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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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Should I have sex with someone 16 years my senior again?
Q. I'm an 18 year old female, and on a course in France last week I had sex with a 34 year old course leader who I met that week...we were both very drunk and although I don't regret it I haven't told anyone because I can see why people would think ...
A. 7 August 2013: My opinion, which is that of a stranger to you, is that you should tread carefully. A guy who is 34 hooking up with a teenaged student in his course probably does that a lot. Sorry. It may well be why he chose the job.
There's an experience gap ... (read in full...)
He's slept with me but he's been hurt before and witholds himself from me - outside perspectives please
Q. I have had a "friendship" for six months. I know the guy has been hurt and takes weed and he knows I want more - he has slept with me and withholds himself (it feels like he is deliberately blocking his feelings but I am not sure if that is wishf...
A. 7 August 2013: When someone is confused by interpreting "mixed messages," the general rule of thumb is that the message is negative.
If he's been unkind and is withholding, then I would just stop trying to make him like you. At this point, he either does or he d... (read in full...)
I love my brother's best friend but apparently he has "too much respect" for my brother to date me.
Q. I've been in love with my older brothers best friend for quite some time now. He will be a senior and i will be a sophmore. He's been a little flirty lately but not enough to say that he feels the same way I do about him. My brother won't give me a ...
A. 7 August 2013: Ah, the crush on the friend's older sibling. It's extremely common and perfectly natural.
So, how close a friend is he to your brother? Because if he decides to date you then he'll have to account to your brother. That's not comfortable for most... (read in full...)
She says she's ready for oral sex. I've never done it before and it bothers me a bit that she has.
Q. I have been dating this girl for awhile. She basically told me that she is ready to have oral if I make the first move. I have never done anything except kiss, but she has gone as far as oral multiple times. One of the times was with a guy whom she ...
A. 7 August 2013: Any suggestions? Yes. Don't do anything that you aren't happy to do. If you aren't ready then you aren't ready. Don't push yourself and don't let her push you.
If she can't deal with it, then, um, that's HER problem.
... (read in full...)
Without my glasses I didn't realise she was much older. How do I extricate myself tactfully?
Q. Dear all, I do not know how I have found myself in this situation... I met this woman at salsa and discovered we work for the same organization. She was kinda pretty and interesting, so I kept in touch with her. We had lunch at the park 5 days ...
A. 6 August 2013: If you don't want to date her, don't ask her out, don't spend time with her and don't accept date offers from her if she asks. Pretty simple. She'll get the message that you aren't interested in about 2 weeks if you just stop responding to any ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife knows about us but he still wants to be in contact with me. Why doesn't she just stop him?
Q. I don't know where to begin, I am asking for an opinion, maybe some advice, no cursing or calling me names please. I am already in a lot of pain as it is. I was having a relationship for 6 yrs with a married man. We spoke everyday, saw each other 2 ...
A. 6 August 2013: So if someone you know cries every time you say 'no,' you succumb to their emotional blackmail? That tactic seemed to work for my 8 year old nephew but don't you think there's a point where he needs to act like a grownup? Don't you want to be with ... (read in full...)
My married lover's wife knows about us but he still wants to be in contact with me. Why doesn't she just stop him?
Q. I don't know where to begin, I am asking for an opinion, maybe some advice, no cursing or calling me names please. I am already in a lot of pain as it is. I was having a relationship for 6 yrs with a married man. We spoke everyday, saw each other 2 ...
A. 5 August 2013: Is there some reason you can't take control of your own life and cut this guy loose? After one year, okay, enough, either divorce your wife or we are through. After two years, okay, enough, either divorce your wife or I will go on with my life as ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!
Q. Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...
A. 5 August 2013: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-asked-my-girlfriend-to-move-in-but.html
Did you happen to read this? Very odd that neither party has chosen to comment.... (read in full...)
I asked my girlfriend to move in but she wants me to tell her what I plan for the future. I'm not sure what I want yet, what do I do?
