A
female
age
30-35,
*oldiefoxxx
writes:So my boyfriend and i have only been dating for about 5 months, when we first got together, we had a very healthy and consistent sexual relationship as well, it hasnt really been that way, lately we've had sex maybe 3 times a month, and its not romantic at all, no foreplay, and he hardly kisses me, but today i went on his computer and i reviewed his history on the internet, he has looked at over 10 pornography sites in the last 3 weeks, i dont mind if he watches porn, but shouldnt that boost his sex drive?? i dont know what to do, sexually im not pleased and him being so once in awhile with me, makes me think he's lost interest, im 21 im in shape im a platinum blonde, and i know im attractive, i shouldnt feel insecure, but its gotten to that point, no in advance hes not having an affair of any kind, we live together, and with eachother always, advice please, insight..
View related questions:
affair, foreplay, insecure, porn, sex drive, the internet Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (31 May 2013):
 not really, not always. it might if you watched with him while in the nude.
A
female
reader, Goldiefoxxx +, writes (28 May 2013):
Goldiefoxxx is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWe've been together unofficially much longer than the 5 months, we are very happy together, be both do not like being apart, we really are that good, i looked at the link, very detailed and it made alot of sense, so thank you very much :)
tonight, i went with a different approach, while he was working, i began texting him, racy things, let his mind wander a bit, cleaned the room, lit some candles put something "nice" on and it did the trick, he was very aggressive , alot of foreplay and i peaked probably over 6 times, i think realistically hes just too tired, i had everything done when he got off late, he felt at ease, and it was perfect, no complaints now lol thank god
...............................
A
female
reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Definitely read that link that person12345 has provided. It's very eye-opening and may explain a lot about his sexual drive.
My other observation is that you say you two live together and are always with each other yet you have only been dating for 5 months. I would say that you may have moved too fast and too soon into such a close housing arrangement as you don't really know enough about him yet to make such a large commitment.
I would move out, go back to courting status and then decide if you two are really all that compatible. Another 5 months ought to give you enough data to make that decision.
Oh, and be sure you make it clear what you need to be happy sexually with him, as it appears that he's getting what he wants and doesn't care all that much about your pleasure.
...............................
A
female
reader, person12345 +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Sometimes guys can become desensitized to sex by watching/masturbating to too much porn, to the point where they can't even get turned on without it anymore. It has nothing to do with your attractiveness, it's about brain wiring.
Check out this website for more information: http://www.yourbrainonporn.com
...............................
|
