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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 29 August 2013: "The only time I get nauseated and feel like throwing up, is later when I think of his actions and just the fact that he is attracted to other women or lusting after them. It makes me sick inside."
So the nausea happens later, when you are thin... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 29 August 2013: Let's take his gawking out of it, and the co-worker.
Do you get physically nauseated just thinking about him possibly being attracted to another woman?... (read in full...)
I want to approach this amazing girl but don't know how!
Q. To make a long story short, So There is this really cute girl in my art class and she sits at the same table as me i see her everyday and i even got her at lunch time but i go sit with her because shes always with her friends and i don't want seem ...
A. 28 August 2013: Toonz, if you want her to take you seriously, you need to remember that her friends will give her their opinions about you. So do not ignore her friends. Look upon her friends as your allies in getting to know her. Start to make friends with them.
T... (read in full...)
I get physically sick when my boyfriend looks at other women in front me or talks how beautiful women are. What should I do?
Q. I am starting to wonder if I need to seek professional help as I am concerned about my mental and physical state. My reaction to my boyfriends looking at women in front of me and his fixation with a female co-worker is starting to affect my mental...
A. 28 August 2013: You said you talked to him about it. What was his response?
Pending his input into your distress, I'd say that if you are this bothered by his actions and he isn't bothered to change his gawking enough to a polite glance, then I think you may need... (read in full...)
What physical act counts as cheating in a relationship?
Q. Hey Just wondering what you guys would consider cheating in a relationship? E.g. A kiss? Oral? ...
A. 28 August 2013: @Sageoldguy, I hope he was happy with the extra money. I wonder if the anon male would be happy with getting that 'happy ending' from the male staff of the massage parlor, as it is purely for stress relief. Hm.
To our OP (original poster), I woul... (read in full...)
What physical act counts as cheating in a relationship?
Q. Hey Just wondering what you guys would consider cheating in a relationship? E.g. A kiss? Oral? ...
A. 28 August 2013: To the male anon: a truly professional massage therapist would NEVER consider giving a male customer a handjob. That's in the job description of a sex worker, not a professional massage therapist. I know people rationalize what is classified as sex ... (read in full...)
My g/f makes me wait hours between texts. I don't like her behavior!
Q. hi guys. a few nights ago, my girlfriend came home after spending the night with one of her friends. she texted me "heeey" with a smiley face to let me know she was back. and i replied in about 10 seconds or so. then she disappeared for ...
A. 28 August 2013: I have a radical idea. Stop texting each other. Yep. No more texts. Email or phone calls only.
Put that into practice tomorrow and see if your anxiety level drops.
It sounds like you sit around waiting for her to text you back. You know that she... (read in full...)
I don't want to use my mom just to babysit while I have a baby!
Q. Question for mothers and Fathers. I'm 22 weeks pregnant with my second child who I have been with for 4 years. Me and my partner 'Jay' got into a huge argument last night about the when the time comes for me to have this baby. He obviously wan...
A. 27 August 2013: You've talked a lot about what Jay wants. (He sounds like a bit of a pill, sorry.)
What do YOU want? YOU are the mother. YOU are the one going through the birth process. Everyone else is a bystander.
You two are going to have lots and lots of time ... (read in full...)
My wife came back to me after an affair but she's pregnant and I don't know if it's mine
Q. My wife left me for another man last year, she was carrying this hidden affair for a while. I was clueless or chose to be blind about it. She broke my heart because I really do love her, I tried really hard to get her to come back and she did. She ...
A. 27 August 2013: Sounds like you need to wait for the paternity test before you make any decisions, based on your list of can and cannot dos.
Why not come back then?
In the meantime, go find a good professional marriage counselor. It sounds as though you didn't r... (read in full...)
I can see potential in this guy but my mom thinks he's bad news. How should I proceed?
Q. I moved with my family into a house next door to a guy around April. We started talking late May. We got along great and were hanging out heaps. We were staying at each others places watching movies or having drinks. We did give each other hugs ...
A. 26 August 2013: When people use the phrase "he has great potential" to describe a person, they are projecting onto that individual their own hopes and dreams. You may think he could be a certain way, but I have a deep insight into men that you need to hear. (Sorry ... (read in full...)
Is it OK for me to ask a girl to dress the way I like girls to dress when we go out?
Q. I would appreciate opinions on how to approach this, or indeed if to say anything at all. I seem to have some type of "fetish" where if a girl is dressed in a certain kind of way, she becomes irresistable to me. Not sluttish, certain types of...
A. 26 August 2013: Have you asked her out yet? Or is this all still in the "may happen" stage?
Why not just ask her out first, go on a date, get to know her a bit first?
You could say, "you look great in that xyz outfit!" And then hope she picks up on that hint. B... (read in full...)
