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writes:Too make a long story short. Theres this girl whos really hot and from 1 to 10 shes a outstanding 10, i met her at my school and she was taken at the time, so time went by and she ended up becoming single and me and her became closer. i would ditch a class just to go be with her, if she was ever in detention i would always go down there and have an excuse made so i could be in detention with her, we were so close that sometimes if she was skipping a class i would ask to go to the restroom and i would be gone that whole class period we would be down in the cafeteria just talking, shes so amazing but theirs only one problem. She uploads these hot pictures via facebook and it really hurts me alot because every picture she uploads draws attention to her and i know that shes becoming eye candy to all these guys because of these pictures and the truth is i like her so much, i find it so degrading because i don't know why she takes these hot pictures and the pictures get so many likes there be around 300 likes and so many comments from other guys saying shes sexy,beautiful,Etc, and i really don't know why shes doing this, when i message her on facebook she barely writes back and its pretty obvious that she cant write back because of constant messages from other guys how can i make her realize that i really like her? shes so amazing but why is she doing this please tell me, is it because shes teasing guys on facebook with her tempting looks? or what? what should i do to get her attention and show her i really like her, please help me!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2013): She needs constant validation from men, and this could end up being a bottomless well of her insecurities. Women who do this sort of thing usually have low self esteem. No matter how many compliments you give them, it's never enough. They are constantly seeking more and more attention from random men, men they know, men who belong to other women, it's like a "high" to them. You're a nice guy and I suspect you are going to grow tired of constantly feeding a ego-gone-wild. You could try to tell her to stop, but I doubt it will work.
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reader, MsSadie +, writes (16 August 2013):
 She's young and she's hot, and she's making the most of it.
Unless you are her boyfriend, you're not entitled to her exclusive attention. You want to be her boyfriend, so man-up and say something to her. If she likes you enough, she'll be receptive; otherwise...there are plenty of other fish in the sea for you, as they say.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2013): I'm sorry, but you are wasting your time. She obviously likes the attention she gets from other guys, and isn't going to stop. Why else would she keep posting pictures? There IS no other reason. To me, she sounds like she's self absorbed with her looks and not much else. Seriously, I had the image of a stereotypical "barbie" type girl as I read your question. Correct me if I'm wrong. If I'm right, though, you can find one of those barbies just about anywhere. The real question is, why would you want to? Just because they're "hot"? Well, guess what? Most of them are also self obsessed, bitchy, constantly need attention from other guys, unfaithful, and appear to have no intelligence because they've always relied on their looks to get by. Are those the qualities you really want in a girlfriend? I'm sorry to be harsh, but once again, if you keep chasing this girl, YOU ARE WASTING YOUR TIME!
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (15 August 2013):
 How old is she and what grade is she in? And how old are you and what grade is she in?
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reader, Got Issues  +, writes (15 August 2013):
 I agree with Sage Old Guy on all counts. This girl thrives on attention. She knows she's attractive and she wants to hear it confirmed constantly. On some level she is probably very insecure and is likely to be high maintenance.
You say she's amazing, but do you mean her looks or her personality? If her looks are all she's got going for her, any relationship you have will be quite empty. Also, if she's that hot, you will have to put up with other guys hitting on her, and if she is someone who bases her self-worth on how many guys think she is hot, you'd probably also have to watch her flirt back with other guys.
All in all, I would say it's not worth it, and a girl who teases guys for attention is not worth jeopardizing your education for. Focus on school for now.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (15 August 2013):
 Toonz: This girl you describe sounds very narcisistic and self-centered.... AND, quite immature - as evidenced by the way she "plays" her attractiveness (the posting of pics to "solicite" comments)...
In the extreme, this really shows a lack of self-esteem, and also shows just how desperate she is to get validation about her appearance....
While I'd never advise a young guy to discontinue pursuing a hot, young thing..... I WILL advise you that THIS young lady still needs LOTS of "growing up" (maturing) before she will be much of a romantic partner.... I'd opt for waiting until she is done with that.... (or, at least, has made some progress) before expecting that she and I (you) could have a real "relationship".....
Good luck... and (sorry, "father" showing!)... don't skip any more classes to spend time with her!!!!!!
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