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writes:I'm curious as to whether or not there are long term couples out there who still feel in love after a long time. I've always been dumped/cheated on once the infatuation period wore off so I'm always paranoid about it. My current relationship is the most successful so far though because of how much we have in common and because of how honest and respectful my boyfriend is but I still get paranoid about this happening again. I don't expect to feel super excited/"butterflies" for him (or anyone) forever but I can't see myself not loving him anytime soon. I would love it if people told me their experiences.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2015):
 Just to add, if you keep choosing men who cheat on you then you are the common denominator. Or you are just 18 and have gone through the rough teen years of 13-18 where very few people are solidly grounded and know better than to start a new relationship before the old one is over.
Turn your face to the sun and the shadows fall behind you. :)
I know that's a lot of touchyfeely goodygoody type thing but you know what? If you make a choice to be open and positive and find ways to incorporate that into your life then it will be so.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (17 February 2015):
I think you go in and out of phases. Sometimes life sets you up to be super busy or stressed and you can't be all lovey-dovey or even feel very sexual. Other times you reconnect in deep and profound ways with your love that your socks get knocked off all over again.
Stay open and stay loving and keep on forgiving and giving.
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reader, mystiquek +, writes (17 February 2015):
 I've been with my guy for over 13 years. We have had some really rough times (part of it has been long distance and that REALLY can put a strain on even the best relationship). We even broke up once for 2 months even though we both loved each other and there was not a 3rd party involved. I am still happy every time he calls, sad when I miss his call, still thrill to hear his voice, and my heart still skips a beat when I see him walk into a room. I still feel that fascination I had the first time I ever met him, still think he's the sweetest man I've ever know. The love has grown and endured over time.
I love him now more than I did when we met. I do believe its possible to still be deeply and madly in love after years together. It takes work though and many people just stop trying.
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reader, Xearo  +, writes (17 February 2015):
I think as you grow older and also as relationships matures the experiences changes and even your own definitions of love changes. You may have always been dumped but I'm sure you are young still...relationships don't always work out and when one does it will be a life time experience. Thinking like this is not important. The most important part is doing your best and enjoying the relationship to the fullest. No one is perfect including yourself. Life is about making mistakes and falling down. Living is about getting back up and continuing.
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