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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 9 March 2012: I'm going to have to leave the question as to which site to use for someone with more experience in online dating. But my guess would be that you want to maximize your options to meet good candidates. Think about which site would appeal to the sort ... (read in full...)
Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?
Q. Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...
A. 7 March 2012: To echo So Very Confused, NEVER douche! If you have an infection, it actually can lead to pushing bacteria into your uterus and causing pelvic inflammatory disease over time! Bad bad bad idea!!!... (read in full...)
Why do I have a sour smell and discharge from my vagina ever since I started taking birth control pills?
Q. Hi I am a female 18 years old. I started taking birth control about 4 months ago and I think at about this time me and my bf noticed my private having a sour smell . I never use to notice it until we had sex but now I notice it without even having ...
A. 7 March 2012: Sour smell and discharge usually indicates an infection. You will need to see your doctor for a diagnosis and proper treatment. The antibiotics may have altered your natural bacterial balance.
Don't be nervous, this is all in a day's work for your... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my husband
Q. i dont find my husband attractive anymore and i dont know what to do. we have been married since feb 26th 2010 and even before we got married my heart just wasnt all the way in it but i did it anyway because i didnt have anywhere else to go and i ...
A. 7 March 2012: it started by him slowly isolating me from friends, then family from there started the forbidden list
after i had my babies 2(3/18/10) 10m(4/25/11) thats when things got worse w/ all the you cant do this or that or im taking the kids.
the forbidde... (read in full...)
My boyfriend helps himself to the food in my home and I don't like it!
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for six months. I see him at weekends and he stays at my house. When we go out he pays for meals. I am also generous. However, he gets up in the night or early morning and helps himself to food in my house. This really ...
A. 7 March 2012: If he was raised in my family, the fridge and kitchen were pretty wide open to the family. Mom cooked meals and we ate them but if we wanted snacks or anything outside meal time, we'd have to fend for ourselves. No lock on the fridge or pantry.
I... (read in full...)
Was this a random act of kindness or does she like me?
Q. I've known this girl for a while and she's never really been more than an acquenance to me and I suppose that hasn't really changed, but she asked me to join her and some mates of hers who I also know and get on well with last week. She didn't ask ...
A. 6 March 2012: She certainly doesn't DISlike you, if she's gone to all that trouble to include you in her social circle. Why not take a risk and ask HER out? Then you'll have your answer.
I wouldn't call up and ask out a boy if I didn't want to spend time with... (read in full...)
Should I tell my friend I like him? I don't want to ruin our friendship!
Q. i an in love with my best friend and he does not know about it. all my friends think that he likes me too but i think he's just being himself. he's caring for me and understands me. i have even told him about my crushes in the past. i hate to see ...
A. 6 March 2012: When you are 20 years older than you are now, which will you regret more, telling him and possibly changing the friendship, or not telling him, and then never knowing if he felt the same?
If you don't tell him, what will happen is that he will neve... (read in full...)
I slept with a married man thinking he was single and now he won't explain himself!
Q. I slept with a married man he acted single but now I fell for him a he is ignoring me he doesn't email, text or anything not even to apologize to me. How do I get closure? I feel so low and guilty about this plus I like him all @ the same time. I ...
A. 6 March 2012: In cases like this, you have to make your own closure. Perhaps it would be enough to alert your friends that there's a married man on the prowl.
Make an effigy of him and burn it (safely, of course) along with the letter you write in which you let ... (read in full...)
How to tell him it aint working?
Q. Hey everyone =) A friend of mine has a bit of a problem and I suggested to just ask here as I've been given great advice... So here we go: She's been in a relationship with a guy for a month now and before they didn't really know each other. S...
A. 6 March 2012: "Robert, I have enjoyed getting to know you a bit better and I have found this last month with you to be very enlightening. Alas, one of the things I have determined is that I don't have the feelings for you that would be needed for this to last as ... (read in full...)
I graduated with a degree for a career I don't really want and my boyfriend is mad at me for it!
Q. I graduated six months ago with a BS in Human Service and MS in Nonprofit Management. I regret every single bit of it because it put me in some debt and its not really what I want to do anymore I don't feel there is any money in the field and or ...
A. 6 March 2012: Take your degree and your resume and go after the job you want. You have a bachelors and master's degree; you don't have to stick to the narrow field you aren't interested in. Go find a company that sells products or services to non-profits and sell ... (read in full...)