Q. I am 25 and I recently asked my girlfriend of 4 years to move in with me. She is 28. She told me she needed to think about it for a few days, but when she came back she told me she couldn't decide until she knew for certain whether I want marriage ...
A. 5 August 2013: You asked her to move in but haven't taken the time to consider your future beyond that. It sounds, sadly, as though you aren't really ready to commit. You are prepared to share an address with her but aren't prepared to do the thinking and sorting ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend wants me to move in with him but he can't see a marriage or family for another 10 years!
Q. Hi everyone, ok so my problem is probably quite common but I still have no idea what to do so I would really appreciate your advice. Basically, I'm 28 and have been with my boyfriend for almost 4 years. He recently asked me to move in with him...
A. 5 August 2013: If you want marriage and children then don't do the moving in together thing with a guy who has announced he's not at that point yet.
If you have a personal goal to be a mother by a certain age then don't waste your time on a guy who isn't cert... (read in full...)
What can I do to let him see to just let it go when she doesn't want him
Q. Well, i met a man in 2011 that had been seperated from his wife for two years. They remained friends and she was involved with soneone else. He asked her about divorce 8 months into the relationship and she said no, left her boyfriend, harrased me ...
A. 5 August 2013: He continues to go back to her. That's enough to know he's not fully committed to you and sadly, it is time to cut him off. Obviously, he's using you to get her to come back to him but it only lasts a short time.
You feel second best because, sadl... (read in full...)
Do guys come back after they've realized that life isn't that great?
Q. advice from any guys on here would be great.. my ex boyfriend has been partying non stop since our breakup a little over a month ago.. i've heard through mutual friends and through social media that he has been going away every weekend, going o...
A. 5 August 2013: Why did you break up? Maybe there's a reason he feels the need to go a bit wild and put it out there on social media. Maybe he doesn't want to settle down with you and live healthy. Maybe he has a drinking problem. Maybe he's just not a settle down ... (read in full...)
Serious HELP! How do I keep a player interested in me?!!!!
Q. Met this guy who is very very wealthy, handsome and well connected yesterday. We swapped numbers and he has texted me asking me out. But he is saying stuff about how he wants me and wants me to go to his house etc. Obv he is a player and takes diff ...
A. 5 August 2013: What is your career? And what is his, besides being a player? Maybe he's just a middleman and you can cut him out by going straight for his contacts. Ignore him, get to know some of his girlfriends and use their knowledge to your advantage.... (read in full...)
My dog doesn't get along with his dog
Q. Hello I really need some help with this. I have two dogs one female one male. My Partner has one. we have been together for sometime now BUT my male dog when introduced to his keeps going for him. This is starting to put a strain on our relations...
A. 29 July 2013: I know in the UK and Europe it's common for the dogs to be left intact. Most do just fine; however, if you are not breeding this dog and his aggression has become an issue, why not consider neutering him?
It's possible your intact male dog beli... (read in full...)
I think I need to leave this troubled marriage of abuse and lies
Q. Hi readers, I am in need of some advice and hopefully I can get it through those of you who are or have been in a similar situation as me. I am 22, and I am newly married for about three months now. We are in a love marriage and he is 29. We h...
A. 26 July 2013: He sounds like a classic abuser. Makes nice until he rages. Your safety should be your top concern. People will understand when you leave him. Don't stay for more violence. It will not get better.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend didn't like quote I put on facebook and it is causing problems between us
Q. Four days back, I posted my quote on my facebook wall which reads like this "Honesty is a luxury that we can't afford all the time.". Many friends of mine liked it and commented on it.When my girlfriend saw that message and she met me later, she ...
A. 25 July 2013: Hi Eyes, Google is kind of cool today. Take a look at the famous search page. Click on the graphic and you'll get the explanation. :)
... (read in full...)
