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writes:I really like my teacher and it's really hard when I'm in her classes, but I know I can't say anything I'm not stupid. I told one close friends but she just seems to get really awkward when I talk about it. I wanted to tell a teacher but I don't want them to take me out of my science group where I'm with all my friends, but I really need to tell someone to get it out of my system really need some help. who should I tell? how can I stop worrying about it?how can I concentrate in lessons?
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reader, Honeypie  +, writes (12 December 2013):
 I think both CMMP and Tisha are spot on.
YOU are not the first, or the ONLY student to have a crush on your teacher. It's kind of normal.
Bringing it up with your friends can make THEM uncomfortable because it's a teacher. AND it's a woman. Which could make it less "OK" in their eyes.
IF you REALLY have to talk to someone (not really sure why you have that urge, but then again you are 16/17, so things that really aren't a big deal, FEELS like they are.) Then TALK to your mom or a counselor at school.
By telling someone, what you think you will achieve? You think the crush will go away? Or that other will STILL accept you even with the crush? or that the crush will reciprocate?
Having a crush isn't ABOUT love.It's about lust and sometimes it's about worshiping a person, having a kind of one-sided "relationship". It's also kind of unrealistic.
You know she is a PERSON, but you don't REALLY know her. You know her as your TEACHER. Someone to look up to and admire and THAT is good. A teacher can be a GREAT role-model, but you need to try and take the "attraction" out of the equation. You are making her into a fantasy character, so to speak. And she is out of bounds, and out of reach for a student. Also if he she she would possible feel awkward and interact less with you and hold back on caring for her students.
Try and look at her as a role-model. Not a crush.
It will pass and you WILL have MANY more crushes on people who are unobtainable. How YOU deal with it is what matters.
We all have fantasies (of various kinds) but that doesn't MEAN we HAVE to try and carry them into reality. Some are just GREAT staying fantasies.
Last but not least, there is nothing wrong in having a crush, but stay grounded in reality.
Personally, I enjoy a good crush now and then. Sometimes it's an author (not how she/he look or acts) but HOW she/he writes - I get almost obsessed and will read ALL his/her books. Sometimes it's an actor. In reality I understand though that it's JUST a crush. It's admiration on overload.
Chin up.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 December 2013):
 It took me a long time after being a teenager to understand that my parents totally had my back. They loved me and wanted the best for me.
I would tell your Mum. Be honest and this may wind up being a really great learning experience.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 December 2013):
Why do you need to tell anyone? Just deal with it and when you are done with the class you'll get over it.
95% of high schoolers have a crush on a teacher at some time. This isn't a major thing that needs to be dealt with, it's just part of growing up.
If you must talk in person try a counselor but don't name the teacher.
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