Like what
she writes?
... Add *isha-1 to your favourite agony aunts
Want to get in touch?
... Send *isha-1 a private message | | | *isha-1's profile:Hi there!
Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal. |
|
| Latest articles: Questions to ask before getting married!
No replies yet... 24 March 2016: I just read a great article in the New York Times online. "13 Questions to Ask Before Getting Married” It was written by Eleanor Stanford and posted March 24, 2016. http://www.nytimes.com...
Need Christmas or other holiday gift ideas? Look here!
No replies yet... 3 December 2013: Every year, DearCupid sees an influx of questions asking "What should I get for my boyfriend/girlfriend/significant person? Help!" This question has been asked so many times, we suggest our posters use the search feature of the site here: ...
A little primer on women and sex...
This question has 29 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
11 November 2011: A Primer on Women and Sex Look, we girls are funny. We don't sexually mature all overnight, our first sexual experiences are often painful, crappy and frankly unfulfilling on many levels. We don't know how to give blowjobs, most of us don't grow up ...
Valentine's Day Gift Ideas
This question has 6 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
26 January 2011: Each year, we here at DearCupid see many submissions asking, "What should I get my boyfriend/girlfriend/wife/husband/lover/partner for Valentine's Day?" I think it would be great to consolidate these questions and some ideas into one place, so I've ...
Retrograde jealousy
This question has 102 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
25 July 2010: DearCupid sees many stories about men and women who find out after they are married that their partners have more sexual experience or partners than was initially understood. It is a very real problem for the one who is devastated to discover the ...
Advice to young men about young women
This question has 11 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
1 May 2008: I posted this as an answer to a young man, a virgin, who wanted to know about his young girlfriend, also a virgin... First, I know it's hard to believe but a girl her age may not know her body very well. She may not know what is sexually stimula...
More than one way to get up the Duff!!
This question has 8 answers by readers of DearCupid.ORG.
Newest answer was posted
14 March 2008: Some us ‘Aunts’ have been entertaining ourselves with fundamental questions about various ways pregnancy occurs…. I remembered that there were strange stories surrounding the births of some of the gods and goddesses of ancient myth, and I had a ...
|
Do you think he'll still want me to be his gf knowing I went on holiday with a male friend?
Q. Hi, I live in Italy and at the end of last year I went out with an Italian guy in the north for 3 months. We were never official but I really liked him. He broke up with me by pulling a Houdini and I was heartbroken. We got back in touch 5 months l...
A. 11 August 2015: He is what I would call a flake.
See what I meant about healthy skepticism? He's not reliable, he's all over the place, what he says and what he does do not mesh.
I'd just drop him like the proverbial stone. All you will get from him is drama, u... (read in full...)
The guy is all over the place and I can't figure out what he wants
Q. Hi, I'm just looking for a little advice. I've been dating this guy. Not long. 3 weeks but in those 3 weeks we had in excess of 10 dates. It was going well. Then one night I was staying at his and we got a little closer than we had previously (...
A. 11 August 2015: He can't say anymore? Ah, that usually means there's another woman on the scene.
I'd back away--no hugs needed--and then sprint as fast as you can toward the brightly lit "EXIT" sign.
This guy is all over the place because he's a disaster... (read in full...)
Was he trying to make me feel jealous?
Q. If a guy friend starts telling you about how another girl was telling him he had beautiful eyes and that she's really into him, and then when you say "that's great", he asks you if your jealous was he trying to make you jealous? It's not like I s...
A. 11 August 2015: I would have asked him, "why on earth would I be jealous?" if I wanted to squelch any crush he might have on me.
If I did like him, I'd have asked something like, "why, should I be jealous?" with a smile.
So if you think he's crushing on you, and... (read in full...)
It feels like cheating. How have others in this situation handled things?
Q. I hate myself for doing what I said I'd never do. My boyfriend and I have been together for two years and I recently started talking to an old friend, we've been casually flirting nothing serious but now I feel like I've been cheating and I don't ...
A. 11 August 2015: Are you really in your heart of hearts sure that you don't secretly want the relationship to end? That your subconscious is setting you up in a situation that will have your boyfriend end it, so you don't have to strike the blow?
Are you a gull... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to act when a male friend sends me unwanted pics of his privates?
Q. Hello Agony aunts. My first question is what do we say or do about friends that send pictures of their privates to their female friends. I remember the first time my very close friend did that to me, I severed all contact with him. I was ...
A. 10 August 2015: I'd respond with a text similar to this:. "Hey, Damon, your text came through as my mother was using my phone. Neither of us were impressed and I'm blocking you from sending any more texts for obvious reasons. We've decided not to show my dad or ... (read in full...)
