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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm feeling a mess, please help!
Q. Dumped almost a year ago , I never got a reasonable answer,(short term relationship), happily single for years before that. I didn't want lots of questions from family/friends in case it didn't work out (guess I was right there...)so said we were ...
A. 26 March 2012: You know what? It's time to stop putting up a front. Be honest. Say to yourself and everyone, "here I am, this is me, this is what you get." Stop pretending to be something you are not. I think it's too hard to really connect with other people when ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has become way too skinny and his eating habits are driving me nuts!
Q. This may seem like a silly question, but it's something that's really starting to get to me severely. My boyfriend and I recently moved in together. We had lived together once before but his job moved away so we ended up back with our parents...
A. 26 March 2012: I think CindyCares answered this question perfectly.
I think you are at the start of the end of the relationship now. This recent change in his weight (good job he did there, by the way, that's tough to lose 75 lbs) and the way you react to his new ... (read in full...)
I don't want anything serious, should ask my friend for something casual?
Q. There's a friend I met at college by the start of October 2011. We are not really close friends, but we hang out well in college. I'd say I'm the person she talks the most to in college, although the person I'm the closest to in college is another ...
A. 26 March 2012: "I do not like her."
That's all you need to remember. You don't like her. She'll figure that out soon enough.
I'd just move on to someone you DO like and perhaps you won't be confused then.
Good luck.... (read in full...)
I'm 17 weeks pregnant and it now hurts after sex
Q. Hi can someone help me, recently it really hurts after sex, and no i don't have any infections i got checked out yesterday it gets really painful after he ejaculates i have been sexually active for 5 years and its just started happening recently, i ...
A. 23 March 2012: Sounds like a good idea! So what did the doctor check for, you said, "anything possible" so what did he look for, based on your individual symptoms?... (read in full...)
My wife wants the woman I cheated with to tell her about things before she can let it go!
Q. hi there i had an affair 11 years ago and my wife found out 14 months ago .The affair lasted 2 a half years and my wife was devastated i have tried every thing possible to win her back.we have been on holidays i buy her flowers all the time and ...
A. 23 March 2012: "I am not going to councelling at the momment need to just go day to day as i am, but its me thats going to lose out eventually.."
"...this is bad what he has done but a think some people dont try at anything..."
Your husband cheated. You are angr... (read in full...)
My wife agreed to introduce this third woman into our sex life to spice things up, but now I have feelings for her. My insecure wife is fine with other women but not this one, why doesn't she want me to be happy?
Q. My wife and I have been married 14 years. Pregnant at 17 but in love at the time. Because of the diffucultys of being young parents we went through a lot of struggles. I feel this had a registering effect on some of our marriage because of the ...
A. 23 March 2012: Your wife doesn't want to be in a relationship with the woman you chose. Fairly simple. The rest of the argument seems to be deciding whose happiness is most important and who was misleading whom.
At a certain point in most long-lasting rela... (read in full...)
I'm 17 weeks pregnant and it now hurts after sex
Q. Hi can someone help me, recently it really hurts after sex, and no i don't have any infections i got checked out yesterday it gets really painful after he ejaculates i have been sexually active for 5 years and its just started happening recently, i ...
A. 23 March 2012: So what did the doctor think it was caused by? Did he/she just say, 'go home, I have no idea'?... (read in full...)
Is it normal for an attached man to pay for lapdances?
Q. Hi- I'm interested in guys' opinion on this one. Do ou think it's normal for a guy who has a gf to still go to strip clubs on the weekend with his guy friends and to pay for lap dances? I could understand the bachelor party thing and for single guys ...
A. 20 March 2012: My take on this is, NO physical contact of body to body, whether he's sitting on his hands or not. It's cheating in my book. I don't go up to guys in bars and grind on them and I don't expect my guy to have a girl grind on him, especially one that's ... (read in full...)
We are separted, he thinks I cheated. I want to send him a birthday card. Should I?
