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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 25 April 2012: Ah, so the question you posed was to ask people generally if they would date someone who did porn?
So what have you learned? That people have differing ideas and some will date a porn model and some won't. Is that surprising to you?... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 24 April 2012: As for being broke, well, let me tell you that I spent a lot of weeks eating cheap nasty hotdogs with coleslaw because that was all I could afford. Passed up a lot of evenings out with friends because I couldn't buy anything and wore a lot of old ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 24 April 2012: Where would you like to be?
And how much will that $2500 be after taxes? It'll be a lot less. That may also show up on future credit reports or background checks for different jobs.
I'm not hearing that you've actually thought this all the way ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 24 April 2012: It's not so much the perceived promiscuity as the reasons people imagine lie behind the decision to do porn. That's what niggles at people. Why would a lovely young woman decide to do porn? There's something that happened to her that has led her to ... (read in full...)
I want to get married to this man someday, but to stand at the alter with the man who used to abuse me standing by his side, is unthinkable!
Q. I love the man I am with, unfortunately his best friend is an ex of mine, an abusive ex. His argument is that they have been friends longer than I have known him and that everyone makes mistakes. He is a godly man and believes we need to forgive one ...
A. 24 April 2012: There's forgiveness and there's being best friends with an abusive man. I'd probably give up the boyfriend, just because the ex would always be in the picture, not just at the wedding. ... (read in full...)
Would you date someone who has done porn?
Q. I am going to do a photo shoot in a few weeks...a photo shoot for a pornographic magazine and website. My closest friends, the only ones who know about it, have said that it may affect future relationships that I have. But is that really true? ...
A. 24 April 2012: Here are the things that occur to me when I hear someone is choosing to do porn:
She's been abused
She had an absent or abusive or distant father
She started having sex too young
She's confused about what kind of male attention is desirable
Sh... (read in full...)
How do I find out if he's just stringing me along?
Q. Boyfriend of a yr and a half only talks about us getting together when we're retired - that 17 yrs from now! We both own separate homes now yet we spend 3-5 nights together every week. I want to be under one roof but he says nothing about our near ...
A. 24 April 2012: Why don't you ask him to marry you? I know, that's a big step to take but if it is that important to you, asking him will make it pretty clear if he will or won't. You've been together long enough to have figured out if you two are compatible ... (read in full...)
Why is he so upset I won't move in with him?
Q. So I will try to be brief... This guy I have been seeing for a couple months is moving to another city about three hours away. He has been stressing and trying to discuss what to do about seeing each other for awhile since he told me about th...
A. 23 April 2012: Sorry for the delay in responding. I wanted to say that I think he's operating with a fantasy of how the relationship should go, and that you failed to play your 'role' in his imaginary love story.
The fact he's pressuring you to move in after only... (read in full...)
How do men react before a damsel in distress?
Q. So 2 weeks ago I told my bf things are over. Every day since, he has been waiting for me in front of my house when getting from work to try and fix things. I dont want him back. Moreover, I have been spending the last week at work until crazy hours ...
A. 20 April 2012: You have an exboyfriend who is showing up at your house every day for 2 weeks? You have a stalker.
Rather than ask a married friend for help, which will entangle him in an already ugly situation, and create chaos in his home and love life (whi... (read in full...)
Are we going too fast?
Q. This is going to sound really awkward so bare with me. Basically my best friend has been continually harassed throughout her relationship, having people tell her boyfriend she is cheating etc. One of the guys she was accused of cheating with is...
A. 19 April 2012: Yep, you are going too fast. You've known him 8 days and he's talking about sex? Tell him nothing below the neck for 3 months at least and then see if he actually sticks around.
If he keeps on with the comments that make you wonder, tell him that... (read in full...)
I cum within 30 seconds of g/f touching me
Q. 24 male. I recently lost my virginity to my girlfriend, it was by choice I decided to wait.... Well now I have a problem. I can't last long at all. I mean to the point where at first I would end up blowing my load in my jeans from her grindin...