How do I get this guy to leave me alone without involving the police
Q. He is starting to annoy me......... there is this guy i went out with for 3 months and now he fancys me big time:O i do not like him in that way only as a friend iv tried talking toh ima dna ll but it hasnt worked. What he dose to me is he always ...
A. 6 March 2012: Tell your parents who can then talk to his. This guy is harassing you and if you have said "stop!" "NO!" loudly and clearly and he still carries on, you have to tell an adult who can help get him to stop. You don't need to tell the police, tell your ... (read in full...)
Could a girl ever accept my love of supermodels?
Q. Ok, I like supermodels and always have. Not the big-boobed, blonde bimbos in men's magazines but the high fashion models. When magazines like Vogue or Photo have their "Top Models" issue, I get it. If there's an interview with a model I like, I'll ...
A. 6 March 2012: If your visual signals, that is, your wallpapers and your pictures on the walls of your home and your keychains and your magazines and books are all supermodel, all the time, that is a pretty big clue to any woman that you're into supermodels. It's ... (read in full...)
Am I allowed to buy myself a sex toy?
Q. Am I allowed to buy a sex toy? I'm in a relationship with a man who has suffered with extreme premature ejaculation for the past two years. He has given up trying to do anything about it even though when he was on medication it was starting to ...
A. 6 March 2012: You have my permission to go buy the sex toy and as far as I'm concerned you can use it with or without him. When you tell him that you would enjoy more stimulation, how does he respond? If he ignores it and carries on, does his thing then rolls ... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex anymore, I've been so patient but I wont beg for it! Now there is another woman ready and waiting, so what should I do?
Q. Amazing girl. Energy. Youthfulness. First 18months Average sex was 2 or 3 x a DAY for first year. Next 6m was 3/4 times a week Then we broke up for a number of reasons. Some jealousy and insecurity issues for me. Some nativity and insensitive issu...
A. 6 March 2012: I think So Very Confused has said it perfectly. Either you accept and love her as she is right now, right this minute, this hour, this day, not for what she could be for you.
As I said, I think she's with you because you are a known quantity. The ... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 6 March 2012: Is there a particular reason you can't simply get new photos taken?... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 6 March 2012: Sorry, I don't do file transfers from people on the internet. :D You understand, I hope.
I think you just need to get a good candid shot of you looking relaxed and happy in an outdoorsy athletic setting. Standing on a bridge doesn't sound like it, ... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my husband
Q. i dont find my husband attractive anymore and i dont know what to do. we have been married since feb 26th 2010 and even before we got married my heart just wasnt all the way in it but i did it anyway because i didnt have anywhere else to go and i ...
A. 6 March 2012: I think you are wishful thinking that he will change for good. Having a baby so he'll be good for a month or so sounds like a very desperate plan that won't change him in the long run.
I think he's just telling you he'll try to change to keep you ... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex anymore, I've been so patient but I wont beg for it! Now there is another woman ready and waiting, so what should I do?
Q. Amazing girl. Energy. Youthfulness. First 18months Average sex was 2 or 3 x a DAY for first year. Next 6m was 3/4 times a week Then we broke up for a number of reasons. Some jealousy and insecurity issues for me. Some nativity and insensitive issu...
A. 5 March 2012: You two are not on the same page, or in the same chapter or even in the same book. You two are in different libraries across the ocean.
She came back to you because you offer a safety net and she knows what to expect from you. She lacks desire beca... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 5 March 2012: I think I read somewhere that photos showing men being somewhat athletic we're considered the most attractive by most women. I don't mean you take a picture of you all sweaty crossing the marathon finish line. But one with windswept hair on a ... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my husband
Q. i dont find my husband attractive anymore and i dont know what to do. we have been married since feb 26th 2010 and even before we got married my heart just wasnt all the way in it but i did it anyway because i didnt have anywhere else to go and i ...
A. 5 March 2012: It doesn't sound to me as though he is listening to you. You can't change him. He has to want to change. Just because he hasn't physically hurt you doesn't mean this isn't an abusive relationship. Please visit that website and ask someone to help ... (read in full...)
No longer attracted to my husband
Q. i dont find my husband attractive anymore and i dont know what to do. we have been married since feb 26th 2010 and even before we got married my heart just wasnt all the way in it but i did it anyway because i didnt have anywhere else to go and i ...
A. 5 March 2012: You are in an abusive, controlling relationship if he has isolated you from your friends and family, and you have no phone and cannot drive. Please go to this website: http://www.thehotline.org/ or call this number if you do get access to a phone to ... (read in full...)