Should I call it a day? I forgave him the affair but now he seems to be hiding things!
Q. I've asked for advice on numerous occasions regarding my partner, now of 10 years and a lot of you told me then to get rid of him as long ago as 5 years but Ihave always thought things would change. However, I then found that he has cheated on me ...
A. 6 August 2015: He's been a problem for at least 5 years?
Woman, life is short. Do you want to spend the rest of your life wondering what he's up to? Sticking around for more sordid? No?
So bid him adieu and get on with having fun and meeting new people! ... (read in full...)
I feel unloved by my partner and don't know how to fix it
Q. I feel really unloved by my partner of six years and dont know how to fix this. Every night when we get home from work he sits on playstation and I sit downstairs alone. If i get him to spend time with me, he acts ezasperated and like hes doing me a ...
A. 6 August 2015: A year of being ignored for playstation? Um yeah, you are justified.
As for how you can get him to see that you are lonely, well, you did that a year ago by the kissing another guy thing. He said he'd try harder, no? And you've given up going out ... (read in full...)
He has never divorced his wife. It makes me uncomfortable and I'm wondering why he hasn't divorced her!
Q. Hi, I have been dating a guy i met in a social group, for around 4 months. After a few dates, he told me he was married but separated, for 7 years. Now had I known this beforehand I would not have dated him as I didn't want the emotional baggag...
A. 6 August 2015: I'd just stop dating him, if you can't relax and he gets angry whenever it comes up. It's only been 4 months and you two aren't inseparably intertwined. Say 'thanks for some great dates, when you are actually legally single, give me a call. If I'm ... (read in full...)
Should I suggest going on another date or is that up to him?
Q. A few weeks ago I met with this boy on tinder, for ease let's call him Leo. We seemed to have a lot of banter going on, and he gave me his number and we have been messaging a lot since. Last week we went on a date, he was so lovely, only thi...
A. 5 August 2015: Did he ask you out first? If so, I think it's okay to suggest another date. Do be prepared to pay. :)
Unless the height issue is a problem, why not continue to see how things develop?
Don't be too available yourself, which means, don't dro... (read in full...)
I haven't heard from him in 2 weeks. Do I wait?
Q. hy..its been five weeks to our relation..we stay in different countries..and never met...he promised to come n take me with him...but its two weeks he's gone for an emergency n he's no calling at all..n even msg hardly he does...but I really love ...
A. 5 August 2015: You've known him for 5 weeks? And have never met in person?
Ah, no, don't wait for him.
Don't send him money, either.
Try to meet a man in real life before falling in love with him. He could be married, he could be old, he could be faking, he c... (read in full...)
How do we choose a couples therapist we both like?
Q. My wife and I have had some troubles in our marriage and agreed to go to therapy to see if we can work through them. The trouble is that we have trouble agreeing on who to see. We got some names by searching the Internet for reviews. Pl...
A. 5 August 2015: Well, as you'd be okay with a man for a bit, why not see a male therapist first, to work out why you both are so stuck on gender roles, and ask him to help you find the best therapist for both of you.
Have you considered finding a therapist who woul... (read in full...)
He's mean to me and I don't feel loved. What do I do?
Q. Why does he always shout at me? He says I complain to much:(? So I ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. He s been unemployed over half the time we ve been together. I ve supported him financially, I ve been there when he had no one, pra...
A. 5 August 2015: Oh, I forgot one other thing I want to say that requires all caps:
BREAK UP WITH THE LOSER!!!!
... (read in full...)
He's mean to me and I don't feel loved. What do I do?
Q. Why does he always shout at me? He says I complain to much:(? So I ve been with my boyfriend for nearly 2 years now. He s been unemployed over half the time we ve been together. I ve supported him financially, I ve been there when he had no one, pra...
A. 5 August 2015: I actually advised you to end the relationship and other aunts advised the same thing: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/why-does-he-always-say-such-horrible-things.html
Your boyfriend has a bad attitude and you have stuck around and allowed him ... (read in full...)
How can I convince my girlfriend that my sexual needs do matter?
Q. In college I had a friend named "Jon." He was a stage actor and while he was not conventionally handsome he was a leading man in the style of Gérard Depardieu. He was a decent guy and he had a lot a women interested in him at various points. ...
A. 5 August 2015: Isn't Gerard Depardieu the actor with the nose like a potato?
You "didn't have much success with the ladies"? What a quaint expression! Ah well, and oh dear, you have proceeded in this relationship based on a lot of assumptions.
This is why rest... (read in full...)
