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female
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51-59,
anonymous
writes:Dear cupid,I have a huge crush on a guy I have been knowing for about 8 months.He stated he is in a relationship but he is not married.We flirt with each other back and forward and I notice the other gals rolling their eyes at me on the sly.Really it doesn't bother me cause I only talk to him I haven't went on a date or went to bed with him so why are they rolling their eyes at me.I'm wondering why is he showing interest I me now.I never talk to him until now and now we are talking to each other like we have been knowing each other for years.I don't get that .What is he trying to prove is he try to send a message to somebody or what I'm puzzled.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (3 March 2015):
 It does not matter that you don't call him.
IF you two are flirting outrageously (and I'm an outrageous flirt for the fun of it) and folks do not realize that BOTH of you are playing a game you won't take farther, then I can see why they are rolling their eyes.
The problem is you have a HUGE crush on him and he's taken.
Not sure if this is at work and one of you just started 8 months ago or not but that too would make the women roll their eyes.
BTW unless you have DISCUSSED with him that it's FUN and games and you have no intention of being anything more than a flirt what YOU WANT may not be what HE wants.
for instance:
if you are new to the job and they know him, they may know he's a liar and a cheater hence the eye rolling.
UNLESS you know his GF AND have talked to him about this, then you are playing with fire.
ANYONE I flirt with at work is:
a. married or seriously committed to another partner
b. well aware I am happily married and not interested in cheating
c. happy that I have a relationship with their wife or partner. YES I AM ALWAYS friends (or at least friendly) with the partner of my "work spouse"
anyone who is NOT partnered or who does not allow me to meet their partner or who is UNHAPPILY married/partnered is NOT permitted to be part of my flirting game.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (3 March 2015):
 If these women KNOW he has a GF/wife/fiance/whatever that is EXACTLY why they roll their eyes at you, because flirting with him seems pointless and makes you look like a little love-struck tween, not a grown woman.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (3 March 2015):
 You say you have a huge crush on this. That doesn't sound like just 'honest play.' Why would you make yourself look like woman who is going after a taken man?
You ask what he is doing, well, it seems to me that he's chatting you up and you are falling for it.
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reader, no nonsense Aidan  +, writes (3 March 2015):
I would probably be one of those rolling my eyes at you to be honest. Maybe they don’t want to watch him, a man that’s spoken for, and you, a woman who knows that’s the case, flirting with each other all the time. It’s a bit awkward, and I’d imagine fairly annoying for them. I don’t know what to say other than get over it and stop thinking about it. Notsohappy is right on this one. He’s taken, end of story! Nothing will come of this.
I wish you all the very best.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 March 2015): Yes that's true but I'm not making indication that I want to really mess with him its just honest play nothing more when he goes home he's with his girl not me I don't call his home or nothing like that.
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