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writes:As much as I hate that you can't make someone quit smoking I understand that it has to be their choice. I just wondered though, although I am possibly living in hope. If someone has regretted starting smoking at some point, will they ever quit? At first they were like any other smoker and said they didn't want to quit, however then they said they wanted to cut back. Afew times they said they regretted it, however continued to smoke. Then, they go so mad at themselves that tehy even threw their fags away one day?However when that happened it was roughy 12 months ago but I just wondered if they had that regret deep inside then, is their a chance they will see sense and quit in the future?Sadly their partner and friends smoke but I really don't see anything that can make them see how disgusting it is. Reply to this Question
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (14 August 2013):
 smoking is one of the most addictive things to give up...
yo9u have to really WANT to quit... and evne then it's very hard...
I smoked from age 14 (1974) till age 35. (1995) I did have a period of time 1981-1989 when I did not smoke. I quit to please my first husband.... clearly I did not quit for myself as the first thing I did when he was gone was to buy a pack of cigs.
I quit for good for MYSELF when my mother was the third person in her family diagnosed with lung cancer.
I still miss it. Seriously. My current husband smokes. I hate that he does but it's his choice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 August 2013): Just because its disgusting to you does not mean its gross to everyone else. Smoking is a personale choice, no one is asking you to take it up but by the same token you cannot make someone stop unles story want to.
Please stop making someone's life missable by nagging...just leave the room when they smoke.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (14 August 2013):
 People may choose to quit, but perhaps not on the timescale you're happy with. I started somewhere around 1976 and quit this last May. Call me a slow learner. ;)
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (14 August 2013):
 Yes, people can quit. It may require some help but it can be done.
Obviously you are very upset and concerned for this person but there's not much you can do until they take positive steps to quit. If it bothers you so much, maybe you need to minimize your contact with them? Let them know why before you vanish though.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (14 August 2013):
 Yep some people realize that smoking is NOT for them and they quit, but not everyone regret it.
I quit over 20 years ago after having smoked for 6 years. Hubby had a heart attack and quit the day after, he had been smoking for 25+ years.
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reader, llifton +, writes (14 August 2013):
 Okay I've seen so many of your posts about this same question. You've GOT to stop fixating on this. If he wants to quit, he will quit. Period. That's all there is to it. End of story.
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