Q. My husband and I are separated for the last 2months. We had a lot of issues going into this, but the main issue now is he thinks I cheated on him. I want to try and work things out with him, and in the beginning he said he did too, but I am not so ...
A. 20 March 2012: Why would he be angry if you acknowledged that he was celebrating a birthday? If he does get angry, um, isn't that a fairly clear indicator that he's got some issues? Wouldn't it also be possible that he would grow angry because you ignored his ... (read in full...)
Can a girl get pregnant from being fingered with sperm on the fingers?
Q. so my girlfriend and i were having sex... i pulled out and came on her stomach... i got some on my hand which we wiped off with a towel and wiped off her stomach then about 2 minutes later i started to finger her again and fingered her for a while.. ...
A. 20 March 2012: If semen containing sperm came into contact with her vulva or vagina, the answer is yes, she could become pregnant from that. Is it likely? Well, it seems less likely if you completely removed all the semen from yourself and your fingers, but if ... (read in full...)
Why is having sex painful?
Q. why is sex painful...
A. 20 March 2012: It could be for lots of reasons. This would be better directed to your gynecologist. Here is a resource which may help you understand a bit better: http://www.webmd.com/sexual-conditions/sex-pain-directory
... (read in full...)
I can't believe my wife might may be harboring one of the strains of HPV virus just because she gave a few guys blowjobs before she met me!
Q. My wife is always getting cold sores in her mouth. We've always just used over the counter medicine to control/heal it. Finally, after dealing with this for a few years, I took her to see our doctor. He did a checkup, checked out her cold sores, ...
A. 20 March 2012: There's been a big rise in cases of oral cancer, and it is linked to being exposed to HPV during oral sex.
You need to educate yourself, here is some reading for you: http... (read in full...)
How should I deal with my families lack of reaction to change?
Q. Sometimes I feel like I have the lamest family ever! My parents live like stodgy 80-year-olds. Their idea of excitement is baking bread, listening to public radio, or going to church. People with piercings, alternate lifestyles and different ...
A. 19 March 2012: The best way to deal with people who are stuck in a different century is to accept that they are in a different century because they WANT to be there, just as you want to be where you are.
This honestly sounds more like it was written by a 17 year... (read in full...)
Will we start a relationship soon? his mother was not happy I gave him a hickey!
Q. dear cupid it has been a week and i finally talked to my crush who i gave a hickey to by accident. i called him i asked him how his has been and hes like i have been good and then i asked how his mother was because his mother didnt like that i g...
A. 19 March 2012: It sounds like you have a bit of an exuberant personality and perhaps this is the reason you gave him a hickey by 'accident.' Though really, giving a hickey takes a while and is easily avoidable. Maybe he's worried that you will lack self-control ... (read in full...)
Nervous about my first kiss!
Q. Im nervous about my first kiss, I've had plenty of chances to kiss people but I just get so nervous and back out. I'm going to meet the guy this weekend and he wants to kiss me....
A. 19 March 2012: How much time have you spent with him? It sounds like you've only ever talked to him online or via text or like that.
If you aren't ready for the kiss, you aren't ready. No big deal. You won't feel like backing out when you are ready. You'll just... (read in full...)
I'm afraid of talking to girls!
Q. hi i am 18 years old. i am from a village. recently i have moved to city for ma bachlors degree. i am really affraid of talking to girls. whenever i start a talk i become nervous and sweaty and just cant carry on the conversation and maybe thats why ...
A. 18 March 2012: Pretend you are talking to one of your male friends. It sounds like you are afraid of being considered naive or unsophisticated, as you mention the village background. Remember that there are many accomplished and intelligent people who come from ... (read in full...)
How can I get pregnant faster?
Q. I got my first depo shot in December, it is now march, therefor I should be coming off of the depo. I want to conceive but I have read that it takes months or even years to become pregnant. So I would like to know if I have had Only one shot and I ...
A. 18 March 2012: These sound like great questions for your OB/GYN! Only she or he knows your individual medical history, after all.
Good luck with your family planning!... (read in full...)
I saw him about to kiss another girl!