I can rarely make my girfriend orgasm, she can do it by herself but doesn't let me share in the experience and it makes me feel hurt, rejected and excluded
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. I am feeling pretty low in the relationship because of an issue which has been bothering me for nearly a year. I can only make her cum at most about 1x a month and we have an active sex life. She ma...
A. 22 August 2013: The crux of it is what you just wrote: "my gf and I have no communication on this so I don't see how my anxieties can resolve."
Decide if you want to work on the communication or not. If you choose to work on it, then you will have to let go of some... (read in full...)
Brother is running around with an older man and lied to me. I found out by snooping. Do I confront him?
Q. Hey-My brother went away on a trip and had me come and feed the fish at his place while he was gone. I'll admit I did a bit of snooping and found his password to his email...What I found shocked me! He has been having sex with another guy quite ...
A. 22 August 2013: I know often sisters in the family are the rule-enforcers and like to make sure everything is under surveillance by them. When they are 8.
You are an adult.
He is an adult.
Treat him like one now. You don't get to boss him around any more. He get... (read in full...)
Anyone else ever not been invited to a baby shower? I'm engaged to her father.
Q. I've been in my current relationship for 5 years and we are engaged. I know his children, etc. The daughter is married (27 years old) and is now pregnant for the first time. She is having her baby shower in a couple of months. I only found this ...
A. 21 August 2013: I have another idea. Throw your own shower for her with your fiancee's parents and other family friends who care about his daughter and her new family.
If it was an awful divorce and the ex-wife or her family are attending the shower, then mayb... (read in full...)
How do I make my best friend see things my way?
Q. I'm really concerned about my Best Friend We've know eachother since elementary school and we've always been neighbors. Back then it was kind of weird if i didnt see her every week. She's super nice and funny, but she's also a bit impulsive and ha...
A. 21 August 2013: You will have to let her make her own mistakes.
You could try to keep her busy and away from the guy but eventually, just like any little sister or daughter, she will have to grow up and experience her own life.
So how do you make her see things y... (read in full...)
Anyone else ever not been invited to a baby shower? I'm engaged to her father.
Q. I've been in my current relationship for 5 years and we are engaged. I know his children, etc. The daughter is married (27 years old) and is now pregnant for the first time. She is having her baby shower in a couple of months. I only found this ...
A. 21 August 2013: "Should I just stay in the shadows and live my life the best I can?"
What shadows? Aren't you already living your life? Why are you allowing yourself to be a shadow type person? That's your choice, isn't it?
I would send her a nice baby gift, ch... (read in full...)
I can rarely make my girfriend orgasm, she can do it by herself but doesn't let me share in the experience and it makes me feel hurt, rejected and excluded
Q. My girlfriend and I have been dating for 2 years. I am feeling pretty low in the relationship because of an issue which has been bothering me for nearly a year. I can only make her cum at most about 1x a month and we have an active sex life. She ma...
A. 20 August 2013: "Is it really that selfish of me to want to be happy in my relationship?" Of course not. As long as you extend the same courtesy to her.
So, who gets to be the most selfish? Sounds like you took a vote and decided it was….. YOU!
"As it stands I... (read in full...)
Are boobs that important to guys?
Q. Hello! Ok so I am a 17 year old girl, and very small and thin... If any of you know who Ariana Grande is (singer/actress) I basically have the exact body type as her. Short, petite, and thin. Unfortunately that also means I really don't have boobs ...
A. 20 August 2013: If you are one of those people who absorb every insult/stupid remark/idiotic comment/measured cruelty from mean people, then you are going to have a very long and sad life.
There are mean people, there are stupid people and there are mean stup... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 16 August 2013: So you don't trust your wife to be faithful? Is this a recent development or have you never trusted her?... (read in full...)
The girl I love is very goodlooking and she constantly posts pictures of herself online which other guys comment on. Why is she doing this and how can I show her how much I like her?
Q. Too make a long story short. Theres this girl whos really hot and from 1 to 10 shes a outstanding 10, i met her at my school and she was taken at the time, so time went by and she ended up becoming single and me and her became closer. i would ditch ...
A. 15 August 2013: How old is she and what grade is she in? And how old are you and what grade is she in?... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 15 August 2013: Wait. She isn't the best in bed? But she's your best lover?
So maybe you aren't the best in bed, but are her best lover.
It's not clear what you are hoping to 'prove' or cause to happen but if you continue to hold a double standard, you will imp... (read in full...)
My husband is suddenly sending me hardcore text messages. I'd like just regular texts sometimes!
Q. I am 30 years old and have been with my husband for ten years. Last month I hit a crazy horny raunchy craze in my sex life, so my husband was happy to oblige and excited to satisfy me : ) Well now, all he text me about is sex. Dirty raunchy ...