Girlfriend didn't like quote I put on facebook and it is causing problems between us
Q. Four days back, I posted my quote on my facebook wall which reads like this "Honesty is a luxury that we can't afford all the time.". Many friends of mine liked it and commented on it.When my girlfriend saw that message and she met me later, she ...
A. 25 July 2013: http://www.poemhunter.com/poem/there-are-times-when-honesty-is-a-luxury/
http://rapgenius.com/Emilio-rojas-on-my-own-lyrics#note-1122373
http://www.helium.com/items/1819879-is-honesty-the-best-policy-even-in-the-business-world
http://ww... (read in full...)
What is fair to expect from a wife?
Q. I have been married to my wife for almost 21 years and there are many things about her that endear her to me. However, of late I am finding it harder and harder to remain with her. That's not because of what she or has not done in some sense, but ...
A. 25 July 2013: Get her to the doctor asap and get the depression properly diagnosed, so she can begin treatment. This is fixable, but she needs the help to start.
People think that depression is something you can 'snap out' of or just get over. It's not lazi... (read in full...)
I think I need to leave this troubled marriage of abuse and lies
Q. Hi readers, I am in need of some advice and hopefully I can get it through those of you who are or have been in a similar situation as me. I am 22, and I am newly married for about three months now. We are in a love marriage and he is 29. We h...
A. 25 July 2013: You have to leave. You will be badly hurt by this man. Things can be replaced. Your life and your well-being cannot be restored if they are taken from you.
The rest doesn't matter. He is a violent man and you cannot stay with him and survive.
Leave... (read in full...)
I want his girlfriend to know he's been cheating on her with me!
Q. So I've been talking/hooking up with this guy and he has a girlfriend of a few years... I don't want to change my situation with him yet but I do want her to know what he's doing. She seems like a really good (virginal) girl... How could I do this ...
A. 24 July 2013: Why would you continue if you feel guilt? Wouldn't the simplest way to deal with the entire issue be to stop talking/hooking up with this guy?
I read this post initially and thought that it was a case of the OP wanting the guy to be on the same "lev... (read in full...)
Is he hiding something from me?
Q. Hi I was looking for a link in the search history of our computer and I noticed that my boyf had looked in the 'sent' folder followed by the 'draft' folder then the 'trash' folders - he has two. Should this give me cause to believe he's trying to ...
A. 23 July 2013: What did your therapist suggest?
I look in my "sent" folder to find old messages when I need to remember something. The "draft" folder sometimes shows something in there, I open it, and there's nothing there. It's just an old message the brow... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, and if so what can I do to stop it?
Q. I have a real dilemma and I am in need of advice. I am a single 30-something year old mum and have been single for 9 years. My daughter rides at a local riding school and isn't of the age I can leave her on her own. She has become friends with ...
A. 18 July 2013: Yes, indeed, that poor woman. Well, it sounds as though you will set him straight in no time! Don't let him drive you away from your daughter's riding school. Idiots like that should not be allowed to dictate your choices.
Best wishes. Let us know... (read in full...)
She tells me I'm a wonderful boyfriend but she freaked when she found soft-core on my phone
Q. My girlfriend ran into a porn website that I visited on my phone, and quickly got very angry and started mentioning that now she should go look for guys her age and fantasize about them having sex with her. I kept my mouth shut to keep the situation ...
A. 17 July 2013: P.S. Don't push on her right now to settle what is okay and what is not. Pushing her now is the equivalent of backing her into a corner and if she's still emotional about it, the answer you get back may be 'no,' when in fact in a week or two when ... (read in full...)
She tells me I'm a wonderful boyfriend but she freaked when she found soft-core on my phone
Q. My girlfriend ran into a porn website that I visited on my phone, and quickly got very angry and started mentioning that now she should go look for guys her age and fantasize about them having sex with her. I kept my mouth shut to keep the situation ...
A. 17 July 2013: Give her some time to digest her altered view of you. She had a certain image of what you were like and now with the discovery of the porn and the discussions you've been having, there is new information that likely doesn't mesh much with her ... (read in full...)