Q. I have been dating a guy for sometime now. He claims he loves me but sometimes im uncertain about it. One of his friends told me that he does.Yesterday, I saw him closely with a lady, They were too close as if they were about to kiss When I saw them ...
A. 18 March 2012: You don't want to end the relationship but you are ignoring him and not returning his calls? What do you think will happen if you continue that particular strategy?... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love but he hasn't called me in a week
Q. So here is my problem. I think that I am in love. This makes absolutely no sense. Here is my story... I was in his class, he was my professor, I his student. There was some sexual comments made but never to the extent where someone would report it, ...
A. 18 March 2012: Sorry to hear that it all went pear-shaped for you but I think perhaps you will be a bit wiser from the experience. Best wishes for your new romance.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is upset that I lost my virginity to another during our break up
Q. I am in a long distance relationship because he is goes to college in washington and i live in florida. So we live on oppsite sides of the country. He is turning 20 this year and im 18. We were together for over a year when we broke up. He just sto...
A. 18 March 2012: "He can only think of me and the guy I lost it to."
That is his issue and he is the one who will have to deal with it. Some guys do get retroactive jealousy and it requires some work for them to work through it. Making you miserable about a choi... (read in full...)
How far do most 17-year-olds go with each other after 5 months of being in a relationship?
Q. Ok so my boyfriend and I are 17 and have been going out now for about 5 months and this is our first relationship. He says he just wants it to be comfortable for me and he will be happy which is very sweet but i'm just curious. How far do most 17 ...
A. 18 March 2012: The only one who can tell you what he 'expects' is him. So ask, if you are curious.
By the same token, YOUR expectations are equally valid and equally important. If you aren't ready to do something, you aren't ready. There's no need to rush into... (read in full...)
I saw him about to kiss another girl!
Q. I have been dating a guy for sometime now. He claims he loves me but sometimes im uncertain about it. One of his friends told me that he does.Yesterday, I saw him closely with a lady, They were too close as if they were about to kiss When I saw them ...
A. 18 March 2012: Why not simply be honest, without drama, tell him what you saw and that you prefer to end the relationship for now, as you lack trust in him. I think that would be easier than trying to ignore him, and certainly less dramatic in the long-term.
A... (read in full...)
Is it possible to get a true life long partner when you are gay?
Q. Hi everyone. First, I am a gay. Second I can not find my real love, alhough I have made a lot of effort for searching. I have the feeling that maybe men do not want a serious relationship with a man; maybe just some sex and no responsability. The ...
A. 18 March 2012: I have some gay friends who are in long-term relationships that are more stable and less drama-filled than some of my straight friends. You find what you are looking for, I think. Perhaps you need to look for new friends?... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not always talk when you are with people? When is it awkward?
Q. Silence, between good friends, family, aquaintances, at work, partner its ok sometimes. You can sit and enjoy where you are not feel the pressure to always talk, is that OK? is it ok to sit and not talk sometimes? Is it weird not to always talk whe...
A. 10 March 2012: I was not intending to offend when I asked the question. We do have people posting here who have Aspergers or other syndromes which may affect their social interactions; I just wanted to know how to address the question.
I think sitting in sile... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 9 March 2012: I'm going to have to leave the question as to which site to use for someone with more experience in online dating. But my guess would be that you want to maximize your options to meet good candidates. Think about which site would appeal to the sort ... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not always talk when you are with people? When is it awkward?
Q. Silence, between good friends, family, aquaintances, at work, partner its ok sometimes. You can sit and enjoy where you are not feel the pressure to always talk, is that OK? is it ok to sit and not talk sometimes? Is it weird not to always talk whe...
A. 9 March 2012: Just a quick question for you, as your age bracket say you are in your 30s, do you have any syndromes, conditions, anything that might affect your social interactions?... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not always talk when you are with people? When is it awkward?
Q. Silence, between good friends, family, aquaintances, at work, partner its ok sometimes. You can sit and enjoy where you are not feel the pressure to always talk, is that OK? is it ok to sit and not talk sometimes? Is it weird not to always talk whe...