A. 15 August 2013: "Babe, my phone broke."
Seriously, if you can't talk to your husband about something that is bothering you, then maybe you two need to go see someone to help improve your communication?
You could tell him that you are concerned that your friends ... (read in full...)
Should I just keep quiet and my love and pain to myself in regards to a co-worker moving away?
Q. This is a stupid question but I'm going to ask it anyway because I feel so bad. I am a married man with children and I'm in love with a significantly younger woman at work. She's recently married and happily so as far as I can tell. We get on really ...
A. 15 August 2013: I'd go with trying to be happy for someone you say you love. She's recently married and starting a new life. Wish her well, sign the card and rejoice that she's found the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.
Maybe this upset and pain... (read in full...)
If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit?
Q. As much as I hate that you can't make someone quit smoking I understand that it has to be their choice. I just wondered though, although I am possibly living in hope. If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit? At ...
A. 14 August 2013: Yes, people can quit. It may require some help but it can be done.
Obviously you are very upset and concerned for this person but there's not much you can do until they take positive steps to quit. If it bothers you so much, maybe you need to mini... (read in full...)
Did he forget we agreed to get married in December?
Q. Hi everyone. Please tell me if I am overreacting. My boyfriend asked me to marry him and I said yes, we agreed to marry in December. This was 2 months ago. We do not have a ring yet. He says he is saving. We have not discussed that again, I accepted ...
A. 13 August 2013: Forget the ring. Do you have a venue, an officiant and a party planned? No? Then you are not getting married in December.
Is there some reason you can't discuss the details with him, or are you concerned that he will unask you to marry him?... (read in full...)
I'm hurt that he is choosing to believe an anonymous idiot over me!
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for just over 4 years. A couple of nights ago he called me to say he'd received a text message saying 'you should ask your girlfriend where she stayed on Saturday night'. I was on a night out with my sister o...
A. 13 August 2013: Maybe he's afraid you'll find out what he was up to on Saturday night and so is throwing up a huge smokescreen.
Maybe he won't let it go because he's feeling guilty about something himself and is projecting that onto you.
Maybe he's received... (read in full...)
22 and no more sex drive
Q. My boyfriend has such a high sex drive and is always looking to fool around. I got mad at him the other day for always trying to. I realized that I have lost my drive all together and I'm not sure what this means for us. I used to love fooling ...
A. 13 August 2013: Are the two of you expecting you to just switch 'on' and be all horny and ready to go for sex? Guys are notorious for having and instant 'on,' one second and they can go from *nothing* to *sproing! ready to go!*… Women on the other hand require a ... (read in full...)
I am a very quiet and boring guy, will girls like me?
Q. I am a 23 year old guy and never had a girlfriend before. Its not that I don't like women/girls, its because I don't know how to get one due to the fact that I always keep my mouth shut, but I can't help it because its my personality. It is kind of ...
A. 13 August 2013: Let me ask you this question: if you were a girl, would you want to date you, as you've described yourself here?
Of course there are quiet girls who like quiet boys, there are even extroverted girls who like introverted boys. If your intr... (read in full...)
Your first love: Do you ever really get over them?
Q. Do you ever truly get over your first love? It has been almost four years and I have been in a relationship for a while, but I still catch my self remininscing of the past. We were together for 2 years. ...
A. 13 August 2013: Get over the break up? Or forget the first love? Of course you can recover from a break up. I don't forget old friends, even if I don't see them anymore, so I wouldn't forget the first love, but under no circumstances do I want that first love back ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has retrograde jealousy and its getting worse!
Q. Hello Everyone, I have spent the last week reading everything I could on this website relating to the subject of "Retroactive Jealousy" but I was not able to find much relating to my case (surprisingly, since there is a lot of information here...
A. 13 August 2013: First of all, you cannot solve the problem for her. The problem lies in her own thinking, in her mind, and she is one who has to deal with it. Does she acknowledge she has problem? Have you told her you believe she is suffering from retroactive ... (read in full...)
Was he right to compare my body to a woman in a porn movie
Q. I've been dieting and lost 12 lbs thus far. I was doing this mainly to lose some tummy fat that settled as I have grown a little older. This seems to be the hardest area for me to lose it. My boyfriend, we are talking about marriage, and ha...
A. 13 August 2013: You know, you say you try to be open-minded. Maybe it's time to open his mind and feed him a little common sense. ... (read in full...)
Was he right to compare my body to a woman in a porn movie
Q. I've been dieting and lost 12 lbs thus far. I was doing this mainly to lose some tummy fat that settled as I have grown a little older. This seems to be the hardest area for me to lose it. My boyfriend, we are talking about marriage, and ha...