A. 19 April 2012: This will get better as you get used to sexual activity. To make sure she is satisfied with your encounters, focus on her pleasure as well as yours. Don't just stop, dejected, because you ejaculated too quickly. Keep on pleasuring her, orally or ... (read in full...)
I really hate being the first born!
Q. I've always hated my birth order. As the first born your parents always rule you with an iron fist. But with the younger siblings they ALWAYS treat them differently no matter what. As the first you always have to be responsible and cautious. Yet ...
A. 19 April 2012: It sounds like you are spending a great deal of energy 'hating' a reality that you cannot change and cannot undo. A lot of resentment sits behind those words.
It sounds counterintuitive but perhaps the best thing for you to do is to embrace your... (read in full...)
Caught my boyfriend flirting with another woman over Facebook, will he do it again? Has he already done it since and lied to me?
Q. hi my i caught my partner flirting with another woman over facebook. he lets me check my ex's profile via his. i always ask though. and he got really defensive when i asked and then i logged into his and he came out and said it. and he said it was ...
A. 19 April 2012: What did he say when you explained the 'no flirting' rule?
The thing that seems odd is that he was hiding it and then defended it by saying it was just a giggle and he was 'allowed.' He 'allowed' himself but didn't feel it important to let you know... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't like my breasts and prefers smaller ones!
Q. My husband does not like my breasts. Whilst I am a dd cup he prefers smaller breasts. I am not prepared to undergo surgery however this is really undermining my self confidence with him as I feel self conscious. Knowing that he loves me and marr...
A. 19 April 2012: Did your husband actually say out loud to you that he does not like your breasts? Could you please explain how you know he does not like your breasts?... (read in full...)
I am having a really hard time adjustting to Americans.
Q. Ok so I know this is going to upset a few people and I am sorry but I really need some advice. So 4 months ago I was transferred from my office in Melbourne Australia to New York. I didn't really have a choice my work moved my role here so if ...
A. 18 April 2012: New York City is its own entity. I think anyone moving there would feel culture shock.
If I were you, I'd start asking them WHY they ask the questions they do of you. Perhaps they've never examined their own approach to life; you, as an expat, are ... (read in full...)
Translations please of guy-speak? Not sure what my Bf is implying.
Q. Guys, what does it mean when a guy says you are amazing as a girlfriend, but when you try to be pretty you are stunning but when you don't try your blehh? What does this mean in guy speak?...
A. 15 April 2012: It means he's trying to get you to break up with him. No, seriously, it means he thinks you're not spending enough time wearing makeup and dressing up. I don't think I'd keep this one. You'd have to get up before he does and get all made up every ... (read in full...)
Did he mean it or was he just saying it?
Q. I was seeing this guy for 2 months and it ended a week ago- i ended it because he said he didn't know if he wanted a relationship anyway i text him on thursday and said i missed him. He text back saying 'aww, miss u too'. Did he mean it or was he ...
A. 14 April 2012: Probably just saying it. No way of knowing, really, as the intent behind a few words on a text message can be mistaken. It would be clearer if he were actively chasing you down and trying to contact you first.
I wouldn't get your hopes up.... (read in full...)
Guys, are women with big boobs more 'valuable' than the rest of us?
Q. I was talking to my BF and he said that he was more inclined to treat a woman with big boobs with more care, respect and spoil her than a woman with smaller boobs. Of course I have a small B cup, and I asked him why he was with me. He said that I ...
A. 14 April 2012: To answer your question, of course not. Your boyfriend is an idiot. Either he said it and didn't mean it, in which case he's a clueless oaf, or he said it because he meant it, in which case, he's told you how he plans to treat you. Or he's teasing ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 13 April 2012: Maybe a woman would be a better choice, provided she will tell you what you can do to make yourself more attractive. Sometimes a diagnosis requires a professional. You can do all the home-concocted remedies you want but if the condition is serious, ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 13 April 2012: Apparently women want more from a man than a good resume, as your examples show. Go get that advice. You're not convincing me, you aren't convincing anyone else here. Matchmaker or life coach. Invest. It's that or continue to do the same thing and ... (read in full...)
