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female
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36-40,
anonymous
writes:Hey !I broke up with my ex 3 months ago because he wasn't ready for dating. I know I made a mistake, but he really make me feel like we were in a competition :"You are successful, I'm not""Your conversation is stimulating, which is not my case because I don't know very much about politics""I never met a girl like you before, so I don't know how to behave with you".To get him back, I contacted him on fb to ask how he was doing - no choice since I deleted his phone number.Now he's the one initiating conversation, asking me questions about my hobbies, career... He's even talking about politics because he knows I like it. I answer quickly, and my message is marked as "seen" - but each time he wait 2 days to answer. Is he playing hard to get or just not interested ? P.S : we both using fb on our cell phones.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): First mistake: Trying to get back with an ex.
Second mistake: Second guessing a wise decision
Third mistake: Failing to move on; and opening a door you should have left closed for good. Allowing him to punish you and make you suffer for dumping him in the first place.
He's keeping his foot in the door in the event he might want to make a future booty call. He's wishy-washy, and a waste of time. Who's got time for playing games?
Is he playing with your head? Yes!
Stick with your original decision. It didn't workout due to nonsense. Pull the level and eject the bum.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (6 February 2014):
 Did you tell him you wanted him back? Or were you waiting for him to ask you why you got back in touch with him?
He's just not interested, I think. If he wanted to date you, he'd be asking you out.
Mybe he has to ask someone to help him compose a reply because he doesn't really know how to carry on a conversation with you about these topics.
Or maybe someone else has his facebook password and is reading his messages without him realizing?
Maybe you need to slow down on the replying so fast and also wait 2 days.
He's asking you questions like he's practicing conversational skills. He's not saying, "let's go have dinner together!" or "Let's meet up and talk about us."
Why don't you ask him to take you back, if that is what you want?
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 February 2014): In my own opinion, based on my experience. If a guy waits 2 days to respond to your messages, it means... I'm just not that into you.Period.
Guys never play hard to get,its not how they are program. especially if they like the girl. They will never have the nerve to make a girl wait for them.
If his making you wait, its because your not on the same page with him. Its pretty harsh but that's the truth.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (5 February 2014):
 I am not sure how making comparisons between you two mean that he's not ready for dating. Or did he say he's not ready to commit? I don't think he said those things because you are in a competition, but more like an observation. He is telling the truth about not knowing how to behave with you. Very few girls are intellectual like you. It means to be compatible with you he has to catch up on the knowledge and there is a learning curve to adjusting to a new person.
If I were the guy I would not know what you are doing and why you are contacting me on facebook. You are the one who broke up and he probably feels you are out of his league. He's chatting with you to know where your mind's at. To get him back just chatting is not enough. Since you are the dumper you have to initiate the topic about getting back together. Without knowing your intention he does not feel the obligation to get back to your messages promptly. If there is a chance to get back together he will need a lot of convincing that this won't happen again and that you would try to resolve issues before just ending it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2014): i dont think hes interested in you in that way any more. after all, you did break up, and it happened for a reason. move on, you'll fjnd someone new. goud luck x!
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