been conclusively linked to raising UTI risk, bubble bath and bath oils, perfumed products used on or near the genitals, and poor hygiene can irritate the urethra. Some doctors suggest switching from tampons to sanitary pads, since tampons may give bacteria more opportunity to enter the body and irritate the urethra.
Cranberry, long lauded as a UTI-fighting fruit, actually changes the surface of E. coli bacteria so that it cannot bind to the urinary tract. If it can't take hold, your body has more time and opportunity to flush it out of your system before it has a chance to grow in large amounts. Try cranberry juice or tablets, but check with your doctor because cranberry may not be good for those with a history of kidney stones or for those on blood-thinners.
AND talk to your mom. Hiding that you are sexually active is not a smart thing to do.
You BF may not ejaculate INSIDE you but that doesn't mean he doesn't leave precum or some of HIS "juices".. male juices can SERIOUSLY screw with the Ph level of the vagina. Even if it's a drop or two. If he uses his mouth on your henitals or fingers.. there is even more chance of germs going where you don't need/want them so be mindful, but don't go crazy :)
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reader, YouWish +, writes (4 October 2014):
 How good is your boyfriend's hygiene? How good is yours?? That makes a huge difference when it comes to UTI's.
Other than that, what do you mean by your mom being "crazy"? And, you should wear condoms. Pregnancy isn't the only danger out there - STI's may be a more direct threat. To be honest, how do you know that you're not dealing with an STI rather than a UTI?? It isn't normal to have these medical issues every time.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (4 October 2014):
 "I've been to the doctor and got antibiotics for it and it went away, but about a week later when I had sex, I got another one. Me and my boyfriend do not use a condom because I am on birth control." You need to see your doctor. Tell your mother you have another UTI. Doesn't she know you are on BC?
Best not to have sex for now until you've seen your doctor. Good luck!
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