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writes:i have been dating my gf for 1 year and 3 months now. the sex is great...at least for my part. im worried that she might not be liking it. she tells me that she has an orgasm but im not really sure. how can i tell if she does or not? plus another thing is i have premature ejaculation. i tried the kegal method or whatever and it hasnt helped me at all.. is their anymore tips? Thank you
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2012): If you perform oral, one thing you can try is putting the tip of your tongue right at the entrance to her vagina when she appears to be having an orgasm. If you feel the opening contracting rythmically, I'd say the odds are very high she's not faking it. And, she might really like the sensation of having the tip of your tongue moving around right there as well.Also, sometimes you feel a woman's vagina contracting and squeezing your penis when she has an orgasm. Sometimes it feels like she's pushing you out. But, this seems to be a somewhat unreliable indicator because you often can't feel it. Restated, if you feel squeezing and the other signs such as heavy breathing tilting head back with eyes closed are also present at the same time, odds are good she's having an orgasm. But, if you don't feel anything even though other signs are present, it doesn't mean she's not having an orgasm.To a certain extent, you just have to believe her. If she's not actually enjoying it but she tells you she is, then there's not really a lot you can do about it. She has primary responsiblity for communicating to you what she likes or doesn't like, etc. One caveat, though, is that you can't expect a woman to tell you she doesn't like something if you've made it clear you would take it personally, get upset by it, etc. if she did.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (8 March 2012):
 If she says she's happy just believe her... I can fake an orgasm with the best of them.. I don't do it and I will tell my partner that I'm satisfied but to be honest without manual stimulation and oral stimulation most women will NOT be satisfied. Penetration is pleasant but for many women it's not the be all to end all that it it can be for men...
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (8 March 2012):
 The chances are good (3 out of 4) that she won't orgasm simply from intercourse. Her clitoris will need stimulation and that has to be done in a way that feels good to her. She may well enjoy the intercourse but doesn't know how an orgasm feels.
I think if you two trust each other enough, have her show you how she pleasures herself and that will teach you a lot about her.
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reader, xgod +, writes (8 March 2012):
 All men and women have orgasms differently. Some are loud and passionate, some happy and giddy, some laughing uncontrollably, and others showing no signs whatsoever. ALL women who orgasm have an increase in their breathing and heart rate. The abdominal muscles and vaginal area contract or spasm, and a few women ejaculate through their urethra during orgasm.You have premature ejaculation - understandable. Try using some extra lubricant during sex. It decreases sensation on your part and makes you last longer. Also, masturbate to orgasm an hour before having sex. Most men will not be able to ejaculate that quickly after doing so. For her - find out where she likes to be touched. 90% of women hate it when their men go straight for the clitoris. Some women like touching/kissing/nibbling/caressing behind their ears, along their collar bone, up and down the sternum (breastbone between the breasts - without touching the breasts or nipples), firm massaging pressure on the arches of their feet (don't tickle them) and even between the toes, along the side of their hip and chest, and all women love a great shoulder rub or neck massage. Get her comfortable, relaxed, and keep in your mind that you already orgasmed and focus on what pleases her. Going straight for her clitoris and nipples is a bad thing, unless she likes it fast and rough and gets off on torturing herself.Imagine, if you will, someone grabbing the tip of your penis and squeezing it like a water balloon, massaging your testicles without considering how sensitive they are... Be gentle, focus on the OTHER areas that turn her on.
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