Why do people think the opposite sex cant be just friends
Q. Hi just a quick question why do people always assume that a woman and a man can't be friends without there being more to it this man and me met through my step sister and we get on well (as friends) but people always say they don't believe we are ...
A. 13 April 2012: Because some people assume all male/female relationship dynamics are based solely on sexual attraction. Don't worry about it, you can't change those sorts of mindsets, except by being an example. Best thing to do is laugh it off and ignore them if ... (read in full...)
Torn between past and now
Q. Dear Cupids, I am extremely confused right now and could seriously do with some advise. Last year I ended a LTR with my partner of 7 years. Our r/ship at first was amazing..and I fel head over heels for this guy...Unfortunately due to several c...
A. 13 April 2012: Why can't you be honest with your current boyfriend about the ex issue, if you know you aren't going back? Perhaps this uncertainty and confusion is a sign that you aren't fully committed to the new guy and need to take a breather from this ... (read in full...)
I feel like a freak because I don't want children!
Q. Is it weird that I don't want children? Sometimes I feel like a freak. All the women in my family are VERY fertile, they all have kids and most started at young ages. Even all the men in my family have or want children. So when I tell my mother and ...
A. 13 April 2012: No, it's not weird that you don't want children. It's perfectly common. The thing for you is to not make a big deal about it. You don't need to bring it up with your family, just live your life. They'll eventually come around and when you move out, ... (read in full...)
20 something guy is interested and calling my wife. How should I handle this?
Q. I think I need to run some marriage interference? Protection? Not sure how to put it. My wife and I are both in our late 30's. Married almost 20 years, we got married shortly after high school. We have 3 wonderful children and love each other ...
A. 13 April 2012: As she's the one who knows him, why not let her set the boundaries? Calling him and threatening to kill him on the basis of one dirty dance and a couple of phone calls seems to be a bit, um, on the overkill side. Let her deal with him, if you've ... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 13 April 2012: So we went from you being angry she didn't know how to sew a button on to all women are woefully neglectful of keeping up their domestic duties and acquiring a skill base just because it's a traditionally female role? Ah.
Right. Vent away.
I'm p... (read in full...)
Are women losing their skills in "traditional" roles?
Q. Are women losing skills in roles they traditionally did like cooking and housekeeping? If so, what skills are they gaining instead? Let me first say that I love my wife, but I was shocked at how little she is able to do. She is an excellent ...
A. 12 April 2012: She's not interested in cleaning house. Are you? Do you like doing repetitive tasks?
If you know how to do these things, and are the one interested in getting them done, it seems logical that you be the one to do them. If you are not able to do them... (read in full...)
I want to kiss my gay male friend but I'm unsure how to, or if I should even do it?
Q. Hi everyone I would really appreciate some assistance with a problem. I also would like serious help here - it might not seem like a big deal to you, but to me its been on my mind. Right, here we go ;) I have this gay best friend and we c...
A. 12 April 2012: I remember your other posts. Just because he MAY be sexual with other women doesn't mean he wants that with you. Sorry but I think you are setting yourself up for a major rejection. Though perhaps this is the natural evolution of your relationship, ... (read in full...)
Should I press charges because she uploaded a photo of us on facebook?
Q. Hi. I'm new, here. Last week, I have had a photograph of me with a female friend. I thought she would NOT post the photograph on the internet. However, just yesterday, I check her Facebook, just to see her photo album, as she mentionned a nea...
A. 12 April 2012: Most people in this situation just ask the person in question to take it off FB. You can also report the photo as being inappropriate by using the little icons around the photo. Pressing charges seems to be a bit drastic if you haven't tried simply ... (read in full...)
