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writes:I'm an 18 year old female, and on a course in France last week I had sex with a 34 year old course leader who I met that week...we were both very drunk and although I don't regret it I haven't told anyone because I can see why people would think he'd taken advantage of me or whatever. Recently we've been texting and he's asked me to go and stay with him...should I? It's pretty likely that we'll have sex again and although I don't necessarily see that as a problem I just wanted to know people's opinions on relationships with such a big age gap.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (7 August 2013):
 You and he might not see any peculiarities in his bedding you.. BUT whoever is responsible for the course in which the two of you are involved damned BETTER believe that your's and his getting it on is OFF THE TABLE... and is grounds to send YOU home... and get him fired....
WHY do young people have such trouble seeing this??????
Good luck....
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reader, SensitiveBloke +, writes (7 August 2013):
 I'm more concerned with the fact he was in a position of responsibility over you and he slept with you. That is just wrong and it calls into question this guy's character.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 August 2013):
 My opinion, which is that of a stranger to you, is that you should tread carefully. A guy who is 34 hooking up with a teenaged student in his course probably does that a lot. Sorry. It may well be why he chose the job.
There's an experience gap in that age difference. He sees many students your age.
There's a bit of a sleaze factor here. A guy who is hooking up with summer students?
Do you really have a "relationship"? Or this just texting to hook up again?
Again, unless I've missed something in your post, you two are not a couple and the next meet up will be for sex only. It's not the cement that will glue you two together.
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reader, R1 +, writes (7 August 2013):
 The age gap isn't ideal but if you are happy with it then its your choice. I do have an issue with the fact he was your course leader. It is a position of responsibility and even if it was a short course or whatever he shouldn't really take advantage of that and sleep with you. I'm sure it's in the course guidelines somewhere!
Obviously it's your life and most of us have probably been there, but be prepared he may turn out to be a bit of a twat!
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (6 August 2013):
 Relationships are one thing... sex partners are a totally different thing.
Are you ok being a sex toy for this guy? if so go.
IF you want more then don't go because that is probably all he wants.
when my now husband was 18 I was 31/32 years old and I can assure you that there was NOTHING I would have found attractive about his 18 yr old persona.
The fact that you CARE what strangers think about the age gap tells me you are not ready to pursue this.
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (6 August 2013):
 The age gap will always be there he may not so do what your heart says. The problem will be things like, he will always assume you have life experiences equal to his and will find himself stammering and fumbling about when he says things like; "Remember Bill Haley and the Comets?" and you'll go "Who?" It will always be akward in conversations but if there is love then who gives a rip?
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