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writes:I've been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now, but there is this thing thats been annoying me for some time now... Whenever my boyfriend cums in me after sex, it never like stays in me. Whenever I stand up I can feel it leak out, especially down my leg, its an embarrassing and awkward moment for me, is there a way to prevent this always happening? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2015): But it feels so sexy to snuggle up when you're covered in sweat and sticky down there.
Truly, you have to enjoy these small pleasures and not make a big deal out of it.
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reader, Midnight Shadow +, writes (20 February 2015):
 Embarrassing? "What goes up must come down" - no pun intended.
You really should be using condoms (and birth control) every time until you've both been tested for STDs, have *seen* each other's results and are ready for pregnancy (have you spoken in depth about what you'd do if you got pregnant?). It would also solve this issue.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (20 February 2015):
 What goes in, must come back out!
The other aunts have great suggestions. A washcloth, kleenex, a trip to the bathroom after sex to use the bathroom (you might feel like going to the bathroom anyways with all of that pressure to your bladder as a collateral result!)
I use and swear by Cottonelle Fresh Care - they're cleansing wet wipes that are designed to flush easily after you're done. It makes the sticky go away slicker than anything else I have used before with the exception of an actual bath or shower!
I *have* to be clean afterward. I pay great attention to my hygiene - always have, but even more so now that I am immunocompromised.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (20 February 2015):
 "is there a way to prevent this always happening?" Yes! He can wear a condom, or you can use a female condom.
You can also go sit on the toilet or bidet and wait a bit for things to slide back down.
You could use an absorbent pad to catch the discharge that is completely normal....
You aren't a sponge. The ejaculate (semen) will come back out.
Why would this be embarrassing or awkward? It's what happens!
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reader, femmenoir  +, writes (20 February 2015):
 Hi,
as a woman & a nurse, i will let you know that it is very normal for excess ejaculate to come out of your vagina after sexual intercourse.
Quite frankly, although i am not dismissing your concerns/feelings, i don't see any issue here, although you feel the way you do.
You love your bf i presume, or else you'd not have been having unprotected sex for over 1 year, so if you guys are serious about one another, then you should not feel uncomfortable about a bit of ejaculate, running out of your vagina & down your legs.
When you do decide that you wish to get pregnant & you may just get pregnant soon, as you're both young & you're both engaging in regular, unprotected sexual intimacy, you would be better laying on the bed for 30 mins after sex, with your hips tilting upward.
That way, your partners ejaculate & sperm, have a greater chance of travelling up your vagina & entering your uterus, hence making pregnancy a greater possibility.
If you are not yet wanting to get pregnant & you are both still young, then getting up very soon after sexual intercourse is good & of no issue & you can go straight to the bathroom & clean yourself up.
I would encourage you to keep a box of tissues handy by your bedside table, or on the floor next to your bed, so as soon as your partner ejaculates inside you & you feel yourself leaking, you can immediately place a tissue between your legs, hence, no mess running down your legs.
Do remember though, that as humans all of these things are very normal & natural & there ought be no shame whatsoever.
Sex is great, sex is fun & sex is above all, sexy!!
So go for it & don't be too clinical, dissecting every little thing that may arise, simply because you don't particularly like it, or don't particularly comprehend the reason behind it.
Be thankful that you have a partner who you love & who loves you back. :-)
Everything is fine. Simply relax & enjoy.
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reader, pepper  +, writes (20 February 2015):
 Hi hunny
It's perfectly natural for this to happen, There really is nothing to feel embarrassed about. What goes up must come down. Keep feminine or baby wipes by your bed or in the lounge kitchen :) and maybe tissues. Honestly it's perfectly natural it happens to us all. You could use condoms that would stop it. Be safe not embarrassed. There isn't one woman out there that doesn't have the same issue after sex. I make a joke about it, But that's me :)
Take care ... Peps :)
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 February 2015):
 Do you vagina isn't a bottomless pit.
BLAME gravity...
Common sense dictate that it will LEAK out. What you do is get up after sex, go pee and clean yourself up. That way you can also lower the chance of UTI's.
Or have a box of tissues at your bedside table..
EVEN better... USE A condom! Voila! The cum is confined to a SMALL little rubber thing!
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