A. 9 March 2012: I see you answered and have more questions, I will try to answer as best I can tomorrow! Send me a reminder if I don't get to it fast enough.
... (read in full...)
What is stronger, love or hate?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a philosophical question, but one that has great impact on me personally. I am wondering, what is stronger, love or hate? I wonder about this because I have felt hate for a woman that has been very strong. She used m...
A. 9 March 2012: Think about this experience as being a learning phase in your life. There are some people who never will know the negative impact they have had in other's lives. Or worse, they will know but not care.
I think the healthiest way to deal with thes... (read in full...)
What if I gain weight and my bf isn't attracted to me?
Q. I am turning 21 soon and yes I am sexually active with my bf but we do use condoms every single time and I just had my period like a week ago so I know I'm not pregnant. I just want to know why I'm soooo hungry all the time now. It's been like this...
A. 9 March 2012: I can see why you might be worried, you don't feel the same and now you have this new symptom that you feel hungry all the time.
No need to worry, as you know you aren't pregnant, just have a quick check in with your doctor and a short exam and then... (read in full...)
Is it okay to not always talk when you are with people? When is it awkward?
Q. Silence, between good friends, family, aquaintances, at work, partner its ok sometimes. You can sit and enjoy where you are not feel the pressure to always talk, is that OK? is it ok to sit and not talk sometimes? Is it weird not to always talk whe...
A. 9 March 2012: I know what you mean. I just kind of check in with the other person to see if they are comfortable with the silence. There can be something very soothing about sitting in silence with a friend. If it gets to feeling weird, just ask, hey, you ... (read in full...)
I can't bring myself to meet her!
Q. A close friend of mine introduced me to one of her friends around December last year, and at the time I liked her and thought she was quite pretty and she had an awesome personality and I got talking to her and got to know her and she is a fantastic ...
A. 9 March 2012: It sounds like you are more scared about things working out than everything falling to bits.
You haven't asked her to marry you. You aren't picking out china and flatware. You've just said to a friend that you thought she was pretty and has a fant... (read in full...)
I want a threesome with my wife & another man, how do I make it happen?
Q. I have been happily married for 12 years with 3 kids. I want to do a 3sum with my wife and another man. I don't want to do anything with the man, the idea just seems very exciting. I know she would never even consider doing a 3sum with anothe...
A. 9 March 2012: You'd have to talk to your wife about it when she's sober. Is there any reason you can't do that?... (read in full...)
I want a threesome with my wife & another man, how do I make it happen?
Q. I have been happily married for 12 years with 3 kids. I want to do a 3sum with my wife and another man. I don't want to do anything with the man, the idea just seems very exciting. I know she would never even consider doing a 3sum with anothe...
A. 8 March 2012: The fantasy isn't out of line. The getting her drunk and trying to do it is.
Sounds to me like the wrong head is doing the thinking for you right now. ... (read in full...)
I don't think I'm interesting enough to be dating!
Q. One of the main issues I have with myself when it comes to the lack of bothering with dating and relationships is that I just don't find myself interesting. Outside my minimum-wage retail job, I am at home on the computer playing games, l...
A. 8 March 2012: If you are boring yourself, how can you expect to find a spark with any one else?
I think spending less time on the computer and more time in the fresh air may be helpful. Eat right, do some exercise daily, stop smoking (if you do) and watch your... (read in full...)
How can I know if my girlfriend's had an orgasm?
Q. i have been dating my gf for 1 year and 3 months now. the sex is great...at least for my part. im worried that she might not be liking it. she tells me that she has an orgasm but im not really sure. how can i tell if she does or not? plus anot...
A. 8 March 2012: The chances are good (3 out of 4) that she won't orgasm simply from intercourse. Her clitoris will need stimulation and that has to be done in a way that feels good to her. She may well enjoy the intercourse but doesn't know how an orgasm feels.
I... (read in full...)