I really want a tattoo of my deceased ex boyfriend's name but my friends think its a bad idea
Q. Okay, basically my ex boyfriend died in december, we had been broken up a couple months before he died but he was my first true love and never got over it and when he died it just tore me up even more. I feel like I've lost apart of me. I really ...
A. 11 April 2012: Oh, and for what it's worth, I think there's going to be good money investing in companies who specialize in tattoo removal. There are going to be scads of customers in the years to come, as people realize they shouldn't have had certain tattoos ... (read in full...)
I really want a tattoo of my deceased ex boyfriend's name but my friends think its a bad idea
Q. Okay, basically my ex boyfriend died in december, we had been broken up a couple months before he died but he was my first true love and never got over it and when he died it just tore me up even more. I feel like I've lost apart of me. I really ...
A. 11 April 2012: Wait one full year and then revisit the idea. Mark your calendar and decide then. That will give you enough time not to make any decisions which have a permanent result based on temporary feelings of loss and grief, okay?
In the meantime, get a piec... (read in full...)
Boyfriend uses cocaine and is physically abusive. Can I help him in any way? Or just forget about him?
Q. I Have been dating my boyfriend for a year now. I know we love each other very much he never cheated. The only problem is he smokes cocaine now and then and he has a lot of friends which makes him very aggresive when he has done it. He even hit ...
A. 11 April 2012: He has to want to get help, to stop using drugs and to admit to and address his physical violence toward you. If he doesn't want to get help, there's not much you can do. I would suggest you check into Al-Anon, which is designed to help people who ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is horribly selfish in bed!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for a while now and I dread having sex! Previously sex consisted of him pushing my head between his legs. He would lie there groaning while I gave him oral. He would rub his hand up and down my back, eventually when my ...
A. 11 April 2012: You're his sex toy.
Express to him what you would like in bed. If he can't provide it, um, well, then he's not the boyfriend for you.
If you have already told him and he's not paying any attention, he's selfish and you may as well end it now. It'... (read in full...)
Help me compose a note to this actor!
Q. I met an actor after a show last week, and i want to write to him on facebook, saying that it was lovely to meet him, and i enjoyed the show, and that i hope to see him at the theatre again and meet him again, and that i hope to see him on tv more ( ...
A. 11 April 2012: Tell us the purpose of the note. Is it simply a 'thank you' note or are you hoping for more?
... (read in full...)
Is it bad to tell a white lie to avoid fighting?
Q. I hate DRAMA!!! I would always fight with my ex because we always wanted to be right!!! so eventually I smartened up and realized it really doesnt matter and gave in to an argument to not fight. Im currently dating a girl and doing the same thing. I ...
A. 11 April 2012: The reason you are finding drama in your relationships is because you are acting a role. You are pretending to be someone you are not, and when that mask slips a bit, the 'audience' realizes that she isn't getting the show she signed up for.
I... (read in full...)
Help me compose a note to this actor!
Q. I met an actor after a show last week, and i want to write to him on facebook, saying that it was lovely to meet him, and i enjoyed the show, and that i hope to see him at the theatre again and meet him again, and that i hope to see him on tv more ( ...
A. 11 April 2012: Hey, I have asked the odd celebrity for an autograph on the rare occasions I see one. The thing is, I know they have a life, and I have a life and the likelihood that said celebrity will suddenly say 'hey Tisha, come hang with me, and be my ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 11 April 2012: And boom, there it is. The reason you don't ask anyone out. The reason no one asks you out. You don't think you have anything to offer.
Until that idea of yours changes, nothing will change for you.
You could ask a matchmaker or a life coach ho... (read in full...)
Who is right, me or my wife? And what advice do we give our friends?
Q. I searched the internet for advice sites, and I ended up here. We (my wife and I) have a question. We have some friends who are a little younger than us (mid 20's). They are engaged to be married. The Guy has an apartment, and the Girl moved back ...
