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reader, JerryS  +, writes (21 March 2012):
Look online for an activity called Hotwifing. There are a lot of resources online from couples that do this sort of thing and they will give you some very good advice and they are a very warm community online.
You really do need to discuss this without the drink. You need to discuss boundrys and rules and communication needs to be a class. You both have to buy into this idea because if she feels she has been pressured or tricked or duped you will be getting the blame. My wife wasnt into at all at the begining but after the first time there was no stopping her. I never and a alterior motive, like wanting sleep with another women so there was no issues there. Women's appetite for sex is greater than a mans so having a helping hand works well.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2012): I have to admit I was surprised she didn't jump at it when I first mentioned it years ago. Wouldn't any woman, at least any horny woman, love to be with two guys at once?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2012): Tisha - I have brought it up when she is sober...she doesn't' get as serious about it when sober..kind of jokes o0r blows it off.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (9 March 2012):
 You'd have to talk to your wife about it when she's sober. Is there any reason you can't do that?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (8 March 2012):
 You're not out of line. Its your life and your sexuality. You're entitled to want whatever you do, and if your wife is OK with it then who's to judge.
How to make it happen? You talk real serious with your wife about it and then figure out a plan together on how to make it happen.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): Tisha - if she was into it sober what would you think...or a just a little buzzed.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 March 2012):
The fantasy isn't out of line. The getting her drunk and trying to do it is.
Sounds to me like the wrong head is doing the thinking for you right now.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2012):
 If you did it while she was drunk you would betray her trust and you would be letting her down in terms of the vows you took to love honor and protect her....
you decide if turning this hot fantasy into a nightmare that could potentially end your marriage is worth it. IF it is then go for it... and suffer the consequences as they fall.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): You are probably right. But it does sound like I could probably get her to do it while she's drunk, huh?!?
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2012):
you can't base it on what she says or does when she is drunk...
I am telling you from personal experience this is one thing better left a fantasy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): I have talked to her about it... she humors me, sometimes seems serious... it's not like she doesn't know I'm into it.
And yes, when she's drunk she seems very serious about it, haha.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (8 March 2012):
 It's a stupid idea, and you'll be wise to erase it from your mind.
It's OK for YOU to have that fantasy... and keep it in your head..... but don't let it slip out of your mouth....
Good luck...
P.S. Isn't alcohol just the greatest for getting women to blab?????
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2012):
Don't do it.
Yes you are very much out of line for wanting this.
have you talked to you wife about it????
where would you find the guy? craig's list? hire a male escort? a stranger off the street? your best friend?
NO NOT a good idea at all.
I had an open marriage... we both wanted to have sex with others... it was the death of the marriage. now i am with a man (who I met while married) and trust me there is NO sharing going on in this relationship.
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