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writes:Ok so my boyfriend and I are 17 and have been going out now for about 5 months and this is our first relationship. He says he just wants it to be comfortable for me and he will be happy which is very sweet but i'm just curious. How far do most 17 year olds go in that time span on average I guess? Honestly I am very comfortable with him and we love each other very much. I just want an idea of what he might expect by now. Reply to this Question
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reader, Glacier  +, writes (19 March 2012):
Big chance he's ready for more but waits until you are. This is a good thing. This tells you he really cares about you.
You ask yourself the question if you feel ready for it.
Whatever the answer is, tell him anyway. Communication is important.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you so much for your input :) it means alot.
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (18 March 2012):
 I got 1/2-way between 2nd and 3rd bases before Susan Murphy told me to stop.....
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (18 March 2012):
 The only one who can tell you what he 'expects' is him. So ask, if you are curious.
By the same token, YOUR expectations are equally valid and equally important. If you aren't ready to do something, you aren't ready. There's no need to rush into a situation you aren't fully prepared to handle yet. So saying 'not now' or 'not yet' is a perfectly legitimate expression of where YOU are.
There will be 17 year olds who have sexual intercourse, there will be 17 year olds who do nothing more than kiss. It's an individual choice and you are not being judged and you do not need to follow some imaginary dating time scale.
It's up to you, you see. I want to wave a magic wand and empower all the young women who are feeling pressure to do something they are not ready for into being able to say 'no,' and feel good about that. You can say, 'I'm not ready.' It's okay.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (18 March 2012):
 Ask him. IF he hasn't put any pressure on your by now I think he is fine with how it is (for now) but the best way to find out what expectations he has is to ask him point blank.
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