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*enisealena02
writes:Hello!Heres the situation; I've been dating a guy for about a month, 'talking' for about two. In those two months we have been Facebook friends on and off, I have deleted him 3 times now, the first time was because a lady was putting comment hearts on his page and he was 'liking' them... which I felt was completely disrespectful. (He has a lot of female friends on his page, who are very appreciative of his good looks, lol) Then he posted this status, "I'm single and you'll have to be awesome to change that," THEN on Valentines Day my grandmother passed and I had to go out of state to attend her funeral, so imagine my surprise when I see his most recent posting stating that, "He needs to find a Valentine." That was the third time I removed him, he apologized and agreed not to post stuff like that but now no longer wants to be FB friends, saying that it will just be a headache and cause issues in our relationship. I feel like theres no relationship if thats how hes going to be about FB.There are other issues where I basically feel like I'm all in and hes maybe less than halfway in. (Hes still on dating sites regularly, obviously I'm a non existant on his facebook, he dosn't reciprocate certain, uh, favors... Tell me what I already know but don't wanna believe....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 February 2014):
 Sounds like a wise decision. Good luck!
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reader, Denisealena02 +, writes (25 February 2014):
Denisealena02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionOk, I let him know that I was not going to deal with the disrespect and that whatever relationship we had is over. I also let him know that I was blocking him from everywhere, (phone, FB, email, etc.). Time to move on.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (25 February 2014):
 OP, I just think you need to re-read your post and imagine it was someone else writing it. What would you tell them? What if your younger sister or friend told you this story? You DO already know what to do. Good luck.
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reader, Denisealena02 +, writes (25 February 2014):
Denisealena02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, we did iscuss being in a relationship, so I'm not sure I'm friendzoned... but everything else you put is very true.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (25 February 2014):
 HOW outlandish will his behaviour have to be before you see how much he's making a fool of you???? Do you covet to be in that position (the fool)? If so... then continue as things have been. IF you find that you have bits of self-respect that you can mend back together and go forward in life.... then now is the time to start that....
Good luck...
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reader, Denisealena02 +, writes (25 February 2014):
Denisealena02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionUh @Wiseowle, I didn't come up with the fact that we were, 'in a relationship,' on my own... lol. Everything else you said is true though. :-(
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (25 February 2014):
Ditch him, block him and stop worrying. Get on with your fabulous new life and spend more time IRL and less on FB.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (25 February 2014):
 You know he isn't in it for you.
YOU need to accept that Facebook is JUST FACEBOOK - all this drama people create is RIDICULOUS. So he LIKED some comment or pictures and THAT made YOU feel disrespected, seriously? After two months of "talking"?
Don't take Facebook so serious. REALLY.
And dump him, there is a reason you removed him from your "life" - what was the reason to "take" him back?
As for the Valentine's post - What a dumbass - he KNEW you were off to a funeral and he say stuff like that? Wow.
Stop wasting your time hoping he will be the guy you WANT or WISH him to be. He isn't it.
And ..... you know it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): You seem to have difficulty seeing there is no relationship and he considers himself single. You are clearly chasing him; and he is clearly not acknowledging any exclusive commitment between you.
You haven't really known each other that long; he publicly lists his status as single. Somehow you don't seem to get it.
Delete him from Facebook for the final time; block him from your feed, and force yourself with all your might not to stalk him; or even peep him on FB. Nor by any other social media exchange.
He blatantly disrespects you and you think you can scold him into acting a like a boyfriend. He has never made any acknowledgement to you, or committed to you as anything more than a friend. He clarified that by publicizing he is single.
I'm not being inconsiderate of your feelings. I think you should ditch this guy, and just move on. If you're already having disagreements, and you've only been dating two months. You are in the friend-zone. Facebook status not withstanding.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 February 2014): I think you are a genuine person , and do have feelings for this guy . Sadly , this guy is disregarding your dreams and hopes by writing that he is single and actively searching for other people . The good news is that by walking away from him , and remaining calm you will regain your control in this situation . You deserve so much better than this , and walk away with your head held high . Good Luck , you will find someone who will respect and appreciate you .
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