Why would my lover ask his wife to pick me up?
Q. I have a really strange question to ask. Iv'e been involved with a married man for over 8yrs.and please i'm not here asking for comments regarding the long term affair.but today when i texted him and said i will not be home till later this afternoo...
A. 17 July 2013: Maybe he's not the brightest penny in the till? Not the sharpest pencil in the desk? Um, maybe he didn't think it through?... (read in full...)
Is love really racist or Is it just my mind?
Q. Hi Friends, I am really trying to understand something here. I am working in a private sector firm and I like someone at work. I am an South East Asian and she probably is White/Mix. She started working at my company couple of weeks ago. When ...
A. 17 July 2013: You fell in love with her looks but know absolutely nothing else about her. For all you know, she's a deeply superficial, shallow woman with poor eyesight and a short attention span.
If you are hanging around, looking goofy (as in love-struck), you ... (read in full...)
Three months and he didn't mention he has kids?
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 months. He is 28 and I am 25. The relationship moved really quickly and I absolutely fell in love with him and him with me. This past weekend, I found out that he has two children he neve...
A. 17 July 2013: Wow. So he basically lied to you for 3 months? Fascinating. And you think that this is normal or okay?
You can be deeply infatuated and over the moon and all the sexy hot stuff in 3 months. BUT, if the guy in question has failed to tell you some... (read in full...)
Is he interested in me, and if so what can I do to stop it?
Q. I have a real dilemma and I am in need of advice. I am a single 30-something year old mum and have been single for 9 years. My daughter rides at a local riding school and isn't of the age I can leave her on her own. She has become friends with ...
A. 17 July 2013: Step one: stop smiling at all around him or to him. Neutral face, no reaction.
Step two: keep your distance. Do not hang around and if he comes near you, move away.
Step three: if he does start to say that you are beautiful, take a deep breath, ... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 17 July 2013: Do you have a realistic expectation of where you can be?... (read in full...)
Want a low cost way to get a flat stomach by Dec 2013. Is my goal achievable and how?
Q. I am 1.63m/5'4" and I weigh 66kg/146lbs and 20 percent body fat. I want to get a flat stomach and get my body fat down to 10-12 percent by mid December. I don't know how to do this when I have a limited budget for food and can't eat 5 times a day ...
A. 16 July 2013: Wasn't your stated goal to get your body fat percentage to 10%? You are there. What do you hope to accomplish beyond that?... (read in full...)
Does getting oral still qualify you as a virgin?
Q. hey guys just a quick question does geting oral qualify as being a virgin some people say yes others no if you can help please do...
A. 16 July 2013: It depends on what your definition of the word 'virgin' is. In some cultures, all that is needed is an intact hymen, and that qualifies the female (who is the one with the hymen, after all) to be classified as a 'virgin.' In this case, lesbians who ... (read in full...)
Where can I find a younger woman, evolved intellectually, who isn't interested in procreating?
Q. I'm in my mid fifties, look 10 years younger, am mistaken for being in my thirties on occasion. I find younger women attractive, but I'm afraid to respond to their overtures for fear of rejection when they find out that I'm much older than they ...
A. 16 July 2013: To the anon male poster griping about the tone of some posters: at least the women have the stones to post with an account. People were asked their opinion, everyone gave theirs. Do you have advice for our OP or do you just want to whine about tone? ... (read in full...)
Where can I find a younger woman, evolved intellectually, who isn't interested in procreating?
Q. I'm in my mid fifties, look 10 years younger, am mistaken for being in my thirties on occasion. I find younger women attractive, but I'm afraid to respond to their overtures for fear of rejection when they find out that I'm much older than they ...
A. 16 July 2013: If you want to find love, you will have to learn to deal with rejection. You will have to deal with your fear of rejection. It's part of growing up. Yes, I know you are 50 but I suspect that you have removed yourself from the dating arena for so ... (read in full...)
I thought we were in love but he seems to have time for a lot of women 'friends'. Am I overreacting?