A. 11 April 2012: Marriage lesson number one. You will never agree on every single thing in a marriage and you will be confronted by hundreds of potential rifts. Some of these things will be minor, like the toothpaste squeeze issue (solved by getting a pump version). ... (read in full...)
Are these mixed signals? Am I over-thinking things?
Q. I'm 19 and I'm quite inexperienced with dating etc. I met this guy through a friend today, we hadn't actually seen each other before, this was the 1st time. But we have been talking everyday for 3 weeks and have spoken on the phone multiple t...
A. 10 April 2012: I think you are over thinking things right now. He may well be interested in you but you have to remember that you two just met in person for the first time.
The timing issue is a bit odd but perhaps he has a point, would you have come to his home... (read in full...)
Husband wants me to have sex with another man, but he doesn't want to watch, he just wants me to tell him about it. What is this called?
Q. Can someone please tell me... " my husband wants me to have sex with another man, he does not want to watch but he wants me to tell him about it" What is this called? ...
A. 10 April 2012: In reading your other answer, I'm a bit puzzled. You described your relationship with your boyfriend (husband now?) as being amazing. Is there a reason you simply can't ask him what has changed? He broke up with you in June of last year and then ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 10 April 2012: And I go back to that comment, you do need to find out why you are perceived as 'creepy.' That, and your attitude, are what are wrecking your chances of dating. You have to ask a girl out in order to get a girlfriend. In order to ask a girl out, you ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 10 April 2012: Dating professional, life coach, professional matchmaker. Whatever the term is, you are seeking an unbiased person who can assess your "date-ability" and tell you what you need to address. Female friends who tell you are creepy but don't elaborate ... (read in full...)
Only been together 4 days but I think he doesn't like me anymore! Help!
Q. Well I am only 13 but my boyfriend and I have only been together for 4 days and I feel like he doesn't like me any more, he doesn't reply to my text's and when he does he just put's like 'k' or 'what'. When I say to him I love him he just put's back ...
A. 10 April 2012: I was 13 too and I remember being head over heels for a boy... I wanted him to LOVE ME as much as I loved him, right now, right away, no waiting around FALL IN LOVE WITH ME NOWWWWWWWW!!!!
And I scared him right away.
You're coming on too strong. ... (read in full...)
Married teacher is always staring at me....what should I think?
Q. OMG, I just can't figure what's going on? (my male teacher) He's married and he's 32-33 - ALWAYS stares ONLY at me in class for so long and sometimes I look back, but he doesn't turn away and stares deeper in my eyes, so I instinctively felt that he ...
A. 10 April 2012: I've discovered as I age that my eyesight got worse, I had to really try to focus on things that once were easy to see. I suspect your teacher has an eyesight issue.
I like Aunty BimBim's idea too, that he's trying to 'shame' you into doing your... (read in full...)
She was a virgin when she met me but had dated a guy before me, I get so jealous because of this! Am I wrong? What should I do?
Q. I'm 5 years of marriage and i am my wife's first man, she was virgin before me i wasn't. The fact is she used to date a guy by distance and we have a lovely friend who is this guy parent! I get jealous everytime we have to go to a child party or to ...
A. 10 April 2012: I've seen you post before on this topic. You clearly are struggling with the jealousy issue and expect your wife to comprehend your feelings. The problem for her is that your fears and jealousy appear to be baseless, not grounded in reality. They ... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend?
Q. I would like to know how I can get a girlfriend. I am a 36 year old male who has never had any kind of a relationship with a woman.(not even a week long fling when i was at school) I have never been in a situation where it is appropriate to g...
A. 5 April 2012: You have to figure out why you are perceived as creepy. Something in your demeanor or presentation is giving that 'vibe.'
I have a girl friend who is my age, which is, alas, early 50s. She has never managed to keep a man interested in her. She is c... (read in full...)
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