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writes:I have been with this guy for 7 years, i bought a house for us to live in which went great for the first 3 years, then his parents bought him a house which he eventually moved into his kids never speak to me , he spends all holidays with his family but says he loves me and actually proposed to me. But now he lives there i live here we always end up breaking up and getting back together, until last week his daughters graduation i wasn't invited he left me in a motel room where i had to leave at 11 so i went and sat at timmies for over and hour before i had text him to ask how much longer he would be.He says he feels uncomfortable having me around his ex oh and i have also caught him on dating sites and sexual encounters, do i forget him and move on?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Yes. Why waste your time with this guy???....
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reader, BondGirl72 +, writes (19 June 2012):
 You have several good reasons why should make a clean break with him. If a man cares about you, he will want to spend as much time with you as possible. I am sorry to hear he is treating you that way. It seems to be an epidemic these days. Yes, I would make a break with him and be thankful his parents bought him a house and you do not have to deal with kicking him out. I don't intend to sound mean saying that, but sometimes that can be a real issue.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (19 June 2012):
 I think you should end it with him.
clearly you are being kept on the back burner
clearly you are not the most important thing in his life and you are being disrespected...
7 years is a good chunk of life but the last 4 have not been good for you...
yep forget it and move on...
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reader, AuntyEm  +, writes (19 June 2012):
 You been together for 7 years, first three were fine but last 4 years have not been fine.
He is keeping you at armslength from his family and looking on dating sites...
This tells me he is making plans to get you out of his life, are you going to wait to be pushed?
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2012): A big YES to forgetting him and moving on. What is there in this relationship for you? Very little.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (19 June 2012):
 I think it is time to move on. You know it too, you just need to do it. I think you'll feel some sorrow, but that will be alongside a huge sense of relief. Imagine the lightness you'll feel when you are free of his poor treatment of you, of your poor treatment of yourself for accepting such rudeness and lack of care and consideration.
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reader, jinxx +, writes (19 June 2012):
 Well, that depends.
Are you happy to spend your days going back and forth with this man? Can you live (happily) with your suspicions, and finding him on dating sites? Is it okay with you that his children never speak to you?
Personally, I'd let him go and move forward. It just seems as though he hasn't really tried to integrate you into his life. That, and he seems to be looking for a little something on the side.
You deserve better! You should be welcomed into a family, not purposely left on the sidelines because he's not comfortable with you around his ex. If he wouldn't be comfortable, why has he stayed in this relationship for 7 years?
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