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writes:I feel like doing something brave and unconventional, and one thing I'd like to do is to cut my shoulder-long hair to a dramatic, very-short hair cut. But I'm afraid that if I do so, men won't fancy me any more, as people sometimes assume short-haired girls are lesbians. I don't mind being seen as a lesbian, lesbians are cool, but I would mind not getting male attention any more.What do you guys think? Do you still look at short-haired girls?
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reader, maverick494  +, writes (31 March 2015):
And remember, hair will grow back. It would be a more difficult choice if for example you were going from waistlength hair to a pixie, which takes at least 3/4 years to grow out (I did it, so I know). But shoulderlength? Depending on the do you'll be there in little over a year.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 March 2015): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you all for your opinion on this topic!
I didn't get a simple answer, but then again I guess I didn't post a simple question.
While I'm still insecure about how to cut my hair, I took some important points from your posts. Especially wearing a wig first sounds great.
To clarify something: I used to be oblivious to looks, dressing "individually" but like a deluded hippie, no make up, weird dresses, walking around in healthy shoes or barefoot (even singing while walking..). When I changed this, it changed my life in a positive way. So, while I still like to dress and style individually, I've carried the consequences of a displaced clothing/hair style and I know it can totally affect your social life. I don't want to go back to that place where I'm invisible and weird.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): I had hair long enough to sit on when I first got it all chopped off. It has been a pixie cut now for several years and I have no intention of growing it back long again. I love having shorter hair, and actually feel it makes my face look more feminine as my features are not hidden. I also get attention from men, however they are not the reason I cut my hair. I did so because I wanted to. It's also the reason why my hair has been all colours of the rainbow, and is currently going bright purple. If you want to do something, do it to make you happy. Who cares what other people think? Hair will grow out, so it's not the end of the world. Have fun!
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (10 March 2015):
 They'll still fancy you if you have one of these styles:
http://hairstylesweekly.com/10-short-feminine-hairstyles
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): The question you asked was "Will men still fancy me if I get a short hair cut?"No, it isn't all about male attention as one poster alluded to but you asked this question.Some men will fancy you. The ones who find short hair appealing from the start. But most and I can tell you from experience and if you are looking at the societal norm and ideal that long hair IS THE IDEAL and it is PREFERED by MOST MEN. One woman's husband liking shorter hair does not accurately represent the whole picture. Yes, it is your choice. Yes, it isn't all about male attention. It is about feeling good about yourself. But you asked if men will like you if you have shorter hair.On first glance, a man sees you only physically and your physical attributes. The physical is what drives a man to want to get to know a woman. So, a man who does not like short hair and I would say this is the majority would probably overlook you for another woman who has long hair if he had a choice based solely on appearance. Once he gets to know you and if you cut your hair at that point, it may not be as big a deal. Although they might still have a preference for longer hair.My sisters and I are all very attractive and have long hair. Men fancy us. As opposed to some of my friends who have short hair. They do not get a second look.So, once the guy knows you and sees all your other qualities, sure, the hair being long or short does not play as large a role. But, in the beginning, it does. Everybody here may be trying to be politically correct but the truth is men ARE more physically attracted to a woman with long hair. And if you are unsure, don't do it.I regretted every moment of it when I cut my hair. I hated it and wished for my long beautiful hair back.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (10 March 2015):
 I like the suggestion of trying a short cropped wig before proceeding with the haircut. What if, the men are still attracted to you... but YOU hate the way you look ?..
It's not all about male stares and male attention ! ( said by one who always liked to be looked at , so... ) There's still what you feel about yourself and how at ease would you feel in your new skin and with your new haircut.
Anyway, if you feel like doing something brave and unconventional, I'd say go for it. You aren't actually risking MUCH- if for some reason the short haircut is disappointing and/ or you do not get the attention you want- hair grow back, and in the meantime, you can wear extensions .
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (10 March 2015):
 Get what you want and what suits you and what makes you feel good... that alone will garner the attention you want.
I am currently growing my hair out longer and my husband is NOT happy. He prefers it above my shoulders but all one length. If it's short for me I want layers... a nice pixie cut for the summer is so easy to take care of.
the right man won't care if you have hair or are bald.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 March 2015): Long hair is the most beautiful and trust me, most men prefer long hair. It is considered the ideal. Sexy and feminine.
Do not cut your hair.
You will regret it.
In fact, why not grow it even longer?
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reader, maverick494 +, writes (10 March 2015):
Have you seen Scarlett Johannson with her recent short do? Or Charlize Theron with her almost buzzed hair? Hell, Natalie Portman with her shaved head. None of these women were any less feminine or attractive because of it. When it suits you, short hair can be an upgrade and really freshen up your look. So many women tie their femininity to their long hair, but that's really not how it works. Rock the hair because YOU want to. And trust me, the attention will still be there.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (10 March 2015):
 Go for it. Hair grows. You'd have to live with growing it out for a couple of months if you hate it but then you'll have answered that particular question.
When I had an amazingly short haircut, I had no trouble with having men fancy me.
It's not really about the haircut, it's about how you feel about yourself, and if you feel gorgeous with a short haircut then you'll be gorgeous.
I would go for it. Life is short, and hair grows.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2015): Instead of actually cutting your hair, try wearing a short-cropped wig just to see what reaction you'll get. You may not even really like a very short haircut.
I laughed at your stereotyping lesbians having short hair.
It's not the short-hair, it's the way it is "styled."
If you style it in a very masculine-way, it will give you a boyish appearance. If you style it to flatter your face and features, you'll probably turn a lot of heads.
Haircuts are hit or miss anyway. Chopping off too much may not look good on you. If you're concerned about how guys will view and react to it, experiment with the wig first.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2015): It all depends how you, yourself look like. So if you are hot and gorgeous your short haircut, unless is a butchy dyke look, should not matter.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2015): Madonna had short hair for most of the 80's, at the height of her career, and she looked adorable. And it certainly didn't take away from her sex appeal.
It depends on the haircut. Find the right stylist and keep it chic and sexy. Maybe even a little edgy.
One of my best friends in college had short hair. Kind of madonna-esque. She was a platinum blonde. Beautiful face. She pulled off that short hair beautifully. Guys loved her. One of my roommates was desperately in love with her lol.
If you need inspiration, look at pictures of sexy, chic women with short hair. Madonna being the best example I can think of. Meg Ryan is another.
Don't get a plain boy cut. That is not sexy. Gotta keep it chic and stylish. That's cute.
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reader, RubyBirtle +, writes (9 March 2015):
I have very short hair and I certainly haven't lacked male attention over the years.But since I had it done I do find that I like to look feminine in other ways. I slowly revamped my wardrobe too - more floral prints, more pink colours, jewelery etc.If I always slob about in Doc Marten boots, scruffy jeans and baggy tops - I probably do look like the epiome of an ageing lesbian. But to be honest I don't really care that much.And hardly ever has anyone presumed I was a lesbian (that I've found out about anyway) - and that was a straight woman.Go for it! It grows back anyway if you eventually decide you really do hate it long.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (9 March 2015):
 It's pretty rare that I find short hair looks good on a woman, but I'm sure if you asked 10 guys you'll get 10 different opinions.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2015): This makes me sad, you should do it for YOU! Not cutting your hair because you're worried about what men will think...it's 2015 please go against what is conventional and ordinary and just be who you want to be. Why do you need attention from men? You should feel good about yourself with or without that, if a man is half decent he would be interested in you for who you are not because your hair is a certain style.If you're true to yourself and have confidence with yourself, then people will be drawn to you. Please realise you're not here to please a man, you're a person in your own right and should own that x
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