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writes:I have been dating this girl for awhile. She basically told me that she is ready to have oral if I make the first move. I have never done anything except kiss, but she has gone as far as oral multiple times. One of the times was with a guy whom she had been going on dates with but they weren't actually in a relationship yet. I don't know why it bothers me, but it does. I'm also kind of embarrassed to not have done anything yet. Any suggestions? Thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): Take your time and explore her slowly make sure you let her know that you do not have experience in this area.focus on her clit(if you don't know what that is it is the little button thing at the top of her down below) This the best place to go for because of all the nerves. hope this helps.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 August 2013):
 P.P.S. Be thankful that they brought back Twinkies... 'cuz, if they hadn't, I don't know just how I would have described how to accomplish this!!!!
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (7 August 2013):
I suggest that you learn about "oral".... what it entails... and get damn good at it... since it is the SECRET to making out with girls....
IF you have no one to instruct you... may I offer this????
.... get yourself a box of Twinkies.... and slice them down the middle (lengthwise)... and try to lick the filling out of them, without getting the cake wet. That is EXACTLY what you will encounter, when you perform oral on your G/F... and, if you are successful with extricating the filling from the Twinkies, the you are well on your way to bring your G/F to the heights of oral pleasure, the next time you get a chance to remove her panties and give her the great pleasure that she would like......
Good luck....
P.S. If you need any details on the "penetration" thing, just send me a private message, and I can instruct you about that, as well....
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reader, R1  +, writes (7 August 2013):
 Just take things slowly. Achieving these things isn't a race so it doesn't matter that she has done something first. Tell her you haven't had a lot of experience and you want to do things gradually, there is nothing to be ashamed of. Then explore slowly and see what you/her like or dislike. You are both young so you will both still be learning whatever she has or hasn't done.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (7 August 2013):
 Any suggestions? Yes. Don't do anything that you aren't happy to do. If you aren't ready then you aren't ready. Don't push yourself and don't let her push you.
If she can't deal with it, then, um, that's HER problem.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 August 2013): This young lady is way too experienced for you.
She isn't really going to make you a good girlfriend. She's comparing you to a guy who was more experienced (probably much older too), and will make you feel inadequate. She's also moving too fast with sex.
Her sexual experience far exceeds her age, and mental development for someone under 18 years of age. That's a bad sign.
You better feel uncomfortable. That is a normal reaction to a kid who talks like she's a porn-star. She knows more than she should, and you have to look out for young girls who are too sexually-active at 16.
They don't usually take the proper precautions, and may not be on the pill. They fool around with boys who mess around with too many different partners.
She may not have practiced safe-sex in the past. This could expose you to HIV and other STD's when you know very little about sex, and what you should be doing.
She may just be talking a lot of big-talk. That's still a bad sign.
If she is older than you, you still should be practicing safe-sex and using condoms. Don't go beyond doing anything sexually, that you're not comfortable doing with a girl.
You'll get frustrated, and that will make you awkward when you're with the right girl.
Let her go. She's too much for you. She'll end up making you feel inadequate, when you're at the right stage of experience about sex for someone your age. You'll end up having performance anxiety, and girls like her will make you feel bad about it.
You learn as you go, but your mind has to be able to handle it.
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