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writes:I met my ex on a dating site about a year ago....we dated for about 4 months and broke up at the beginning of this year because he kept doting over another woman and I became tired of hearing about her.Since then, I have seen him back on the same dating website. In June this year, he sent me a message asking to chat. I ignored his message thinking he might have accidently not realised it's me. Then he sent me another one about 2 weeks ago. I was shocked he had done this twice and wondered what was going on. After two times, I think he knows well and truly it's me because of my profile and visible photos. In frustration, I sent him a message on Facebook saying; "Is this supposed to be a joke?" And I haven't had a reply from him for 2 weeks now. What do you think might be going on here? Is he trying to play games with me? Is he trying to lead me on to believe he still likes me? Does he still like me?I'm more annoyed because if he DOES want to get in contact with me, he is using the dating website! He has my mobile number, my email, my facebook name and he is talking to me through a dating website! What is going on?! Please help!
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (16 October 2014):
 Can you tell at what time the messages were sent? Maybe he'd been drinking and his filters were down and he was having a bit of a laugh?
Or he has a new girlfriend and she's trying to see if you are still a threat?
Just block him and don't bother trying to decipher his motives. It's probably something really stupid.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 October 2014): I would just block him.
He likes the thought that someone out there is thinking about him so he makes sure to say the odd word here and there to keep you interested.
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reader, RubyBirtle  +, writes (16 October 2014):
If his message came from the dating site and sounded quite "generic", then it's quite possible that he didin't realise it was you. Or it could be that his settings on the dating site automatically send messages to women who are matches.A similar thing happened to me once with a dating site. I conversed with a guy for a while but we decided it wasn't going to happen but I still kept getting the odd message from him as if we'd never had that conversation, especially if I hadn't used the site in a while (and my payments had lapsed) or I'd altered my profile. It wasn't much later that I realised that "premium members" (which this guy was) could use an automatic message sending service. This guys settings meant that whenever a new female profile was added to the site within 50 miles of his location, his account would send her a message.Just ignore him.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (16 October 2014):
 He had all these other kind of means to contact you, e-mail, phone/text and FB and he CHOSE the message system on the dating site? (OR he no longer has your phone number/e-mail) and he didn't THINK to use the FB.
My guess is, he WANTS you to have him in you head when you get on the dating site, that way, maybe YOU won't be looking for another guy.
Does he still like you? Hard to say. Maybe he didn't like getting dumped (no matter the reason) Maybe he is hoping you have forgotten what he did, or maybe he is hoping he can worm his way back into your attention and affections.
Honestly, I'd block him. On Facebook and the dating site. You are not friends and you do NOT have to keep contact, not you have to leave the door open if you already know he wasn't a good BF before.
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reader, Staceily +, writes (16 October 2014):
 It seems like he is trying to get in touch with you again in a cutesy way. I don't think this means he likes or dislikes you, not something so serious and defined as that. I think he wants to talk, possibly go out sometime, and he thought messaging through the dating site is less personal than finding your number or seeking you out on Facebook. If you are both on the dating site he probably doesn't see any harm in chatting you up again on there. Your Facebook messages asking him if this is some kind of joke will probably have him back off now. He would likely take that message and the fact you haven't responded back to his dating site messages as you are not interested.
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