Q. I met a man on Facebook and we fell in love. At least I thought we did. He was the first to say it, and for a while we were just crazy about each other. We even managed to Skype from time to time even though he lives in another country. I found it a ...
A. 14 July 2013: The good news is that you are not stupid. Today, you are being wise. :) String together a few days of that and you'll feel a whole lot better inside a week.
People are vulnerable when their wishful thinking goggles are on. Just take those off and ... (read in full...)
He is making me pay for having a higher IQ than him!
Q. Dear Cupid I have a weird problem. I am with my current bf for 3 years who is kind of narcissist. Our sex life is great, i am kind of emotionally dependent on him, but the main problem is, he doesn't like the fact that i am smarter than him...
A. 14 July 2013: Obviously, there are people who score well on standardized IQ tests and those who have a high social IQ, which in this case was not tested.
You're with a narcissist who belittles you, makes you do menial work (why do you comply, anyway?), puts you ... (read in full...)
Does my girlfriend's watching porn reflect badly on me?
Q. Hi. I was helping my GF to get rid of laptop software problems. I told her there might be some malware on it and it hence needs to be scanned. She got a nervous about that and after digging deeper I found out she was watching some porn on the web ...
A. 14 July 2013: My guess is that she was deeply embarrassed. I wouldn't think too much beyond that.
If she was very embarrassed and you joked about it then slagged her off about it (even for a tiny bit) that probably didn't raise your standing in her eyes.
Maybe... (read in full...)
Should she just be up front about the nose job?
Q. Just a simple question, I know everybody has their own opinions on people who have nose jobs. But please don't be judgemental and say those who do are 'shallow, stupid, fake' or any other insulting and personal comment. Because it depends on the ...
A. 14 July 2013: Hey, my sister did break her nose years ago and it was reshaped by a plastic surgeon as she destroyed the bridge of her nose in the accident.
Was she entirely happy with her nose before? Probably not. Should she have had the same nose rebuilt? The ... (read in full...)
22 years later I still feel guilty!
Q. 22 years after my divorce, I still feel as though I let my children down and don't seem able to throw off that feeling which haunts me every day. The divorce was not totally my fault although I do bear some of the responsibility....
A. 14 July 2013: I think maybe sometimes people who are looking back regretting their choices are actively avoiding a current, real life problem or situation.
Don't block the pain you feel but just experience it, and then, live in the present. There are all sort... (read in full...)
I thought we were in love but he seems to have time for a lot of women 'friends'. Am I overreacting?
Q. I met a man on Facebook and we fell in love. At least I thought we did. He was the first to say it, and for a while we were just crazy about each other. We even managed to Skype from time to time even though he lives in another country. I found it a ...
A. 14 July 2013: You had a little online FB fling with a guy who said all the right things. You never met him in real life. I'd just end it, block him on FB and look forward, not back at his posts and emoticons.
In order to feel less stupid and not hurt so much next... (read in full...)
Since I no longer pay for everything, he doesn't hardly see me at all!
Q. Ok I'm back with more questions. I am still in the LDR. But have made some much needed changes. I no longer pay for everything but with that change it means he doesn't see me hardly at all. So this is probably the last straw. This weekend I drive 3 ...
A. 14 July 2013: Have you been to his home yet?
I think you know it's over, you just don't want to believe it yet. Sorry it didn't work out.
The bad news is that he's not relationship material. The good news is that you've only put in a few months of your pre... (read in full...)
I don`t want to cheat but I`d like some affection from my friend
Q. Ok heres the dilema, I'm married and have 2 kids. Years ago I met a guy who totally blew my world away, we only saw each other for a short time and were never intimate sexually. I had to break it off because my ex wanted me back in my life and ...
A. 11 July 2013: If your husband's okay with it, then go for it! If you can't tell him, then it's cheating.
If your husband is a great dad but a lousy husband, why not set him free to find someone else to be a husband to and let him be a great parent.
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