A. 13 August 2013: "Babe, I am what I am. I am either beautiful and attractive to you, right now, at this moment in time, or I am not. If you want to compare me to women in porn, then do it in your own head. I am not 20, I am not 30, I have the body of a woman my age. ... (read in full...)
I overheard someone make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance and now my confidence is at an all time low!
Q. Hello there. I just need a bit of help guess. The other day I was walking on the train and I walked past this boy with his girlfriend and I heard him make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance. Now I know I’m not anything special, but I’ve ...
A. 10 August 2013: I found a link that may help. It is intended to sell a book but you don't have to purchase anything to read some of the useful items there. Here's a good link for you to absorb: http://www.yourenotprettyenough.com/v2/language-to-use/... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: What will happen if she tells you that the one night stand with Enrico was the best sex she ever had?... (read in full...)
I overheard someone make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance and now my confidence is at an all time low!
Q. Hello there. I just need a bit of help guess. The other day I was walking on the train and I walked past this boy with his girlfriend and I heard him make a rather unpleasant remark about my appearance. Now I know I’m not anything special, but I’ve ...
A. 10 August 2013: Snotty people who want to criticize and mock are out there, no doubt. You found one on the train.
Last time I checked, no one had been elected fashion and personal appearance judge for the planet. At least, I never got a ballot, so if there was ... (read in full...)
B/f was bombarding me with drunken phone calls so I turned my phone off and he couldn't contact me when his gran died. He now hates me for not being there for him. How do I handle this?
Q. Hi. My boyfriend had a lot of financial stress and he started drinking heavily, then he would phone me for these stupid drunken conversations. I tried to help with money, emotional support, trying to arrange nice things to do that he din't have to ...
A. 10 August 2013: What Aunty BimBim said. Your boyfriend is feeling badly because HE engineered his own misery. Don't accept that blame.
If he can't face that and deal with it, well, that's HIS problem. Don't make it yours.
How do you handle this? Don't have a c... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: OP, please answer C Grant's question.
Suppose one day, after you question her yet again, she says, "Okay, I can't take this any more. Enrico who had a larger penis than you was my best lover."
What happens then?... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: I see you have a fear about this that is out of proportion and irrational: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-feel-that-i-am-not-the-best.html
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/my-wife-has-not-had-vaginal-orgasms-with.html
Have you consider... (read in full...)
My wife doesn't want to tell me that I am not her best lover. Why does she lie?
Q. I met my wife when she was 40 (now she is 46). She told me that, among almost 30 previous sex partners, I am her best lover. I can not believe her. My penis is only 5 inches and normal thickness. I am not bad in bed, but I know I am not the best. ...
A. 10 August 2013: How about you stop hounding her into saying what YOU want her to say? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-my-wife-insist-on-lying-about.html
Your issue is YOUR issue, it's YOUR problem, inside your head. Your wife is fine with you the way ... (read in full...)
We have something good, but he's married and his wife refuses to divorce him! What should I do?
Q. I met this guy a 5 months ago. We get along well and are still getting to know each other. We have something good. Our previous relationships were painful for both of us and the things they he went through in the relationship were horrendous,...
A. 9 August 2013: I would distance yourself from this man and his family. This sounds like one messed-up family and you have no idea what you are dealing with. Lies, deceptions, fear, beatings, threats, shotgun marriages…. none of this sounds like it will end up ... (read in full...)
My GF seem to want her mom-daughter see us have sex!. Why would this be?
Q. My girlfriend seems to be setting things up so that her daughter or her mother see us making love. Is this a more common desire for women than I realized? My girlfriend and I are sort of engaged to be engaged. she surrently lives with her mom and...
A. 9 August 2013: Of course trying to have sex in front of her mother or daughter is inappropriate and is not 'normal.' Engaging in sex in front of a minor with her mother is completely out of bounds and you could wind up in legal trouble if her mother ever chooses ... (read in full...)
Should I wear a bra because my boyfriend think it's too sexual otherwise?
Q. Is it normal that my boyfriend constantly goes on about the fact that I should wear a bra? We've been having a very hot summer so far and I started leaving the house wearing tops but without a bra underneath. He says that it's obscene and ...
A. 8 August 2013: Maybe he's concerned that you'll cheat on him again? http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-cheated-on-my-boyfriend-and-told-him.html Afterall, you do want another guy more than your boyfriend.
Perhaps he doesn't trust you to stay faithful once you'... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with someone 16 years my senior again?
Q. I'm an 18 year old female, and on a course in France last week I had sex with a 34 year old course leader who I met that week...we were both very drunk and although I don't regret it I haven't told anyone because I can see why people would think ...
A. 7 August 2013: My opinion, which is that of a stranger to you, is that you should tread carefully. A guy who is 34 hooking up with a teenaged student in his course probably does that a lot. Sorry. It may well be why he chose the job.
There's an experience gap ... (read in full...)
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