We hardly have sex anymore, I've been so patient but I wont beg for it! Now there is another woman ready and waiting, so what should I do?
Q. Amazing girl. Energy. Youthfulness. First 18months Average sex was 2 or 3 x a DAY for first year. Next 6m was 3/4 times a week Then we broke up for a number of reasons. Some jealousy and insecurity issues for me. Some nativity and insensitive issu...
A. 5 March 2012: Your measure of a successful relationship appears to be frequency of sex. You have a score card. Her measure of a successful relationship .... do you know what her measure is? I don't think you do. She may not know, but you almost certainly do not. ... (read in full...)
This kind sweet man is a cheater!
Q. Hi All! I am in a relationship with my colleague since a year. I'm 23 years old while he is 41 years old. He is separated (they used to have a lot of arguments) and has two kids who he meets regularly. He is a really nice guy. Friendly, helpf...
A. 5 March 2012: I think your heart is engaging in wishful thinking right now, so listening to your head will be better for you in the longterm, hard though it may be right now. The guy is a charming creep who preys on vulnerable women. You'll see it more clearly ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my friend's dad.
Q. Dear Cupid, Okay so this is kinda tricky.. i'm good friends with this girl, not like my bestie or anything but we still hang out often enough. Started getting to know her through college, been hanging around with her for about a year, we're both...
A. 4 March 2012: The things you do when no one is looking are the things that define you.... (read in full...)
This kind sweet man is a cheater!
Q. Hi All! I am in a relationship with my colleague since a year. I'm 23 years old while he is 41 years old. He is separated (they used to have a lot of arguments) and has two kids who he meets regularly. He is a really nice guy. Friendly, helpf...
A. 3 March 2012: He targeted vulnerable women and actively pursued sex with them. You were previously cheated on, you are younger and have less life experience and if your flag and country data are correct, you are a long way from home.
You are this type of man'... (read in full...)
This kind sweet man is a cheater!
Q. Hi All! I am in a relationship with my colleague since a year. I'm 23 years old while he is 41 years old. He is separated (they used to have a lot of arguments) and has two kids who he meets regularly. He is a really nice guy. Friendly, helpf...
A. 3 March 2012: You've seen the man behind the mask. You now know his words and actions toward you have nothing to do with his words and actions toward others. You know. Now why are you spending so much time trying to convince yourself otherwise?... (read in full...)
Is there still a spark there with him???
Q. I have been in touch with my ex boyfriend, now married. It was a bad breakup and we started to finally talk and be friends again. Well one night I get two phone calls from his wife telling me not to talk to him or text him again. I didn't pick up. ...
A. 3 March 2012: I guess I don't understand what it is you are asking us to decipher. Based on the followup, you were with him for 15 years, so presumably you know him really well. We are just guessing why he acted in the way he did. Your guess would be far better ... (read in full...)
Any tips for getting a date on an online dating site?
Q. I am on a dating website, not going to name it here. I have been for about 3 years. I have not had a single date, whether I am not attractive enough or whatever! Anyway, two parts to this question: a) What does one write in a dating profile t...
A. 29 February 2012: An editing note: too many exclamation points! Makes you sound a bit jumpy! Or a bit too excited!
I know, I overuse them all the time! Trust me on this one!
And the darts through a hosepipe reference escapes me. Could you please explain that? Is... (read in full...)
How do I get my husband to give me compliments again?
Q. I have scared my husband away from giving me compliments because as he says he would give one and i would question his answer or get upset cause it wasn't what i wanted to hear. i guess i did do that and i guess i did it for a long time. Long enough ...
A. 29 February 2012: Wow, this question really points to the need for the two of you to go into couples counseling. There are years of resentments built up here to deal with and it sounds as though neither of you have the communication tools to work through them ... (read in full...)
Is there still a spark there with him???
Q. I have been in touch with my ex boyfriend, now married. It was a bad breakup and we started to finally talk and be friends again. Well one night I get two phone calls from his wife telling me not to talk to him or text him again. I didn't pick up. ...
A. 29 February 2012: "Why didn't he just block me so there would be no problem if he knew she would not like it?" Maybe he's just not that quick-witted. I don't think there's much point in finding the answer though. Did you ask your boyfriend what his theory might be on ... (read in full...)
I'm afraid this model-gorgeous girl will steal my thunder at my wedding!
Q. Hi everyone! I know this is gonna sound childish and all but here's the thing: I'm getting married in a few months. It's gonna be a very intimate ceremony with just my fiancé and I plus the witnesses and a bunch of friends. Problem is, my fiancé's ...
