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writes:I was talking with a female friend of mine and she called herself a "slug girl." I asked her what she meant by that and she said she she gets very wet when she gets turned on. She was quite embarrassed to admit that. However, I think most men think it is sexy when a woman is wet. It is certainly better than dry and the idea that a woman is wet for me turns me on.So then I asked her if it turned her on if a man has a lot of ejaculate. She said that it didn't matter to her which was surprising to me. I know porn wants its actors to produce large volumes of semen for obvious reasons, but as a guy it does feel psychologically and physiologically more gratifying when I happen to ejaculate a larger volume. I don't know if my friend was just being polite or shy. Obviously every woman is going to be different and have different preferences. However, in general is a large volume of semen sexier to women? Does it make you feel like you did a better job somehow if there are large spurts than the times when just a little trickles out?
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 March 2015):
I am a guy, but I asked my girlfriend about it after reading this.
What she said is that she definitely likes it when a guy produces more semen. I asked her why and she said it was more manly to her. I pointed out that she can't feel it inside her anyway according to the women on this thread and she said that that's not true and that she can feel it - especially when there's a lot of it. She said she can feel the heat, the change in texture, and sometimes even the splash inside her - that it feels equivalent to someone dripping warm water on the back of your hand.
I am not sure how common her experience is because I never asked another girlfriend, but thought I'd share another opinion.
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reader, 0livia  +, writes (24 February 2015):
 I personally wouldn't mind either way. What does matter to me is whether he finishes or not. I would rather a job finished with little to show, than nothing at all.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (24 February 2015):
 Bah. It must be like the fact that women really dress nice to impress... other women , not males. So men in porn do stuff that women could not care less, or actually hate, to impress other MEN.
You, as a man, feel better when you ejaculate a larger amount.
Women... well, everybody is different, sexual preferences vary a lot, so SAME women may admire a conspicuous amount of semen.
But MANY women just basically dislike any semen- it's sticky, messy, it has a distinctive, not that good odour. And MOST women, I think, could not care less, they just aren't into this kind of details. The average fluid emission, after all, is a teaspoonful every time. So, whether it is actually half a teaspoon, or a teaspoon and a half.... big deal. Perhaps it feels different for the man emitting it,.... but if you are on the receiving end, they should be lab technicians or chemists to even notice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 February 2015): In case you're not aware of it, most "money shots" in porn are fake. They use different contraptions to produce copious amounts of fake semen, and this is evident by the camera angles used in the scenes. You can sometimes see how the stream is not properly lined up with the urethra because of some tube pumping out fake semen. Another trick that they use is shooting the same ejaculation from different camera angles, and then editing it; makes it look like there are several "shots" when it's only one.
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reader, femmenoir +, writes (24 February 2015):
 Hi,
the qauntity of semen ejaculated, has little or nothing to do with what we women find sexy, or find to be a huge turn on.
If a man ejaculates inside his partner, well she wouldn't know, nor even feel how much was actually ejaculated anyway.
At the top of a womans vagina, close to her cervix, she really cannot feel what's going on during climax, ejaculation. The only thing she may feel, is a throbbing, shooting feeling deep inside her.
It feels great, but it has nothing to do with what she thinks about her partners quantity of ejaculate.
If the man ejaculates outside of his partners body, well, it's pretty much the same thing for her.
If she is in love with him, she won't judge him, nor lose interest in him, whether he ejaculates a lot, or a little.
Most times, she may not even notice the amount anyway.
In Western society particularly, we place to much emphasis on sex, on looks, on how much!
For me personally & i would say for most women, we don't really care, even if we are trying to get pregnant.
What's most important to us, is how our man feels about us & the qaulity of his sperm, in the case of wishing to conceive.
If a woman doesn't want to get pregnant, or has already had children & is past that stage, or if she is of menopausal age, then the qaulity wouldn't matter either way.
I hope my response answers some of your question.
Try not to worry to much about this & just relax into it.
Btw, in pornos, the actors are doing take after take, they are not real life situations.
It's all about arousing the viewer, in any way they can.
All the best! :-)
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2015):
As a guy I just want to say that a woman CAN help me produce a better orgasm. All orgasms are not the same.
Likewise, a woman can actually make me ejaculate harder both in volume and force. Sure, the amount of time that transpired since the last ejaculation is a big factor but it is not the ONLY factor. If women aren't into it that is totally fine, but be aware that your moves and skills CAN have a bearing on the amount of semen produced. Also speaking as a man I can say that in general the orgasm feels better if I ejaculated more. Again, it is not a 100% indicator, but there is a correlation.
By the way, some women get very turned on when men ejaculate on them. It may not be something they want every time but I have been with enough women to know that you can't categorically say that women don't like it.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (23 February 2015):
 In short, um, no. The amount isn't important. The fact that he ejaculates -- presumably because he was sexually satisfied -- is enough.
You're 30-35 and this is news to you? So you're not with a long term girlfriend or significant other.
She wasn't being polite or shy. She was being truthful. Why second guess her?
And I agree with YouWish. Argh. Porn. It's a way to extract money from men.
If you really want to know what heterosexual women want, read or watch porn produced by heterosexual women for heterosexual women. It'll probably bore you but it may be very edifying.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (23 February 2015):
 ARGH. Porn. I don't care if guys get into it, but news flash: it ISN'T educational. Like Honeypie said, a real woman's greatest sexual wish is not to have every hair waxed from their body while ropes of semen go flying into their face or all over their body. The stuff is sticky, snotty, and it smells like dirty dishrag!
All that matters is if the guy is a good lover and considerate and unselfish in the bedroom! To me, a guy who ropes out a lot of semen means he's edging or hasn't had sex or masturbated in awhile. Big deal.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (23 February 2015):
 in my case... less is more. I'm thrilled with dry orgasms to be honest.
we don't use condoms
I don't want to get pregnant (and can't)
ejaculate is nothing but messy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2015): Nope.
To me personally,it doesn't matter at all.
Though to answer your question- I feel slightly happier seeing it. Not paying any attention to the volume/amount of it,but just seeing that it is there.
I know, I know,an ejaculation doesn't mean an orgasm,but I still associate it so (the same way you associate how "wet" a girl is with how "excited"/"Turned on" she is. Actually, it is not always correlated(for me at least)).
And since I associate cum=orgasm,I like to see it afterwards. I like to see that I've made the guy happy if you will. Doubting Thomas :D
I need the hard evidence ;)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (23 February 2015):
 Unless a woman is TRYING to get pregnant.. the volume of semen does NOTHING for a woman (at least not that I know of) honestly, if you are having condom-less sex ( I hope not) the smaller the amount of ejaculate the easier the "clean up".
You are in the 30-35 age group and you REALLY don't know that porn ISN'T reality?
That the MAJORITY of PORN is MADE for men?
You ACTUALLY think most women ENJOYS having semen on their face or back or whatever you see in a porn?
PORN is scripted. IT's MALE fantasy. NOT reality.
A woman can have "MOVES like Jagger" and the man will produce whatever AMOUNT of semen his produce will produce, her "moves" or "skills" have NO BEARING on the amount of semen. So WHY should a woman feel like she didn't do a good job if he didn't produce a waterfall, but only a trickle?
Did the guy enjoy the sex? Did she? That is all that matter...
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