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writes:There's this guy. And he's cheating on his girlfriend.. with me.I'm the 'other girl.'I honestly love him and think he's the one.However, he told me he's thinking of breaking up with his girlfriend to be with me, but he hasn't. It kills me to see him with his girlfriend, holidng hands and kissing..My friends say I should get over him, but I don't know if i can.What should i do?
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reader, agonyauntsanonymous  +, writes (14 August 2012):
I agree with caring guy and stacy. Hes in a relationship. If he wanted to be with you he would have broken up with his gf. But he isnt because he doesnt want to. He has a gf that he has to work for and he has you for an easy lay. The one would never do that. The one would treat you with respect right of the back. I think you need to move on and learn how to respect relationships. Dont do anything physical with anyone thats in a relationship. You will come second every time.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 August 2012):
 This is a duplicate of this question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/theres-this-guy-and-hes-cheating-on-his.html
Wait until he's officially broken up with his girlfriend and then decide if you want to continue to date a guy who will probably cheat on you. Sounds like it's a losing proposition for you. Any reason you put yourself in this position? I mean, a guy can be great and all, but he's not all that great if he's happy to cheat on his girlfriend and still flaunts his girlfriend in front of the one on the side. Sounds like a guy with a bit of a sadistic streak and an ego which will need lots and lots of care. Not really worth the investment of time and energy.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (14 August 2012):
A man who breaks up with his girlfriend before dating you is more likely to be the One than a man who cheats on his girlfriend and says he'll break up with her.
Your friends are right. This guy is just having a great time using you, and her, and I'm sure he has a right good laugh about it.
You should be aiming far higher than a man who treats any woman this way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2012): He's not going to leave her. I'm afraid you're in for major heartbreak. Even if he did leave her (he won't) do you really think he'd be faithful to you? The guy is scum for doing that to his girlfriend and your morals must be questionable too if you'd happily sleep with somebody else's boyfriend.
What should you do? I don't know. Maybe open your eyes and see this guy for what he really is: a scumbag user who cheats on his girlfriend and is probably sleeping with many others, not just you. I suggest you tell him it's over and ask yourself why you are prepared to be some scumbag's dirty little secret.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (14 August 2012):
 Ugh please move on and listen to your friends. He's trash. He's cheating on his girlfriend, and you are helping. Even if they broke up do you really think he would hesitate to do he same thing to you...? I never understood people who do this. He's using you and lying to both of you. You are allowing it to happen. There's no excuse or reason for him to be dating this girl and having sex with you also, if he wanted to be with only you then he would be, there are no excuses for why he can't. The fact that you think he may be "the one" scares me. You need to reevaluate what you are looking for in a man, and also your self worth. You can and should be doing much better than this.
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