A. 29 February 2012: Turn it into fancy dress and make everyone wear a mask?
Seriously, though, you will be aglow and no one will be able to take their eyes off you.
I would tackle that self-esteem issue head on though; there will always be more beautiful, more han... (read in full...)
Is going to the gym scary?
Q. Hiyaaaa, Well, I've got to a stage in my life where my body isn't going to go any slimmer and as in 6th form (college) we stopped having P.E lesson even though it wasn't exciting I still had fun and its you know exercising! I wanna start going ...
A. 29 February 2012: It's like anything. Scary the first time you go in to a new environment but then once it becomes familiar, not scary at all.
People are there to work out, you see all sorts of body shapes and sizes on men and women. There are the young men who like... (read in full...)
She used to have affairs with married men. Is she dating material??
Q. I met this really beautiful girl a couple months ago. She seemed nice and sweet too. Almost too good to be true! I asked her to lunch and surprise to me she said yes. We sort of started a relationship. I mean not too serious yet. Just movies a...
A. 29 February 2012: Hi, well, I'm not a big fan of married people cheating, but I have to ask you this, why do you need the opinions of others to decide if she is a good match for you? Is this a poll that will help you decide whether or not to date her?
Women who neve... (read in full...)
I can't afford the surgery but I don't want to wait!
Q. I have a complicated situation. When I was 18, my kidneys failed. I lost 36 pounds, and went from a C-cup breast size to a small B/A cup. It has been 5 years since the incident, and I haven't gained any weight regardless of my many attempts to do ...
A. 29 February 2012: Take the possessions you don't need and sell them. Take the presents your mother gave you instead of cash and sell those for cash. Drop the volunteerism or minimize the hours and find a job. Babysit in the evenings so you can study AND earn money.
M... (read in full...)
What advise can I give my friend?
Q. Dear Cupid, my girlfriend has been in an relationship with a married man for ten yrs. now she's also married. 2wks ago they were out of town together in a hotel. The guy paid for the room with his credit card and his wife tracked the hotel and ...
A. 29 February 2012: You've given her your input. She's an adult, she makes her own choices, you can't 'fix' things for her. She has to do that herself, and more importantly, she has to WANT to fix those things herself. She clearly doesn't, so you are trying to help a ... (read in full...)
Should I try getting back with my ex?
Q. Its been a year. After my really bad rebuking mail, we stopped talking; but she still called back once or twice . And then the last one was an apologizing mail a few days back. We were in contact for around six months, but I stopped talking ...
A. 29 February 2012: I'd say she's unlikely to be interested in dating you again, she demonstrated this by not telling you about her new man. She has relegated you to a distant friend status by doing so. Rather than be angry with her for not reciprocating your feelings, ... (read in full...)
Hysterctomy blues...anyone suffering with them?
Q. HI Lady's.. Well I have been on this site for some time now, and recently had a TVH (Total virginal Hysterectomy) Im not getting hardly any hot flashes, but my appetite has got huge, my moods very erratic, and im aching like im about 80...
A. 29 February 2012: Yes, good luck on Thursday! Remember that you are your own best health advocate. Be persistent if you need to be. You can be firm and polite but don't give up if you are suffering needlessly!
... (read in full...)
He's more into me than I am into him
Q. hey... so... i met this guy about a month ago, and he's super sweet... the kind of guy that would make any teenage girl feel like the luckiest girl in the world! he's sweet, sensitive, he brought me flowers on our third date, introduced me to...
A. 29 February 2012: Stop trying to force your feelings. If you don't feel the same, you don't feel the same. It's not the end of the world. It's not like you are deliberately trying to be mean or are refusing to try to make it work. You've tried. It's not going to work ... (read in full...)
OK I get that she once did porn, but why does she feel ok showing to people??
Q. Hi Agony Aunts and Agony Uncles, Here's the deal. I met a girl at a party and liked her but then found out she once did porn. She seemed sweet and even innocent and I could hardly believe it. I found out by googling her name. We spoke about it...
A. 29 February 2012: That's awesome that you don't watch porn yourself.
The only thing I would like to point out in your story is that you are getting gossip, hearsay, rumor from your friend. It's possible people spread lies about her because she once made a mist... (read in full...)
I am gutted that he's only looking forward to seeing me because he thought he was going to get his leg over!
Q. hello all, well i'm 36 and after a crappy divorce am back with my parents, had one disappointing boyfriend since but have been single for a good while and would like to meet someone now.. well i have and we went for a drink last night, hes 31 and a ...