First time sexual experience was painful and wasn't finished. Anyone have any experience with this?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles, Yesterday me and my fiance tried to have full intercourse for the first time. We've been together for almost 2 years, we've been sexually active for most of our realtionship. We've done alot of sexual activities and we have ...
A. 5 August 2015: I expect at this point you are so worried about this that you tense up without even realizing it.
The simple and smart thing to do is to pop into your gynecologist, have her (or him) do a simple exam and discuss your situation with her. She'll be a... (read in full...)
Do you think he'll still want me to be his gf knowing I went on holiday with a male friend?
Q. Hi, I live in Italy and at the end of last year I went out with an Italian guy in the north for 3 months. We were never official but I really liked him. He broke up with me by pulling a Houdini and I was heartbroken. We got back in touch 5 months l...
A. 4 August 2015: Interesting question.
What I'd want to know is what he's been doing these past few months? Has he been polishing the silver in the local Catholic church? Practicing chants with the monks? Handing out alms to the poor?
And what was the deal wit... (read in full...)
Should I distance myself from my mom and younger sister?
Q. Should I distance myself from my mom and younger sister? My mom is an alcoholic who has spoiled my sister since birth and basically let her do whatever she wants. She is 22 and has a 1 year old daughter who my Mom is basically raising while she runs ...
A. 4 August 2015: I'd start asking them for money, or to pay back some of the money you've given them. Seriously. You are $20K in the hole, about to spend thousands more, and have ongoing bills.
Just smile, and say, "I was about to ask YOU for money! I guess time... (read in full...)
Online dating - why do women never reply to email?
Q. I admit I've tried online dating because it's convenient and saves a lot of time and creates a certain comfort level for people because a person can always choose not to respond and feel no pressure. My problem is nobody responds. When I send a ...
A. 4 August 2015: Sorry, Ben, I did get your message. I started a reply to you. Then my phone rang, I had to take that call and couldn't continue the reply to you as I can't multitask that well. So, yes, your email went to the bottom of my to-do list. Then it was ... (read in full...)
Online dating - why do women never reply to email?
Q. I admit I've tried online dating because it's convenient and saves a lot of time and creates a certain comfort level for people because a person can always choose not to respond and feel no pressure. My problem is nobody responds. When I send a ...
A. 3 August 2015: BE125, you may have a point that some women set expectations too high. You also contradict yourself several times in your post, so perhaps what you say and what you think aren't aligned, and this is coming through in your 'sincere and respectful' ... (read in full...)
My late "husband's" son wants to marry me
Q. I am a 35 year old Indian divorcee. I married my Indian husband in 2000 when I was just 20 years old but divorced him after just three months of marriage. I was still a virgin when I began divorce proceedings. I sued for divorce because of my ...
A. 3 August 2015: I'm not sure of the accuracy of this wikipedia page, but it would suggest that you cannot marry the direct descendent of an ex-spouse: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marriage_in_South_Africa "The spouses must be over 18 to form a valid marriage... (read in full...)
How can I tell online date not to be so clingy
Q. hi ,im planning on meeting my online date this weekend we get on and everything has been going good , the only thing thats 'doing my head in' is he messages me to say morning and then couple of messages through the day and a chat at night then its ...
A. 31 July 2015: If you find 10 texts a day clingy then be clear about that. I don't think that's clingy, personally, I think that's a normal level of conversation. But then that's me. You may only want 4 texts per day.
Do you speak on the phone or Skype or use ... (read in full...)
How do I regain my dignity back after lashing out at my cheating ex and friend?
Q. Hi, I was on before about finding out about my ex and my friend having an affair. For months I acted normal and said nothing as I had no real proof - just a gut feeling. I was going to just cut them out of my life and move on - until I discover...
A. 31 July 2015: Don't contact them again? If they do contact you, just say you were not happy with the situation and in a weak moment, you made that known in a way you now regret.
If anyone else asks you about it, say the same thing. Then stop talking about them... (read in full...)
I'm a parent myself but my parents are keeping me trapped and treat me like a child
Q. My parents have always treated me like a child and now that I'm an adult with my own child, they've gotten even worse! When friends (the ones I have left), friends I'm trying to make (doesn't work), or guys I try to talk to see this, they laugh in ...
A. 31 July 2015: Your parents are abusive, actually.
You don't sound ready to be a parent to a child yet either.
The question should be, "how do I get out as soon as possible and learn to live in the real world?"
I don't know where you live but your situation do... (read in full...)
Is this man using me as a back up or did he actually like me?
Q. Should I give this guy another chance? I recently met a guy on match, he is 11 yrs older than myself and is early 50s. We met at least on 5 occasions. The last time I stayed over at his place, we got a little intimate but we never went all the way...
