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writes:Well I am only 13 but my boyfriend and I have only been together for 4 days and I feel like he doesn't like me any more, he doesn't reply to my text's and when he does he just put's like 'k' or 'what'. When I say to him I love him he just put's back lol or hahaha and I don't know what to do because I like him soo much and I don't want to loose him so soon. Please help? :(
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 April 2012): hey,one of my friends went through this and he probibly doesnt like the fact that your moving to fast. saying i love you after 4 days? that would scare me away. when he doesnt reply maybe hes busy. your 13 trust me he's not worth getting worried over there WILL be more guys that you will like. and if he's not busy and doesnt want to talk to you screw him once again hes not worth it. :) hope i helped with out sounding mean.
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reader, sunandstars +, writes (11 April 2012):
I don't want to sound patronising, but you're not in love. Unlike some of the people that have answered, I'm not an adult, I'm 16 and I was in your situation just three years ago. I had many 'boyfriends' who I thought I 'loved' but just trust me, you don't love him. I really don't want to offend you, but really, you WILL look back at this amd realise how silly you were being. There will come a time in a few years when you'll mature and you'll realise exactly what you want from your perfect boy, and you'll wait for it if you have any sense. I know it's cliche, but school work is more important than boys right now, just let yourself mature, and save yourself the emotional pain.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): You don't love him - you have a crush on him. It will pass. Teenage boys tend to think this is all hilarious. But some will feel as you do. Your hormones are all over the place and things like physical attractions are hard to understand. My advice is relax. You have so much life ahead of you. And for the next few years getting an education is very important. Sounds dull I know, boys come and go but an education will stand you in good stead for the rest of your life.
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reader, landomando  +, writes (10 April 2012):
He doesnt like you. Hes what 13 too.? I did the same thing as a kid.. i grew up tho
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 April 2012):
 I was 13 too and I remember being head over heels for a boy... I wanted him to LOVE ME as much as I loved him, right now, right away, no waiting around FALL IN LOVE WITH ME NOWWWWWWWW!!!!
And I scared him right away.
You're coming on too strong. Let there be gaps in communication. Make him WANT to spend time with you. If you feel so desperate to be with him, have a friend you call text or call instead, to help you cope with this need for connection to him.
It's only been 4 days. It's a tiny amount of time, I know it feels huge and right and so so real but SLOW DOWN, okay? Tell him you were just teasing about the "I love you" bits and that you just kinda like him a little and want to see if he's worth hanging around with...
You'll be doing yourself a favor if you learn how to do this now, so you don't come across as being clingy or nagging.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): 4 days is a very long time to be with someone OP, usually after 3 days the honeymoon period ends, you fall out of love and you have to start thinking about moving in together on the 5th day, getting married on the 6th day, then rest on the 7th day before having kids in week two.
Okay all the above is sarcasm if you can't tell.
You're moving too fast, too soon. 4 days is too soon to even be boyfriend and girlfriend and you definitely don't love him OP so stop saying it. You're freaking him out, so stop saying all that love stuff and relax. This the part of the relationship were you have fun, go on dates, see if you're even compatible by hanging out and maybe having a kiss every now and again. Cut all the love crap until much later. You will know what real love is eventually and really liking a guy as you do now, is not that. Just have some fun, dating is a laugh, you're not meant to take it so seriously.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (10 April 2012):
 4 days is a bit too soon to be telling somebody you love them. Maybe he replies with a hahahaha or a lol because he doesnt know what else to say.
I would try backing off a bit, stop expecting too much too soon from this relationship, stop with the "I love you's" and instead try just enjoying his company with nothing heavy expected.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (10 April 2012):
 Maybe he liked the "idea" of a girlfriend but not really having a girlfriend.
And honey, 4 days is a little soon to declare "love" to someone, specially at your age.
You guys are 13, SLOW down, get to know him and NOT via text.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 April 2012): You're 13, you're young and should just be having fun, he doesn't sound like much of a nice guy so I'd just end it and move on, don't take it personally. There's plenty of nice guys out there so don't get hung up on this one!
If you really do feel so strongly about him then you're going to have to confront him and ask him where he stands.
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reader, joanna11 +, writes (10 April 2012):
ok first, your thirteen second, if you like him you dont love him yet and you shouldnt love him after just 4 short days relationships dont always work out and sometimes they dont like you back. the only way to a good relationship is to be honest with eachother and talk to eachother about whats bothering you
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