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writes:Well I finally unfriended a girl who ran off with a guy I was into. They both had stopped speaking to me on Facebook, so because I was annoyed about the situation - I unfriended her thinking it would make me feel better.However, although I can't see their constant chats now, which is good, I would've thought she would've at least messaged me to see what was going on - but she has just ignored the fact.How can someone who was a close friend suddenly turn her back and be so cold?I am trying to move on from this situation the best I can - but whichever way I turn - I still feel I'm being betrayed. How do I move on?
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks Tisha & others. I am quite a busy person anyway - but it's just those quiet moments at night time when my brain gets thinking!!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 January 2015):
 You are waiting for the woman who ran off with your boyfriend to ask why you unfriended her on facebook? Really?
She's demonstrated that she cares nothing for your feelings. So why are you punishing yourself waiting around for her to say "I'm sorry"? She's not sorry. If she was sorry, she would not have done what she did.
Count yourself lucky to be rid of her and him and research the phases of grief.
You'll see that what yor are experiencing is normal and what you need now is to be aware of those phases so you can move forward.
Re-read what Aunty BimBim wrote, in fact, write up a "to-do" list and get started on it ASAP.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (7 January 2015):
 All what Auntie Bim said.
And... IF she isn't even BOTHERING to ask why, she knows and doesn't care. That is not a good friend.
And yes, it's about time you accept that THEY are a better fit then he and you were. Doesn't mean you weren't "good enough" just means he wasn't for you.
LET it go.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (7 January 2015):
 HOW TO MOVE ON
1. close your facebook account for a month
2. put on a coat and some sensible shoes and go for a walk, even if just around the block
3. enroll in a night class or similar, woodwork or, pottery or Thai cooking, you will be in a completely different pool of people with opportunity for conversation and interaction
4. give back to your community, volunteer, cover books at the school library or listen to kids read, go play cards or dominoes with a senior citizen.
5. escape into a fantasy world by reading fiction, try different genre.
Keep yourself busy and create a new life for yourself, judging by the number of questions you have submitted about this situation, its time you simply accepted the man in question found he connected better with your former friend than with you.
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