A. 30 July 2015: I think if he liked you, he'd pursue you. I'd just ignore him and move on! Just because a guy has a few more years on you doesn't make him more mature or wiser.
You met him 5 times in person, you got a little intimate (sexual without inte... (read in full...)
Three years together and my Gf has asked me to pay ($5000) towards a medical procedure she wants. What would you do if in my situation?
Q. I'm in a serious relationship with my girlfriend for the past 3 years. She's always been independent and has never asked me for anything. For the past couple of months however she has been thinking of getting a surgery that insurance won't help wit...
A. 27 July 2015: Why won't insurance cover an operation she needs? I'd suggest that she go back to the insurance company and appeal the decision.
Unless the operation is breast implants or a solely cosmetic one? In which case, honestly, I'd suggest she form... (read in full...)
He's 30. Should I try to enjoy some fun with this guy or back off?
Q. So, I met this guy and feel like there was an attraction between is. Since then, we've been chatting on Facebook and I feel well probably do coffee or something at some point. I know I'm getting a little ahead, but I've been thinking if I sh...
A. 26 July 2015: How about just spend some time in real life with him before deciding what to do. You met him once and all the rest seems to be based on chat information.
Do the old-fashioned thing of making him ask you out on a proper date, perhaps suggest ... (read in full...)
My fiance promised we'd all move in to his house together. I can't pay the costs and he won't pay. Do I walk away now?
Q. I've been with my partner for 6 years. We got engaged last year. My son and I live with my dad after the death of my mum last year. The plan was to move in with my partner once an extension on the house has been completed as it is currently too ...
A. 24 July 2015: Who owns "the house"?... (read in full...)
Thinking about making him go through courts to see his child, but is that fair?
Q. My family and a lot of my friends say I should tell my ex boyfriend that he can't have anything to do with our unborn child when he arrives since he has made hardly any effort to be there for me when I have needed him since he started a new ...
A. 24 July 2015: There are two issues here. One is his rights to see his child. The other is his financial responsibility.
I think you put a lot of emphasis on his being there with you, understandably, at milestone medical appointments. As the arrival of the girl... (read in full...)
My boyfriend claims he is still on a dating app just to make friends?
Q. So I've been seeing this guy and we have met loads of times, been on plenty of dates, ive met his family and stayed at his and are now dating for about two months and ive noticed hes still on the dating app... which i find insulting.. but he says ...
A. 23 July 2015: He's on a dating site to make friends. Ah. Right. That's how all BFFs become BFFs; they meet their BFF on a dating site.
Should you be okay with him hanging out on a dating site, friending and messaging random girls. Who aren't on POF to make frie... (read in full...)
I can see the rest of my life with him... but I can dread it at the same time!
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together 2 and a half years, we've been through a lot together and done a lot together but I can't decide where I stand with him; if I love him enough to stay or if he cares at all about me. I'm really not sure whether ...
A. 20 July 2015: There are many people who would be good complements. Assuming that that's all they want.
I'm going to list the cons of your relationship based on this short post:
-we've been through a lot together (I add this as a con because you are 18-21 an... (read in full...)
Am I over-reacting by considering breaking up with gf because she went to see male strippers?
Q. Hi. So, let's describe the events before asking the question. Because they are lenghty, I am starting with the TOO LONG:DIDN'T READ version TL:DR: She went to a strip show while I don't nor have I done the same. Am I over reacting that she wen...
A. 20 July 2015: If it's the Thunder down under group, they don't actually get naked. I haven't been to a male revue since I was in my 20s (and in that one there was no nudity either). But I have heard from female friends that it's a bunch of really muscly men ... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and female. Is it normal that I really enjoy watching porn all the time?
Q. Is it normal for a 22 year old woman to watch porn all the time? I sometimes even watch it while I'm at work. My sex life is OK I wouldn't say great at the moment. But for the past month or so I've been really getting into porn and I am craving sex ...
A. 20 July 2015: And he just turned 21? So is he the father of all three of your children?... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and female. Is it normal that I really enjoy watching porn all the time?
Q. Is it normal for a 22 year old woman to watch porn all the time? I sometimes even watch it while I'm at work. My sex life is OK I wouldn't say great at the moment. But for the past month or so I've been really getting into porn and I am craving sex ...
A. 20 July 2015: Just another bit from your other question about porn and your marriage: "I am not being satisfied by my husband at the moment. I feel like I have to beg him for sex. When I come on to him he rejects me every time. I'm not super unattractive or ... (read in full...)
What happens after we die?