My husband of 8 years seems more like a friend than anything else
Q. I love my husband but more often we seem like friends than anything else. No sentiments communicated on how much he loves me etc - does this just fade over the 8 years that its not necessary to tell it anymore? We seem to have grown apart and have ...
A. 8 March 2012: You two sound so different. What brought the two of you together in the first place?
Many marriages move from wild honeymoon passion, which is difficult to sustain over a long period of time, to a more relaxed pace, as habits and obligations outs... (read in full...)
What is stronger, love or hate?
Q. Hi, I am wondering about a philosophical question, but one that has great impact on me personally. I am wondering, what is stronger, love or hate? I wonder about this because I have felt hate for a woman that has been very strong. She used m...
A. 7 March 2012: Depending on the definition of love, in this case I take you to mean 'love' as the romantic, stereotypical 'can't live without you' kind of need you feel, rather than 'love' in terms of accepting and honoring another living being; for me the first ... (read in full...)
Some help please for tips in asking him out!
Q. Well i really like this guy who i get on with very well but i want to ask him out in a months time. What would you say im going to do it myself on laps but what would you guys say any tip storys or ideas thanks 3...
A. 7 March 2012: "Hey, would you ilke to go to _______ with me on Saturday?" Smile, be brave and don't worry if he doesn't say 'yes!' instantly.
You could lead up to that question in the weeks before with a lot of hinting about how much you'd like to see a cert... (read in full...)
Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?
Q. Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...
A. 7 March 2012: To echo So Very Confused, NEVER douche! If you have an infection, it actually can lead to pushing bacteria into your uterus and causing pelvic inflammatory disease over time! Bad bad bad idea!!!... (read in full...)
I've been married for 20 years and my in laws never include me in anything
Q. My mother-in-law or sister-in-laws have never included me for the past 20 years of my marriage. Im just left on the outside. Yesterday my Father-in-law was taken to hospital at 4am and she only rang my husband on his mobile at 8.20 on his way ...
A. 7 March 2012: Sorry to hear of your situation; it doesn't sound like a good place for you to be in. I used to be depressed, I went to the doctor and took steps to deal with it. Good news is that it can be treated and there's no reason for you not to start your ... (read in full...)
Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?
Q. Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...
A. 7 March 2012: Sour smell and discharge usually indicates an infection. You will need to see your doctor for a diagnosis and proper treatment. The antibiotics may have altered your natural bacterial balance.
Don't be nervous, this is all in a day's work for your... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 6 March 2012: Is there a particular reason you can't simply get new photos taken?... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 6 March 2012: Sorry, I don't do file transfers from people on the internet. :D You understand, I hope.
I think you just need to get a good candid shot of you looking relaxed and happy in an outdoorsy athletic setting. Standing on a bridge doesn't sound like it, ... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 5 March 2012: I think I read somewhere that photos showing men being somewhat athletic we're considered the most attractive by most women. I don't mean you take a picture of you all sweaty crossing the marathon finish line. But one with windswept hair on a ... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 29 February 2012: An editing note: too many exclamation points! Makes you sound a bit jumpy! Or a bit too excited!
I know, I overuse them all the time! Trust me on this one!
And the darts through a hosepipe reference escapes me. Could you please explain that? Is... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love but he hasn't called me in a week
Q. So here is my problem. I think that I am in love. This makes absolutely no sense. Here is my story... I was in his class, he was my professor, I his student. There was some sexual comments made but never to the extent where someone would report it, ...
A. 18 January 2012: I know someone who is an assistant professor at a university and who doesn't teach every semester. This person still holds their rules and regulations to be binding, even in the 'off' semester. I think you are spending a lot of time fantasiz... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love but he hasn't called me in a week
Q. So here is my problem. I think that I am in love. This makes absolutely no sense. Here is my story... I was in his class, he was my professor, I his student. There was some sexual comments made but never to the extent where someone would report it, ...
A. 17 January 2012: Does "he has a set life" mean he's married too?
Look, I'm sorry, but you got sexually involved with a guy who probably does this a lot. He's in a position that places him squarely in contact with loads of co-eds, many of whom are naive and not that... (read in full...)
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