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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hello everyone! Recently I discovered that my boyfriend sent sexual texts to other girls. He apologized and is extremely upset so he promises never to do it again. He deleted all the girls phone numbers that were in his phone.I want to trust him but I'm having a hard time forgiving him. I don't know whether I should stay with him or break up with him. Please help!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (28 May 2013):
 Did he explain why he did it in the first place?
I would have a lot of trouble trusting and forgiving as well in this circumstance.
You should not be feeling pressured to forgive all at once or forget all at once. If he's pressuring you to do that or making you feel bad for being upset and unhappy, then, well, too bad for him.
I think you may have a guy who gets a thrill from doing the hidden and secret flirty sexy thing. Like Tiger Woods and Anthony Weiner and lots of other idiots.
I personally think that life is too short to waste time on a guy who thinks making sexual advances to other women is a good hobby. Those kinds of guys aren't all that reliable…. your guy had a lot of girls' numbers in his phone? Really?
Do you have children with him? If you do, go see a relationship counselor.
If you don't, thank goodness, get out now.
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (28 May 2013):
 He broke your trust and now the responsibility is on him to prove to you that he can be trustworthy again. Don't force yourself to trust him. He has to earn that trust back from you. I think taking a break from him would be a good thing.
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reader, Goldiefoxxx +, writes (27 May 2013):
If i were in your position, i would distance yourself from him, these girls will message him, he will most likely respond, and delete the messages, thats my opinion from being in the same situation, honestly id tell him you want a break, he disrespected you, and he needs to learn his lesson, and learn to have a new appreciation for you in your absence, if he however continues to talk to these girls, while your on a break, it shows he wasnt sorry, he was simply regretful he got caught, another thing from experience men sometimes are looking to get caught, its aneasier way to get out of a relationship because they dont know how to innitiate a breakup any other way, just watch him, be more independent and go out from time to time, always ALWAYS trust your instincts!!!! best of luck hun :)
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