A. 29 February 2012: Nicely done. Sorry to hear he's not much of a cook, ah well, at least you've got things back on the right track. Have a nice date! Don't get too tipsy next time. ;) And have a lovely time!... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 29 February 2012: Love isn't about inflicting guilt or accusations or manipulation. You are not with a loving man.
A few questions: have you told your family about the situation? Your friends? You need emotional and practical support from them now. Get it.
Does ... (read in full...)
So what is a good way to meet someone as it seems like I have tried everything?
Q. So I have been single for years and really need to meet someone soon, I feel overwhelmed with loneliness. I should have no problems meeting someone because I'm attractive, educated, intelligent, and I have my crap together. My problem seems to be ...
A. 28 February 2012: Once you finish school, start working, start saving, then you can change your circumstances.
Tell your friends that you are writing a blog on relationships and want to interview them. Assure them you will keep their privacy. Then ask how they met ... (read in full...)
I am gutted that he's only looking forward to seeing me because he thought he was going to get his leg over!
Q. hello all, well i'm 36 and after a crappy divorce am back with my parents, had one disappointing boyfriend since but have been single for a good while and would like to meet someone now.. well i have and we went for a drink last night, hes 31 and a ...
A. 28 February 2012: And you will have to apologize for sending out the wrong signals by getting tipsy and getting gropey. Sorry.... (read in full...)
I am gutted that he's only looking forward to seeing me because he thought he was going to get his leg over!
Q. hello all, well i'm 36 and after a crappy divorce am back with my parents, had one disappointing boyfriend since but have been single for a good while and would like to meet someone now.. well i have and we went for a drink last night, hes 31 and a ...
A. 28 February 2012: Whoa, there boyo, he's a bit cheeky to expect that! I'd take a BIG step back and maybe change up his expectations. Don't feel so down on yourself, you were caught up in the moment. Nows the time to set him straight, and pay attention, this man ... (read in full...)
Should I try getting back with my ex?
Q. Its been a year. After my really bad rebuking mail, we stopped talking; but she still called back once or twice . And then the last one was an apologizing mail a few days back. We were in contact for around six months, but I stopped talking ...
A. 28 February 2012: You will never know the answer to this question if you don't ask her.
One question for you, why did you send her a really bad rebuking message? Are you going to do it again? It must have been very awful for the relationship to end like that.
Can y... (read in full...)
So what is a good way to meet someone as it seems like I have tried everything?
Q. So I have been single for years and really need to meet someone soon, I feel overwhelmed with loneliness. I should have no problems meeting someone because I'm attractive, educated, intelligent, and I have my crap together. My problem seems to be ...
A. 28 February 2012: If you are living in a small town with no opportunities for dating, then you will have to change your circumstances, won't you? As you so thoroughly parsed it out, there is zero chance of meeting someone. So the only logical conclusion is that you ... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 28 February 2012: Oh my dear, if you manage to break free from him and get some distance (and maybe some good counseling) of time and perspective on this, you'll be so thankful you didn't wreck your life with a controlling guy who simply doesn't have the ... (read in full...)
Hysterctomy blues...anyone suffering with them?
Q. HI Lady's.. Well I have been on this site for some time now, and recently had a TVH (Total virginal Hysterectomy) Im not getting hardly any hot flashes, but my appetite has got huge, my moods very erratic, and im aching like im about 80...
A. 24 February 2012: I'm happy I was able to help! You are most definitely not alone. Be well! :D... (read in full...)
I want children, just not right now! B/f wants me to forget about education and have them right away
Q. Hi everyone :)...... Just asking for some outside perspectives for the confusing mess iv got going on in my head right now! My partner is 35, I'm 22. He wants kids. Soon. I'm about to graduate in about 15 months. So he wants to start trying so...
A. 24 February 2012: "He seems pretty set on it, and unwilling to wait any longer than that, as he's getting older." Well, he decided to date a much younger woman, if he was so hell-bent on children, he should have found someone closer in age to him and who was further ... (read in full...)
Hysterctomy blues...anyone suffering with them?
Q. HI Lady's.. Well I have been on this site for some time now, and recently had a TVH (Total virginal Hysterectomy) Im not getting hardly any hot flashes, but my appetite has got huge, my moods very erratic, and im aching like im about 80...
A. 24 February 2012: I have a good board for you to visit. Additionally, I would suggest you discuss your symptoms with your physicians, as being put into instant menopause is different than going through the process more naturally. It's a different experience, from ... (read in full...)
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