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writes:I am pregnant and due feb.I havent been with the dad for long.. the baby was defo a surprise.Heres my problems -I have moved in with my new partner just a mth ago.. he wont let me bring my cat which ive had for 9 yrshe wont let me find out the sex and when he was around his friends and drunk he claimed if i went and found out the sex he would leave me abd run away..He wont let me play xbox.. Not a biggie but i am on bed rest and bored outta my brainand the last and most annoying he said to me today my mum isnt allowed in the delivery room when i give birth. He said its his kid so she can wait outside. i want my mum there and told him so and he replied "well ill stay out then"What do u make of all this? Is this normal?
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (20 October 2014):
This guy sounds crazy. Why would you give up a pet for an a****le who you only know a few months, who isnt treating you right? Get out of there fast, collect your cat and please move in with family or alone. He sounds like he has issues and you will not be happy with him
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (17 October 2014):
 It doesn't sound normal to me.
You've moved in with a man you barely know because you fell pregnant.
Now you're learning that he is controlling and says nasty things when drunk.
You're on bed rest? It must be a high risk pregnancy already for you to be in bed 4 months before you are due.
Get the hell out of there, move in with your mother and your cat and play Xbox until your baby is born. Then you won't have time for Xbox or being bored because the baby will consume your time. Make sure you get the financial support from the father. But get away from him now.
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reader, KaileyLove  +, writes (17 October 2014):
 Woah! I see major red flags!This guy sounds like a bully. Why are you with him, honey?Let me tell you something, it's NOT HIS kid, he has no physical connection with this kid, by rights, it's yours, and if YOU want your mom there, then damn right your mom is going to be in that room.No, this is not normal. You need to lay down the law, if he's not going to support you, then you need to leave.He won't even let you touch his xbox?! So what happens if the baby accidentally touches the xbox? How will he react to that?Y'know, my best friend has a one year daughter and is with this creep who treats her like dirt. Like I mean that he'll start a war with her over butter (that actually happened). I'm going to give you the same advice I give her. Think of your baby. Do you want your baby to grow up in an environment where he/she thinks it's OK to treat people like that? That's not ok. You can do so much better, I am so sure of that. This guy sounds like a child himself. Do you really want to raise 2 kids?I'm not saying to hunt down the father, but, get out of that house. Otherwise, (and speaking my experience with pregnancy and abusive assholes) it's only going to get worse. Leave for your baby's sake.
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