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writes:I would appreciate opinions on how to approach this, or indeed if to say anything at all.I seem to have some type of "fetish" where if a girl is dressed in a certain kind of way, she becomes irresistable to me. Not sluttish, certain types of knee length skirts can do it to me. I suppose it depends on the girl and what she is wearing.There is this business I frequent and a girl there is very forward with me, having asked me out a few times(e.g. "we both have nothing to do next day off, lets get together")Now, in my taste she looks absolutely gorgeous in certain outfits she has worn occasionally. Do you think it is ok for me to ask her to wear one of those when we go out? And if yes, how do I approach it? Reply to this Question
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (27 August 2013):
 Has it occurred to you that this girl has noticed that you seem more attentive to her DEPENDING UPON WHAT SHE HAPPENS TO BE WEARING THAT DAY? Your concerns may be unfounded or unnecessary.... if SHE has "divined" just what attire it seems to be that turns you on.....
Good luck...
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reader, person12345 +, writes (27 August 2013):
 I wouldn't mention it until you've been dating for a bit. And when that happens I would mention it like "I find it super hot when girls wear___" and leave it at that.
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reader, Euphoric29  +, writes (26 August 2013):
Dear OP,
If I was you, I wouldn't mention that on the first date. If you're in a relationship it's totally okay to mention things like that.. but when you only start to go out together it can come across as creepy.
She doesn't want to be the puppet that's wearing the fetish, she wants to be the attraction! If you are too insisting on the outfit she will feel like she could be replaced by anyone who is wearing the right type of skirt.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 August 2013):
 my husband and i had this conversation when we first were dating... I asked him what he liked in GENERAL... and he gave me a list of what he found sexy.
now nearly a year married he gets a say on DATE NIGHT about what I wear... but like this morning.. he hates HATES HATES the dress I am wearing today.
we have to run an errand to go out tonight and I will change because he hates it so much... but i'll change into jeans which he does not like me in either... it's an errand not a date... and he will live. besides it makes my outfit all the more exciting when it's one he likes.
no you cannot tell her what to wear but you can say "i love you in that "blue" outfit" or whatever...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (26 August 2013):
 Have you asked her out yet? Or is this all still in the "may happen" stage?
Why not just ask her out first, go on a date, get to know her a bit first?
You could say, "you look great in that xyz outfit!" And then hope she picks up on that hint. But only after you've asked her out.
So when are you asking her out? Tomorrow?
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reader, xTheAlmightyDuckx +, writes (26 August 2013):
 You could put in a few hints and say how lovely she looked in her previous outfits and you think she would look beautiful in a dress.
I've always thought its very romantic when a man buys you a dress to go out to a date in, its a lovely gesture, but if this is your first official "date" it may be a tad too soon.
But mention to her you would love it if she could wear a dress when you go out as you think she would look beautiful.
Ovbiously saying to her you WANT her to wear a dress because it turns you on isn't a very good way to go about it just because it may freak her out slightly.
But give her subtle hints and express how you think she would look beautiful in a dress, if she is looking to please you or appeal you she will most likely wear a dress :).
Good luck x
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (26 August 2013):
 You could tell her, you know that outfit (insert description) when you wear that i drives me nuts and LEAVE it up to her if she wants to DO THAT for you or not.
Telling a girl WHAT to wear is not OK in my book, but letting how know how certain outfits affect you is.
Jut my 2 cents.
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