Q. I wonder if anybody cares about this issue , but I think about it all the time. I'm not religious, but I feel sort of not really strong in any theoeies about after life. I wish if there would be nothing after we die, but I just have this s...
A. 20 July 2015: My personal theory on this is that there isn't really any way a living person can know, so the best thing to do is live a good life. We'll all find out later what happens.
Are you struggling with this in some way that needs extra help?... (read in full...)
Now that my former lecturer has sent me a follow request is it ok for me to approach him? I have a crush on him
Q. I had a crush on a college professor who is quite young. He knows that I have a huge crush on him. So after I graduated from college (maybe around a month) I got a follow request from him on instagram. I accepted his follow request. I posted an upda...
A. 20 July 2015: How do you know for certain that the instagram request was from him? You said he has a few male friends and then only you.
When you say he changed his name to a classy one, does that mean it was odd in some way? What does an old fashioned user... (read in full...)
I'm 22 and female. Is it normal that I really enjoy watching porn all the time?
Q. Is it normal for a 22 year old woman to watch porn all the time? I sometimes even watch it while I'm at work. My sex life is OK I wouldn't say great at the moment. But for the past month or so I've been really getting into porn and I am craving sex ...
A. 20 July 2015: If you can't refrain from watching porn at work, well, you have a problem. Most of the employers I know would fire an employee who does that right away.
You also posted this question http... (read in full...)
Anxious in new relationship for no reason - help!
Q. Hello, So I was wondering if anyone had any general tips for helping control insecurities? I've been with my boyfriend for a couple of months and he is honestly amazing, such a lovely guy. It's me that's the problem! I feel like I am too at...
A. 19 July 2015: Familiarize yourself with calming strategies such as breathing techniques.
If you do feel too attached and recognize that, well, that's a good place to start assessing things.
If this is crippling you in your daily life then definitely seek cou... (read in full...)
Does anyone have any ideas about study dates for my boyfriend and I?
Q. Hi, So my boyfriend and I are going to different highschools this upcoming school year and he's not really worried, he's confident that we will be just fine together. I on the other hand am less worried than I used to be but I'm still worried....
A. 19 July 2015: Hi Shay_Rain, congratulations on the honors classes and basketball plans.
To answer your questions:
1. How to study/help each other study - My advice would be to focus on your own studies. Form study groups with people who are in your classes.... (read in full...)
Is it normal that I want to see my girlfriend naked? Should I ask her?
Q. I am 16 and curious to see my girlfriends body. I have been dreaming of seeing her in the nude. I really want to know what she looks like naked. She is so beautiful. I want to ask her, but I want to know. is this normal to ask? Would a girlfrien...
A. 19 July 2015: This is a GREAT question to ask your father. He was 16-17 once too, you know.
You do know you don't have to be specific with him. Just ask him about sex stuff. He may be all uncomfortable and you may be too but from what you've posted here, I thin... (read in full...)
I met up with my first love for dinner two weeks ago. I think we both felt chemistry but he hasn't followed up. Advice?
Q. I met up with my first love for dinner two weeks ago. It was great seeing him again after 15 years. We got on so well. I have children but not married and have not been in an exclusive relationship for a few years and he is still single but...
A. 19 July 2015: You told him how you like to keep in contact. Did he tell you how liked to keep in contact?
Why do you not like to talk on the phone?
I would come up with a birthday plan, the day before or after his actual birthday, as in a date plan, call him... (read in full...)
What should infer from his follow request?
Q. Heya! I had a crush on a college professor who is quite young. He knew I had a huge crush on him. So after I graduated from college (maybe around a month) I got a follow request from him on instagram. I accepted his follow request. I posted an upda...
A. 19 July 2015: I would infer that he (or someone pretending to be him) added you on instagram and he 'liked' one update of yours. Beyond that? Well, time may tell. But for now, all you know is that he's keen on getting new followers on instagram.
I wouldn't assu... (read in full...)
He flirts a lot and he has a Gf. We've been texting. How can I make things less awkward if we do sleep together?
Q. There's a new guy that started at my work he's 32 bearing in mind I'm 20 but I don't think the age matters because we're basically like the same people. But the problem is that he has a girlfriend and he have such good flirty banter and I'm star...
A. 19 July 2015: Could you be more specific about how it would be awkward? And why simply avoiding the situation wouldn't be the best solution?... (read in full...)
| *isha-1's friends
These are mutual friends, so *isha-1 has
added them and they have added *isha-1!
|
![[?]BitterSweetFinale;[?] agony aunt](/avatars/7bb1e9ea-6c2f-43b8-a4f7-0635b7eff08c.png){kind=small}
